I'm comfortable being a man. Masculinity is a difficult concept for me to define. It's funny, because I am male through and through, but I'm asked what it means and I'm drawing a blank. I actually rewrote and edited this post several times to get something that I was satisfied with. The best definition I could think of is making sure you can be counted on. My dad, me, and my brother up until a few years ago worked the family business to support ourselves and the family, even my sister who tried moving far away for college and tried getting a job ended up relying on us on occasion. So to me, being a man is less about appearance but about making sure that those who rely on you can count on you. I had originally written down that work was manly, and I do think it is, but I feel that it can be covered under being reliable.
Though my definition is pretty old and traditional, and influenced by a vocation overwhelmingly dominated by men but it just feels unmanly and emasculated to me if I don't do what I promised to do.