How do you deal with the thought of death? - How often?

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I have been preoccupied a lot more by the though of death recently. And it it throws me in a spiral. I don't know how to face it.

It always scared me, but now it feels almost like its imminent. I feel old, and I feel looking back that time is going faster, I see my body slowing down.

I am so scared of dying. I cannot express it to even myself. It's just a pit in my stomach every time I try to even try to think of what it would be like to not be. It's like I am feeling the vertigo from sinking into the earth below me.

I wish there was something beyond, but I can't bring myself to believe it.

The thought that the end will be the end of everything that is me. It's just so disturbing. It makes everything so worthless and so valuable at the same time.
 
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It makes everything so worthless and so valuable at the same time.
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First of all this is very beautiful and true, nicely put.

Second, this is one of the big things that pushed me towards faith, somewhat recently. I lost someone and it hit me all at once that if there is no justice at the end of it all, if I will never see my loved ones ever again, then the world really is dark and cruel and I do not want to live in it. And I realized I’d flirt with suicide for the rest of my life if I really believed that. And that can’t be right, can it? So maybe it follows that there’s hope after all. I was an edgy atheist for a long time so I recognized that this was an irrational thing, but there it was. I wish I could take this comfort and transplant it into you. It’s the way the world is and it really will be alright.

I feel weird being serious in Q&A but I guess I’m just feeling serious today.
 
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Guess it depends on your age and health since that changes a lot on how you view these things.

I’m turning 30 and despite some very close calls that could have killed me I feel kind of ready for it when it is about to come. I’m not suicidal and am actually optimistic about the coming years considering some of the bad circumstances I’m working myself out/away from.

“Now comes smooth sailing” was one of Thoreau’s supposed last statements and I try to feel that way. Once you’re gone, any of your personal ambitions, struggles and hardships cease to have any weight for you as a person if coming from a purely physical viewpoint.
 
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I know how you feel.

However I'm a bit crazy, so for me when the time comes I shall confront it with strength, and after that, who knows, I may be capable enough to persevere. This goes against a materialistic perspective, but I don't care.

For as long as I live, I shall take care of my body to the best of my ability, to not sink in pointless despair, and to try to achieve happiness and beauty, through my own strength & character.
 
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my view is to just accept it as a fact of life. im scared of death, but i manage it by just accepting that everything which lives also dies, just a rule of the universe. i find it is a bit of a comfort to think how i share that same fate with literally all living beings. i also tend to think of all the people who are already dead and how the universe keeps going and the world keeps spinning even though million upon millions of people are dead already and it will keep going on when i become one of those.

the way i handle the end of me is to just realize that once i die, i wont care it is the end of me. once im dead will it really matter that im no longer around? ill be dead so of course it wont.
the only thing that really makes me pause is the thought of how much i wanted to do with life that i may never even get to do a fraction of by the time i die, and this sucks.

cant imagine any of this will help anyone without the same type of tism as i have, but this is how i think of death.
 
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Don't fuckin think about it. Ya can't stop it or really do anything to stop it outside of not running out into traffic, so what's the point?

There's this scene in one of Woody Allen's movies where it's two train cars full of people both going to the same place. One's full of miserable people waiting out the clock and the other is full of people enjoying themselves. Basically, don't be in the train car with the Jewish pedo.

 
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Neo-Nazi Rich Evans said:
my view is to just accept it as a fact of life. im scared of death, but i manage it by just accepting that everything which lives also dies, just a rule of the universe. i find it is a bit of a comfort to think how i share that same fate with literally all living beings. i also tend to think of all the people who are already dead and how the universe keeps going and the world keeps spinning even though million upon millions of people are dead already and it will keep going on when i become one of those.

the way i handle the end of me is to just realize that once i die, i wont care it is the end of me. once im dead will it really matter that im no longer around? ill be dead so of course it wont.
the only thing that really makes me pause is the thought of how much i wanted to do with life that i may never even get to do a fraction of by the time i die, and this sucks.

cant imagine any of this will help anyone without the same type of tism as i have, but this is how i think of death.
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I can kind of see where you are coming from.

But the idea of not existing is paralyzing to me. I understand that's the way it's supposed to be. But it's a tall order.

Not existing is a very difficult concept for me to grasp. For anyone I think.
 
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1- Sleep is good. Death is just sleep but an extra long one.

2- Think "reincarnation" is impossible? Remember at one time there was no life on Earth at all. Life came out of material that was non-living. It happened before, it could happen again. So I wouldn't rule out another lifetime completely.

So think of death as a nice long sleep where we might wake up in 100,000 years as a cockroach or something.
 
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It’s Such a Beautiful Day ending
(Goes over the idea of never dying)

I’ll also say certain drugs can greatly alter how one views death long after their initial usage. Psilocybin at high doses can very much give a sense of a different life and dimension; lessening one’s attachment to this particular conscious reality.

Nitrous Oxide at very high amounts (never use a mask you run a very legitimate risk of asphyxiation) can kind of do the opposite and give a sense of a peaceful nothing. A nothing in which things are simply done and struggles concluded.
 
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Agreeably4263 said:
The only answer I could find to the problem of the existential crisis was Jesus Christ. Serious answer
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Aren't you afraid of dying? You believe there's an afterlife, Heaven, right? So even if you die, you'll go to a place full of bliss where nobody has to suffer. But what if there is no Heaven? What should we do, then?
 
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My theory of death is an interesting one. As it appears to be the final frontier, it appears more to me as life as we know it, we allow ourselves to be put in a realm where it's possible to suffer in the worst way but also a realm where we can figure things out on our own or by the aid of other people. So death might be just the beginning stages of something even bigger. Maybe when we die, we can have a better understanding of how things work and live in peace, or death may just be the next chapter in trials and tribulations.
 
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I've been getting it more recently too, and I've heard others bring it up. It's strange how phases like this can trend across people who otherwise have no direct connection.

Unfortunately, what can you do other than observe basic healthy behaviors and not think too much about it? At least personally it's not so much that my awareness of dying ever changes, it's just that the level to which I'm ok with it fluctuates.

Still the reality is that dying isn't going to happen today, a lot of the ruminating over death stuff is free floating anxiety and as time goes by and you get older you may find you have the leeway to relinquish some of your attachment and come to peace with it. It's tough because modern existence is pretty anxiety inducing and it strongly encourages a level of obsession over worldly things in order to fit in, but ultimately that's not the correct perspective: life is an illusion and the distinction doesn't really exist.

Again though it's not happening today, probably not for quite a while; just breath and loosen up.
 
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