Opinion The Conservative Attack on Empathy - Jesus said some stuff about being nice. Now give all your money to poor people and open your borders.

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Five years ago, Elon Musk told Joe Rogan during a podcast taping that “the fundamental weakness of Western civilization is empathy, the empathy exploit.” By that time, the idea that people in the West are too concerned with the pain of others to adequately advocate for their own best interests was already a well-established conservative idea. Instead of thinking and acting rationally, the theory goes, they’re moved to make emotional decisions that compromise their well-being and that of their home country. In this line of thought, empathetic approaches to politics favor liberal beliefs. An apparent opposition between thought and feeling has long vexed conservatives, leading the right-wing commentator Ben Shapiro to famously declare that “facts don’t care about your feelings.”

But the current ascendancy of this anti-empathy worldview, now a regular topic in right-wing social-media posts, articles, and books, might be less a reasonable point of argumentation and more a sort of coping mechanism for conservatives confronted with the outcomes of certain Trump-administration policies—such as the nightmarish tale of a 4-year-old American child battling cancer being deported to Honduras without any medication, or a woman in ICE custody losing her mid-term pregnancy after being denied medical treatment for days. That a conservative presented with these cases might feel betrayed by their own treacherous empathy makes sense; this degree of human suffering certainly ought to prompt an empathetic response, welcome or not. Even so, it also stands to reason that rather than shifting their opinions when confronted with the realities of their party’s positions, some conservatives might instead decide that distressing emotions provoked by such cases must be a kind of mirage or trick. This is both absurd—things that make us feel bad typically do so because they are bad—and spiritually hazardous.

This is certainly true for Christians, whose faith generally counsels taking others’ suffering seriously. That’s why the New York Times best seller published late last year by the conservative commentator Allie Beth Stuckey, Toxic Empathy: How Progressives Exploit Christian Compassion, is so troubling. In her treatise packaging right-wing anti-empathy ideas for Christians, Stuckey, a Fox News veteran who recently spoke at a conference hosted by the right-wing nonprofit Turning Point USA, contends that left wingers often manipulate well-meaning believers into adopting sinful argumentative and political positions by exploiting their natural religious tendency to care for others. Charlie Kirk, the Republican activist who runs Turning Point USA, said that Stuckey has demolished “the No. 1 psychological trick of the left” with her observation that liberals wield empathy against conservatives “by employing our language, our Bible verses, our concepts” and then perverting them “to morally extort us into adopting their position.” Taken at face value, the idea that Christians are sometimes persuaded into un-Christian behavior by strong emotions is fair, and nothing new: Suspicion of human passions is ancient, and a great deal of Christian preaching deals with the subject of subduing them. But Toxic Empathy is not a sermon. It is a political pamphlet advising Christians on how to argue better in political debates—a primer on being better conservatives, not better Christians.

Empathy is an ambiguous concept. When it was imported into English from German a little more than a century ago, empathy referred to one’s capacity to merge experiences with objects in the world, a definition that current usage bears little resemblance to: The Atlantic reported in 2015 that “the social psychologist C. Daniel Batson, who has researched empathy for decades, argues that the term can now refer to eight different concepts,” such as “knowing another’s thoughts and feelings,” “actually feeling as another does,” and “feeling distress at another’s suffering,” a kind of catchall term for having a moral imagination. Stuckey’s definition doesn’t distinguish among these different elements; she instead frames empathy itself as a specific emotion rather than a psychological capacity for understanding the emotions of others, which makes her usage especially confusing. Whatever it is, empathy isn’t something Stuckey wants to reject altogether: Jesus embodied a kind of empathy, and it can be, she says, “a powerful motivation to love those around you.”

The toxic kind of empathy, she contends, is the kind that makes you double-check your specifically conservative political priors. Some examples: “If you’re really compassionate, you’ll welcome the immigrant” and “If you’re really a Christian, you’ll fight for social justice.” This argumentative technique, in which Christians are asked to consider their political positions in light of the logic of their own faith, can hardly be described as empathy in any common sense of the term. This linguistic confusion between rational arguments about whether a person’s political positions are adequately Christian, on one hand, and arguments that people should reason from emotion, on the other, runs through the entire debate about empathy. What Stuckey seems to be saying is merely that progressive assertions summon certain emotions inside their conservative debate partners—such as pity and compassion—that make them unwilling to defend their premises, regardless of whether said conservatives are actually inhabiting the emotional states of other people. Labeling those emotions as fruits of toxic empathy is a strategy for dealing with them: It resolves the tension between what one feels and what one thinks by dismissing one’s feelings as misguided. This approach glibly ignores the possibility that such emotions are in fact the voice of one’s conscience, and takes for granted that ignoring one’s sympathies for other people is a good Christian habit of mind.

