Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

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i'm not talking about relationships where they're already dating but decide to continue dating when they go to different colleges but relationships where the people meet over the internet and decide to date each other. i've known many people who've done ldrs and literally none of them worked out. i believe ldrs can't work because it's close to impossible to get to know someone enough to love them without meeting them, you have to trust them not to cuck you, and there's always going a perception of each other that isn't how they actually are in real life. the worst seem to be when the people actually do meet up in person as i assume each other's exceptions of seeing them in person aren't as amazing as they thought it would be.
 
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When I was in my teens and Myspace was all the rage, I met a number of girls who after awhile we agreed to go out even though all of our communication was either online or through phone conversation.

To make a long story short, while I did have fun and end up meeting some of them in person, for me it could only last so long because we never truly knew each other on a personal level and it got old quick; which led to us breaking up.

If you can meet someone online and they're awesome and it works... Great! All types of relationships are challenging but I think if you're dating someone it helps if you two are able to socialize in person so you two are able to get know each more personally and have more fun together. Over time it's tiring because you can only do so much communicating with a significant other only by phone or email.
 
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My irl friend met a guy on Omegle from the opposite side of Canada. They knew each other for like 2 years, she moved there, took him back with her and right now they're living happy together.

As for myself the farthest distance I've dated someone is an hour away. Those didn't work out for reasons I obviously do not want to share.
 
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I have experienced one long distance relationship due to her moving away. And it was fucking boring to say the least and I quickly ended it.

I think that Long distance can work if you are in a solid relationship on some solid ground. However to keep things alive you would need to have somewhat frequent interaction otherwise you will just get bored and find something closer and it should be relatively straightforward and easy to commute to the other person if needed.

I'm also under the opinion that meeting someone online and forming an emotional bond is pretty fucking stupid as it could be a long time before you could potentially meet them and when you do, you might be very surprised at what you find out. Keep it face to face when meeting women and men. Dating apps are fucking shit too.
 
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It really depends on the people involved. I had a long distance relationship myself a few years back and I could handle it but she couldn't. We met online and she broke it off a few months. I'm not saying I wouldn't try it again, but I'd much prefer to have a "close distance, relationship as it were.
 
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99% of the time no. The majority end. Both couples end up cheating on each other, talking less and in the end just move on with their lives. There are a few that work out but those are far and few between and are the exceptions, not the rule.
 
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i'm not talking about relationships where they're already dating but decide to continue dating when they go to different colleges but relationships where the people meet over the internet and decide to date each other. i've known many people who've done ldrs and literally none of them worked out. i believe ldrs can't work because it's close to impossible to get to know someone enough to love them without meeting them, you have to trust them not to cuck you, and there's always going a perception of each other that isn't how they actually are in real life. the worst seem to be when the people actually do meet up in person as i assume each other's exceptions of seeing them in person aren't as amazing as they thought it would be.
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literally sleeping in different beds cause sore relationships in couples forget different cities or states
 
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Friend of mine made it work with the girl he met online. The key to their success was that up until the day they actually met each other they were never actually in a relationship together officially. They talked on the phone every day, they texted all day usually, and they would Skype with each other when they could, but when it came to their actual relationship status they technically weren't in a relationship and therefore there was no relationship to stress. The way he put it is she was living on the other side of the country and there was no way he could honestly expect her to be 100% faithful to him when they hadn't even met so they weren't. They just showed each other how much they cared about each other on a daily basis and anything further than that they had a don't ask don't tell policy.
 
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Just like any other relationship, it depends on the people. I was able to make a LDR work. But I also know many people who tried and just couldn’t. I find that a normal relationship that becomes long distance because of college or a new job or something else like that, usually fails unless it’s a seriously serious relationship because those people are used to physical contact and don’t know how to deal with anything else. If it starts long distance, and eventually the two get together and are able to hit it off in person too, and once you get past the very first in person meeting, if there is then a second meeting, and third, you’re going to be fine. The first meeting makes or breaks you, because physical intimacy and mutual attraction is important and sometimes someone just doesn’t click with you in that way and once you discover that a long distance friendship is the best you can hope for. But on the occasion that it does work, and the meeting goes well, I think in many ways LDRs can be much stronger than other relationships.
 
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In history they were a lot more common, with travel being so slow and people drafted into careers and military. But now it's a lot easier, when Rome drug you to war for a decade you just made due. Now we have skype so you and I can talk seeing a live moving face in different time zones.

It depends on the people really, and culture as well as population reduce the desire to do it. Not sure it's a good or bad thing that it's less common but it is.

If people want to do it, more power to them. I don't think it's unhealthy unless you allow it to be or you push yourself in one when you don't have the personality to do it.
 
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it works for lonely and desperate people until they're tipped off that they may have a chance to score with someone in real life and then they attempt to cheat on their long distance SO. Then because :autism: they completely misread the actions of the irl potential sweetheart and it ends up they are not interested in them at all, so then they end up alone with neither irl sweetheart or online sweetheart
 
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