Polyamory

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While we have a thread for a specific Facebook group in the ADF subforum, the fact is most people in the poly movement are lolcows. Imagine the most dysfunctional couple you know and then imagine they are each dating one or two other people in equally dysfunctional relationships and they never shut up about their sex lives. Then imagine they are all fat SJWs of ambiguous gender. That's pretty much polyamory in a nutshell.

For some reason, polyamory gets linked in with SJW and feminist issues, because fucking a bunch of different people at once is obviously a very important womens social issue. Poly people will stage coming outs to friends and family and frequently write preachy articles about how being poly is great. Have you encountered any of this group of lolcows?
 
The best way to troll "polys" (I subconsciously add the word "roly" before) is ask them if they are swingers. They get all butt hurt and start blathering about how enlightened they are and blah blah blah FUCK YOU DAD! When in reality, they were the people who didn't get laid a lot during high school, because of their looks, personality, or both, and now they've found a clique of equally fucked up people and they feel like they gotta make up for lost time. There is always a lot of meltdowns because in these relationships there is one partner who really doesn't want to go along with it, and the other partner is completely oblivious to the feelings of the other, and these feelings come to a head and result in a huge drama explosion.

And this is a thing I've noticed about SJW's and sex stuff in general: They think they are so enlightened by breaking these sexual mores and taboos but they're not progressing society; they are regressing into barbarism.

I'd have a lot more respect for polys if they just admitted they are just roommates who sleep in the same bed and fuck other people, instead of all this pseudo-left wing psychobabble about love and goddesses or whatever.
 
I did the polyamory thing for a while. I would argue that everything mentioned in this thread is 100% true. Specifically, I was in an open relationship with a woman-child (as in a woman who was a grown-ass adult that was immature, not one that was underaged) that had lots of partners, but when she realized I was also dating other people she flipped shit and tried to say I wasn't allowed to. Bitch, if you get to be a slut then I get to be a slut too. And don't get me started on the preachiness. What the hell is wrong with fucking lots of people because you like to fuck? Why does there need to be justification? Fucking lots of people is its own reward.
 
My biggest issue with certain polyamorists is their holier-than-thou attitude. You like to be in multiple sexual/romantic relationships at the same time? So long as everyone involved is okay with it, cool, do your thing. You think you're better than a monogamous person just because of that? Nah, fuck off.
Like this article here: http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/new-sexual-revolution-polyamory/
Polyamorists betterer and smarterer than monogamous plebs in every way and would never ever cheat on their partners

For some reason, polyamory gets linked in with SJW and feminist issues,
People in the SJW and Tumblr scene like to hide behind a facade of being progressive, but the real reason so many of them turn to polyamory is their inability to be decent partners combined with their lack of backbone. They're too self-centered to actually care about other people but they're also too emotionally immature to deal with break-ups, so they just collect a bunch of partners in the hopes of getting the attention and love they want. It's good ol' quantity over quality.
 
Powerleveling but I did the "polyamory" thing too and it fucked me up. Basically, a bunch of double-standard bullshit where I got trampled on by my (now) ex-boyfriend and ex-friend and I became the third wheel of my own relationship. When I wanted to end it, the ex-boyfriend got all butthurt about me stopping his fun. Of course, if I wanted to hop on another dick, that was unacceptable.

If anything I'm to learn about it is to not do it again. Ever. I'm certain polyamory can work out for some folks, and if it does, go for it. But if you mix something that needs to be handled maturely with immature tumblr users, then all that's going to happen is one person is going to step out of line and ruin your relationship.

In hindsight, it did aid me getting out of a bad relationship, so there's that.
 
Polyamory works for some and doesn't work for others. It's like many other standards of living.

There's nothing inherently wrong with it, and I'm inclined to disagree that merely being in a polyamorous relationship makes you a lolcow. Arguments against polyamory typically hinge on faith-based assumptions that people were "naturally designed" for one partner, when in reality it varies from person to person as a matter of preference.
 
"I got cucked and I'm totally okay with it, guys"
http://nymag.com/thecut/2015/07/what-open-marriage-taught-one-man-about-feminism.html

As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It’s her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she’ll come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment. I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun. It’s hot because she’s excited, and I’m glad because I’m a feminist.

She didn’t present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul-searching about why the idea of my wife having sex with other men bothered me I came to a few conclusions: Monogamy meant I controlled her sexual expression, and, not to get all women’s-studies major about it, patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man’s fear that a woman with sexual agency is a woman he can’t control.

The point is that it should be women who choose, not men — even the men they’re married to. For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap. She knew how deep our love was, and knew that her wanting a variety of sexual experiences as we traveled through life together would not diminish or disrupt that love. It took me about six months — many long, intense conversations, and an ocean of red wine — before I knew it, too.

When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other lovers, she wasn’t rejecting me, she was embracing herself. When I understood that, I finally became a feminist.

Going out alone to hooking up with others was an easy transition. It does work both ways and, yes, I too enjoy sexual carte blanche. I just don’t use mine as much as my wife uses hers. What’s important is equality of opportunity, not outcome.

And when she comes home tonight and crawls into bed beside me with a hot story about her date with Paulo, she’ll do it all again, too.
 
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The issues with polyamory tend to be practical ones. While it works in theory, the practice as a whole is just infamous for turning into a clusterfuck. Fact is, managing a monogamous relationship can be challenging and time-consuming. Adding in more people just means a whole new set of insecurities, hang-ups, communication problems, and bullshit. I think it could work with a group comprised exclusively of incredibly chill people with zero insecurities, clear rules, and established independence from one another. Unfortunately, I've seen no evidence any such group exists.
Every poly person I've met lives in a state of never-ending relationship issues. Perhaps some see that as a fair price to pay for getting to sleep around, but I think most would rather not bother with the hassle.
 
Polyamory works for some and doesn't work for others. It's like many other standards of living.

There's nothing inherently wrong with it, and I'm inclined to disagree that merely being in a polyamorous relationship makes you a lolcow. Arguments against polyamory typically hinge on faith-based assumptions that people were "naturally designed" for one partner, when in reality it varies from person to person as a matter of preference.


The thing is, though, how they have the need to plaster all the details of their alternative life style all over the internet.

The people who are truly happy with poly relationships don't do that, because they are happy doing whatever.

They enter lowcow territory when they start bloviating about how happy and stable they are, like they are trying to convince themselves.
 
From Null's first post opening the Community Watch sub:
  • All groups must be Internet identities. The Westboro Baptist Church is not a valid community.

This thread has reached a full page without much of any internet-related content or screencaps, and is mostly just folks talking about their opinions of a lifestyle. That's what Off Topic and Deep Thoughts are for.
 
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