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I am just curious if any Kiwis have children
Whats it like having a child?
Whats it like having a child?
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You should beckon some of our parent Kiwis.
Since I'm kinda curious myself:
@The Dude
@Surtur
@Lady Houligan
Those are the only ones I know of
I'm sure there are others though!
Since I'm kinda curious myself:
@The Dude
@Surtur
@Lady Houligan
Those are the only ones I know of
I'm sure there are others though!
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I just want to know what to expect when I have a baby
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I have a nephew that I have raised since he was baby, it's a really great experience but it can be tiring and annoying at times, but that's pretty much what all parents will tell you, it's great to have someone to learn from you and depend on you.
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I was 13 when my sister was born so I remember a bit. Your definition of "slept like a baby" will be changed forever. Expect lots of sleepless nights. Don't yell at your spouse because they're going through it too. Try to get them to like vegetables - keep them away from idiotic TV shows where the kids hate vegetables and that's treated as a cool thing, especially.
And don't laugh off their fantasies. They're just fantasies, and your kids are going to have them whether you like it or not. Let them indulge a little while they're still kids. The worst thing you can do is to crush their imagination because it seriously doesn't work and they'll grow up either rebellious and imaginative or hating themselves. This might be limited to fundamentalist Christian environments, but trying to lock out all mention of Harry Potter or magic is likely to backfire in spectacular fashion. For example, I discovered I really liked writing fantasy stuff after all and then I met my boyfriend through that.
But if your kid's a dude and he likes ponies, slap the shit out of him fast or he'll grow up to be autistic. Get him introduced to cooler animals, like wolves. Especially marine wolves.
And don't laugh off their fantasies. They're just fantasies, and your kids are going to have them whether you like it or not. Let them indulge a little while they're still kids. The worst thing you can do is to crush their imagination because it seriously doesn't work and they'll grow up either rebellious and imaginative or hating themselves. This might be limited to fundamentalist Christian environments, but trying to lock out all mention of Harry Potter or magic is likely to backfire in spectacular fashion. For example, I discovered I really liked writing fantasy stuff after all and then I met my boyfriend through that.
But if your kid's a dude and he likes ponies, slap the shit out of him fast or he'll grow up to be autistic. Get him introduced to cooler animals, like wolves. Especially marine wolves.
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I never see my kid. My job requires weeks of international travel every year. The local rat race began at 18 months and it keeps him in school until late. From my perspective its been like having a really smart pet you can't get rid of.
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My son lives with his mom and her husband. Me and my ex were always very honest with him about what happened.
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I have a stepkid. It's rewarding, but challenging as all hell. Regarding the absent parent thing, be honest with them, and don't try to bias their thinking with regards to said absent parent: they'll reach their own conclusions anyway. Kids aren't stupid: they can see who has been there for them and who hasn't. Mine doesn't call me 'Dad', but has openly acknowledged that I'm more of a father than the actual father is.
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Like @Unbovvered I became a brother at around age 13 and from watching my parents raise him as well as helping to raise him myself, the best advice i can give is don't have kids.
I'm sure I'm just a heartless bastard but like, little kids are fuckin faggots. Lots of people say how "rewarding" raising a child is but in my experience it's just been a series of constant annoyances. I'm sure people who say they love their children are usually being sincere, but it's definitely not for everyone.
I do hope he turns out well and I'd go out of my way to help him if he was in danger, in the same way that I'd want any random child to turn out well and would try to help any of them. I care about children as a group but can't find it in me to give much of a shit about any of them individually.
Of course I'm just talking as a much older sibling not as a parent, i wouldn't necessarily feel the same way with a kid of my own.
Also if you do have a kid you should adopt instead of ruining your body and contributing to overpopulation.
I'm sure I'm just a heartless bastard but like, little kids are fuckin faggots. Lots of people say how "rewarding" raising a child is but in my experience it's just been a series of constant annoyances. I'm sure people who say they love their children are usually being sincere, but it's definitely not for everyone.
I do hope he turns out well and I'd go out of my way to help him if he was in danger, in the same way that I'd want any random child to turn out well and would try to help any of them. I care about children as a group but can't find it in me to give much of a shit about any of them individually.
Of course I'm just talking as a much older sibling not as a parent, i wouldn't necessarily feel the same way with a kid of my own.
Also if you do have a kid you should adopt instead of ruining your body and contributing to overpopulation.
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I love being a Dad, though it has been the hardest job of my life. But it's been a real pleasure seeing Little Dude grow up. We've been struggling to keep his temper under control, and it looks like it will be a constant thing moving forward. I just don't want him to be a bully. I was bullied my whole childhood and I don't want my son hurting other kids' feelings.
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We are looking to adopt now and had the first talk about it tonight. I would love to get a child from anywhere, any race, but I am partial to girls from the Ukraine. Anyone gone through the adoption process? I know it can be a pretty penny, but that's fine. As long as it is under $100k we will be fine, I just need to make this happen for her.
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I don't have many parenting experience myself. But my sister has been one for over ten years now. From what I've heard, my oldest nephew seems to harbor feelings of resentment towards his mom (my sister) over the divorce. It doesn't help that
A. The dad is a pathological liar and says bad things about his mom to him. He cheated on her and was never honest with anyone in our family.
