Expressing anger through violence - Aka when is it ok to tard rage and punch holes in the wall

[AMHOLIO]

I don't have an answer myself, I think it's an understandable reaction in the most extreme situations as long as you're not hurting others. It isn't ok as it can still suck leading to property damage. I consider revenge rampages for vigilante justice different as I'm more thinking of frustration and anger at situations that were NOT violent in the first place.

Venting by yelling into the woods and throwing rocks into ponds is pretty understandable. Maybe can be healthy but I'm not a therapist. What are your thoughts, Kiwis?

 

[Crysocyan]

I don't think that's how we are supposed to express our frustrations to God. Follow the examples of Jacob, Job and Habakkuk instead.

 

[Chocolate Wombat]

It's probably not a good idea to punch a hole in a wall. To you it might feel like a release of pent up frustration but to the person you're angry with it comes across as threatening. It's like saying "this is what I'd like to do to your face" even if you don't mean it that way.

At least that's what I've been told after having punched a few holes in some walls.

 

[Dialtone]

 

[Meat Target]

Buy a punching bag.

 

[Vingle]

Buy a punching bag.

So buying an escort?

 

[greenthrowaway]

People, especially men, need a physical outlet. If you aren’t going to the gym or playing sports it will come out in an unhealthy way. Wanting to exert force is good, punching your wall isn’t.

 

[Beef Void]

I had never found myself wanting to hit and break stuff until I had the first real tragedy in my life, now whenever I have recollections of the shit I saw, I end up wanting to get violent. I think it's a very bad habit to get into and that letting yourself act out like that only leads to doing the same thing for more petty reasons. What started as punching objects could become punching or at least screaming at the people you care about.

I know men and women can both get violent, but as a guy myself, I think men hold a particularly high responsibility to not lash out, both physically and verbally. Men who act like that should get real flak and be shamed.

 

[Trump's Chosen]

I had never found myself wanting to hit and break stuff until I had the first real tragedy in my life, now whenever I have recollections of the shit I saw, I end up wanting to get violent. I think it's a very bad habit to get into and that letting yourself act out like that only leads to doing the same thing for more petty reasons. What started as punching objects could become punching or at least screaming at the people you care about.

I know men and women can both get violent, but as a guy myself, I think men hold a particularly high responsibility to not lash out, both physically and verbally. Men who act like that should get real flak and be shamed.

Nah men should listen to their feelings. What could possibly go wrong?

 

[byuu]

Have you tried being less autistic instead?

 

[Ultrapenguin]

This is why contact sports are good for males, because it teaches them selective application of violence. If you get angry and spaz out while on the field/mat/ring, you're going to lose and people will probably see it as embarrassing that you have no self control, and on teams your teammates and coaches will be annoyed because it makes you all look shitty.

Violence is a tool for accomplishing things, not a means of working out your emotions.

 

[Meat Target]

Nah men should listen to their feelings. What could possibly go wrong?

This is why no-homo male friendships are important. Men need their bro-time. Iron sharpens iron.

There's nothing gay or effeminate about men having serious talk with each other. Bottling it up only leads to more stress, misunderstandings, and in some cases, more severe chimping out.

 

[AMHOLIO]

I'm enjoying this. I don't have the testosterone urge myself so reading this all is nice and healthy for my penised chaps so far.

 

[misterduckford]

Hey man, ya know, I'm really ok

 

[AgendaPoster]

If you destroy your things out of anger you're a mental midget that's a slave to his emotions.
Anger is good though. But channel into something constructive, like changing society around you to fit YOU best.
best of luck!

 

[misterduckford]

If you destroy your things out of anger you're a mental midget that's a slave to his emotions.
Anger is good though. But channel into something constructive, like changing society around you to fit YOU best.
best of luck!

Like using passive aggressive, non-violent methods to make life harder for women and minorities. I like the way you think.

 

[AgendaPoster]

Like using passive aggressive, non-violent methods to make life harder for women and minorities. I like the way you think.

Now now, let's not use such loaded messaging!
I prefer a more euphemistic approach, like, umm, "creating the necessary conditions for integration and assimilation of minorities and rebuilding the needed bridges between women and men".

 

[Moja Zemlja]

I remember hearing years ago when I was a kid about some study that found that punching stuff in anger to vent the rage conditions you to do it more often as an effective form of stress relief so in the long term you end up doing it more often, could've been a load of made up shit told to people so they wouldn't sperg out but it sounds reasonable enough.

 

[AMHOLIO]

I remember hearing years ago when I was a kid about some study that found that punching stuff in anger to vent the rage conditions you to do it more often as an effective form of stress relief so in the long term you end up doing it more often, could've been a load of made up shit told to people so they wouldn't sperg out but it sounds reasonable enough.

I heard that too and I can believe it. It's how fat people become fat (using food to emotionally comfort the self and getting a positive response from the endorphins it gives you). It's at least better not to tard rage in general.

 

[SofondaCox]

My only thought on this is the power of precedent. Anything you do, you are likely to repeat. Better to create an outlet for rage that doesn't cost you money or reputation.