Do you guys ever suffer from low self esteem?

Dunbar's number is going to fuck with you. Try to ask yourself who you need validation from, and why you need that validation. Then think about practical ways to get things that you want. If you approach things that way, you won't be demoralized by a propaganda hyperreality made up of billions of people, because you need to deal with the things in front of you that you can control and tangibly and demonstrably change under your own power, with tangible and demonstratable benefits to yourself.

At the very least, your suffering might be a bit more comfy.
 
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I'm sorry you're feeling low. Comparing yourself to other people is fine, within certain parameters, and so long as it doesn't mean you just sit there wishing and hoping. You have to set a baseline and a work ethic:

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not thinking about the sacrifices and other aspects those people did to achieve their success
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This is key. If you're not working and trying, then there is no point in looking at those who do as relevant.

And some people get places without working for it, but if that's not your situation, those aren't the people to pay attention to.

Look at people who work and achieve, and emulate them if you want to do the same.

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unless I actually go out and achieve something in life that makes me happy and proud.
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Well, yes, you should aspire to that. Make it a habit.

Even if the things you do are tiny in the grand scheme, it builds a general habit/approach to life. Use your tiny wins as inspiration and a foundation for greater things.
 
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No. I'm literally the greatest human being who ever lived. When you have an ego so big that it makes the Atlantic Ocean look like a swimming pool, you don't really get the whole low self-esteem bit anymore. Miss me with that gay shit.
 
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unless I actually go out and achieve something in life that makes me happy and proud.
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There ya go.
Think of what you would like to be able to say you've been doing if someone asks. Take steps toward it.

Personally I don't suffer from low self esteem, I revel in it.
No one cares what I do. <--sad
No one cares what I do. <--Heh I can get away with anything

Random tangent - If you like to read online junk a lot but don't want to admit it, once in a while read an actual book. That way if the subject comes up and someone says "Oh, what do you read?" you can answer with "I just finished reading (book)" and maybe the discussion can go from there and you don't have to admit how much time you spend here and on AO3.
 
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Don't focus on what other people are doing, focus on doing the smallest thing possible that you can do at one moment in time and just get it done. Once you've finished that small job, forget about it and go and do something else.

If you slip up or fall back into bad habits, don't wallow in the negativity, give yourself a couple slaps on the cheek, get back up and try again.
 
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Of course. I've faced setbacks and made bad decisions that have caused me to doubt myself and my abilities at times. You have to find something outside of whatever's causing you to doubt yourself that will help you regain your self-esteem and confidence, it's a self-perpetuating cycle.

Volunteering and doing charity work is a great one. You'll realize how genuinely appreciated even the smallest contributions of your time and efforts are to those in need and it gives you a good reminder there are many people much worse off than you are or will be, which helps to keep things in perspective.
 
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