How to get support IRL on how to fix your life and job situation?

[GumballFapper]

I have been a shut-in for a long time now and this means no connection with the rest of the society and the job market. However I will need real human advice on how to fix everything. Where is the best way to get IRL advice?

 

[Syzyg]

Reconcile with your parents and stop hating women.

 

[Jewthulhu]

Maybe start by not jerking off for 2 hours a day (every day) to shemale furry porn.

 

[Richard_Wetpasta]

Start with a singular thing, you're not going to dismantle the wall all at once, you're going to start one block at a time. When you finish that move on to another singular thing, repeat this until you find methods to move more and more at once. Everything is a lot broader of a subject than anything.

Your brain thinks singularly at a time, and if you bundle everything wrong into "everything," everything becomes a much more insurmountable singular thing to fix.

 

[GumballFapper]

Reconcile with your parents

My parents are useless

Maybe start by not jerking off for 2 hours a day (every day) to shemale furry porn.

Let's say OK, 2 more free hours in the day. What should I do with it?

 

[Spiny Rumples]

Let's say OK, 2 more free hours in the day. What should I do with it?

A. 30 minutes on your meta (read Atomic Habits, watch Huberman Lab, or any of the pile of self-help stuff out there.
B. 30 minutes on your dailies (shower, clean teeth, whatever keeps you approachable).
C. 1 hour (1-3 days per week) on a social exercise thing. Examples include partner dancing, rock climbing, community gardens, and running groups.
D. 1 hour (remaining days) study work skills and apply for jobs.

A. Learn how to learn and improve more reliably.
B. Reduce anxiety and increase relaxation in those around you.
C. Get a feel for how your body moves and maybe get casual supportive bonds. Do something you actually enjoy though or it'll be a buzzkill.
D. You mentioned wanting a job. These days, it's either grinding or knowing someone who can get you a job. B and C will help if you get to an interview step.

 

[CallmeCicada]

Maybe start by not jerking off for 2 hours a day (every day) to shemale furry porn.
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This.

Also.

 

[Calandrino]

You need structure. Join a cult.

 

[Character from a movie]

Kill yourself.

 

[Neodanthril]

Honestly and truly accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior and find a good church

 

[Penis Drager 2.0]

Find a hobby or community that involves getting out of the house. Church isn't a terrible idea. But neither is some gay fanclub or whatever. Just any excuse to be around and talk to real life people.
Try your best to be normal and pleasant to be around. Don't whine about your situation but also don't lie about it if it comes up. Most people will be happy to help if it doesn't require time or money on their part.

 

[C. G. B. Spender]

Try your best to be normal and pleasant to be around. Don't whine about your situation but also don't lie about it if it comes up. Most people will be happy to help if it doesn't require time or money on their part.

Also gotta keep in mind that average people are not your therapy sessions, cant just dump that shit to people randomly. There's a time and place for everything and its not when people are trying to have fun.

 

[Penis Drager 2.0]

Also gotta keep in mind that average people are not your therapy sessions, cant just dump that shit to people randomly. There's a time and place for everything and its not when people are trying to have fun.

Yeah. Don't whine about your situation.
What I mean by "if it comes up" is if someone asks what you do for work, there's nothing wrong with saying "unfortunately I'm kinda between jobs at the moment. Been looking but you know how the market is right now" or whatever OP's problem happens to be.
If someone in the room happens to have some leads, they'll probably speak up.

 

[Poppavalyim Andropoff]

you can act like a man!

 

[Devout Muslim]

go to monastery

but also if this is real Jordan Peterson’s whole shtick if for guys like you. Make your bed. Wash behind your foreskin. Etc.

 

[Moths]

Get a low tier job that gives you a marginal amount of authority over people like a parking garage guy and use it to lord over people to compensate for your shortcomings

 

[MadStan]

I just read the last 3 pages of your most recent comments. Do us all a favor and don’t try and reconnect with society - you’ll be rejected because you are actually an asshole of a person and ought to remain a shut-in.

 

[eatler]

Lobotomize yourself then you can think like the average brain rotten Tik Toker aka 90% of America right now.

 

[Daddy's Angry Juice]

I mean this in the best possible way, get a job.
You're problems probably stem from you trying to be an island, but when you are in the workforce, you have to interact with other people.
Now when you get that job, don't just be a loner, say "good morning" to your co-workers, be polite. Ask them questions about themselves, nothing complicated, just simple shit: "where are you from" "what are your interests" "how do you like it here". You will be surprised at how relatable people can be when you open up a little.

 

[YHWH's Strongest Soldier]

Immediately stop wasting time on this forum and apply for a job. Shave and take a shower. Buy a white shirt, navy trousers and the cheapest black oxfords you can. Go to the interview and don't sperg about women or the jews. Once you have a job, you will be forced to interact with somewhat normal people who will bully the autism out of you.