B. My sister is in a serious relationship with another man and there's talk of marriage on the table.
My mom told me about this and asked me if I could ever talk to him about all this and try to tell him how much his mom loves him and how much she does for him. Considering how much he looks up to me.
Personally, as much as I love my nephews, I feel like this is territory I shouldn't be crossing into. I feel that this is something he needs to figure out with his parents and only his parents. If I try to tell him how he should feel about this, I would feel like I'm manipulating him. And that's not fair to him.
My younger nephew on the other hand seems to be taking all of this just fine. At least, that's what it seems like from the outside, who knows how he actually feels about the situation.
All I can take from this is, if I ever become a parent, I need to be honest to my kids and not try to manipulate them against their mother. (Barring some extreme circumstances)
A. The dad is a pathological liar and says bad things about his mom to him. He cheated on her and was never honest with anyone in our family.
B. My sister is in a serious relationship with another man and there's talk of marriage on the table.
My mom told me about this and asked me if I could ever talk to him about all this and try to tell him how much his mom loves him and how much she does for him. Considering how much he looks up to me.
Personally, as much as I love my nephews, I feel like this is territory I shouldn't be crossing into. I feel that this is something he needs to figure out with his parents and only his parents. If I try to tell him how he should feel about this, I would feel like I'm manipulating him. And that's not fair to him.
My younger nephew on the other hand seems to be taking all of this just fine. At least, that's what it seems like from the outside, who knows how he actually feels about the situation.
All I can take from this is, if I ever become a parent, I need to be honest to my kids and not try to manipulate them against their mother. (Barring some extreme circumstances)
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Best thing I ever did, and would do it again in a heartbeat.
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I'm another person whose parents had another kid when I was in my teens. She's exceptionally cheerful and friendly though and very cute, so honestly my fondness for children has increased since they had her. I think she came at the right time because when she was born I was a pretty lonely kid, and she gave me someone to care about. I was a role model for her, she was affectionate to me, and she didn't see how uncool I was to my peers.
I do think my parents make a lot of mistakes when raising her that I would try to avoid myself if I had children of my own, like letting her drink soda and sugary drinks when she's a toddler and using the iPad to babysit. Of course I try to hold my tongue because I know they don't want to hear it. But in my experience with parenting, I would say don't fret too much about whether you're doing it "right" because the kids generally turn out fine as long as you're able to provide for them and your parenting style isn't extreme or abusive.
I do think my parents make a lot of mistakes when raising her that I would try to avoid myself if I had children of my own, like letting her drink soda and sugary drinks when she's a toddler and using the iPad to babysit. Of course I try to hold my tongue because I know they don't want to hear it. But in my experience with parenting, I would say don't fret too much about whether you're doing it "right" because the kids generally turn out fine as long as you're able to provide for them and your parenting style isn't extreme or abusive.
On the track Ed-ucation from 2001, Dr Dre addresses exactly that dilemma:
"TELL THE KID!
Momma was a ho, I was weekend pussy
I had you to keep the nigga, it didn't work out
That's why he ain't here - but he a good nigga
Cause he take care of his REAL family
I was just a dumb bitch, tryin to keep, a nigga that I wanted"
As a Dreologist, I believe in turning towards the comforting beats and eternal wisdom of the good Dr. in times of trouble and ethical quandaries.
Once you choose to rest your weary heart and soul at the altar of Dr. Dre, you quickly realize that the answer to any moral question, in fact the whole sum of the human experience, can be found in the gospel and albums of Dre.
Have you ever considered Dreology?
(Besides a commited Dreologist, I'm also father of two...)
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I have dabbled in Dreology but my studies led me to being a Snooptician.
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I don't have any kids myself, but I manage a number of developmentally-disabled children on runs to and from a special-needs school. They're great kids, and I could probably tell you stories for about 20 pages about the myriad wit and wisdom shown by a number of kids who refuse to let their various medical conditions get them down.
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Another sibling here who spent a large majority of 6th grade onwards babysitting 5pm-1am. It was exceedingly strenuous on me keeping a kid from crying all night about wanting their mom til they got home from work on school nights. If you're gonna have kids the biggest advice I have is to be prepared, and don't have another kid when your kids are teenaged & cash in on free babysitting. I know that sounds inspired by selfishness, but kids need an adult to raise them. In my situation at least, it got to the point where my parents stepped down way too much, & unfortunately I've ended up being a bigger caretaker than my dad & mom.
That being said, it's rewarding to raise a kid, but it's tons of work. Say goodbye to free time.
That being said, it's rewarding to raise a kid, but it's tons of work. Say goodbye to free time.
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I have two kids and it's awesome. Parenting is a rewarding and fulfilling thing for anybody to do and children can soften the heart of even the most callous bastard. Last week I shed manly tears after getting to stage fucking 3 of Streets Of Rage with my daughter who is fucking THREE god damn years old. She's that good at 3. Then we played Golden Axe and she sucked but I'll forgive her. Anyway you should have kids. There's also a lot to be said for having two small people to blame shit on. "Who ate all the grapes? I needed those for my work lunches!" "Oh sorry babe, I think the kids ate them...." "Oh that's fine, they need to eat fruit."