In that sense, the toxic-empathy rhetorical framework, built for producing peace of mind for conservative debaters, threatens to render Christians insensitive to moral demands of Christianity that run contrary to conservative preferences. “Toxic empathy claims the only way to love racial minorities is to advance social justice,” Stuckey writes at one point, “but ‘justice’ that shows partiality to the poor or to those perceived as oppressed only leads to societal chaos.” It’s true that every person should be judged equally in the administration of the law, but it’s also the case that Christianity actually does dictate that the needs of the poor and powerless should be prioritized in society. Far from being a misleading interpretation adduced by bad-faith actors in political debates, it is rather the plain meaning of the Gospels, attested to by thousands of years’ worth of Christian saints and thinkers who have declared that God especially loves the poor and the oppressed. That fact remains as radical today as it was when Jesus was preaching, and now, just as then, there are people who can’t stand to recognize it.
 
Conservatives have empathy, they just don't have suicidal self-defeating levels of empathy that hyper-progressives do where they'll cancel a public works project for fear it might crush an ant during construction, or will jail you for beating off a guy who tried to mug you for your wallet - "all he wanted was just a dollar or two! You really think your property was worth more than human dignity?!"
 
The left weaponized empathy to meet their end goals. Normies are empathetic to those that look like themselves and who share common culture, values, and heritage.


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tldr leftists care more about strangers vs conservatives who care more about their immediate family and friends.

link to the actual study. pdf archive is in the post.
 
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This kind of manipulation stops working on a lot of people after a while, I think. You can only hate yourself and your identity for so long, especially when the person/group making you do it isn't budging or even offering crumbs of affirmation for doing it. At least that's how it went with me, the fatigue got to me really quickly.
Not quite the oldest trick in the book, but certainly not novel either.
 
This kind of manipulation stops working on a lot of people after a while, I think. You can only hate yourself and your identity for so long, especially when the person/group making you do it isn't budging or even offering crumbs of affirmation for doing it. At least that's how it went with me, the fatigue got to me really quickly.
Not quite the oldest trick in the book, but certainly not novel either.
It didn't help that the "tiny asks" the empathy strategy was meant to make workable have grown to sizes where "no" is the only sane answer.

"Oh, can't you just give a little money to save one life?" Yeah, sure.

"Oh, can't you just deal with a few forms to fill out to save one life?" Yeah, sure.

"Oh, can't you just do without higher education to save one life?" Uh... I guess... .but see....?

"Oh, can't you just give up your entire life's work up till now just save one life?" Er, no.... no I won't

WHAT? YOU MONSTER!
 
arguments that people should reason from emotion
You cannot reason from emotion.

Tightly managed immigration is fine. Uncontrolled immigration and refusing to stop illegal immigration is not fine. People who crashed through the border of my country are not immigrants. They are invaders as individuals but worse as a group are used as a weapon against my countrymen by greedy pigfuckers and those who hate the country that made their lives possible.

You can scream empathy all you want but when you propagandize for an industry that results in the rape of women and children, the proliferation of deadly drugs across the border, the open armed welcome of fighting age foreign nationals from enemy countries then you are not empathetic you are the tool of monsters and are my enemy and the enemy of humanity.
 
Christian charity is not a suicide pact. Jesus Himself said "it is not right to take food from the children and give it to dogs".

God has given power to civil authorities to uphold the rights, safety, and wellbeing of nation's citizens. Outsiders are a distant second. You are not being charitable when your "empathy" puts other people in danger.
 
The author is openly anti-capitalist socialist Elizabeth Bruenig. She believes that capitalism must not be tamed, but rather "overcome". She is a Catholic Convert who, while progressive, doesn't like abortion because the pope says so or something. And that makes her a voice that can reach conservatives or something.
She has also claimed that Roman Catholicism has always claimed that personal property rights only come in to effect after all the needs of the poor have been met.

She doesn't believe in empathy. She believes in an all-power state where a rich elite will rule and confiscate in the name of "the poor".
it is rather the plain meaning of the Gospels, attested to by thousands of years’ worth of Christian saints and thinkers who have declared that God especially loves the poor and the oppressed. That fact remains as radical today as it was when Jesus was preaching, and now, just as then, there are people who can’t stand to recognize it.

And her god is Karl Marx. If she dared to be honest, she would admit that she believes that one cannot be a christian without being a socialist. That the message of the Gospels is for people to collectively rise up against each other and confiscate by force from some people to give to other people. I don't remember the Gospel of Robin Hood, but I'm sure she believes there is one.

She doesn't understand that the Gospels didn't feature a call for collective "democratic socialism" or specify the perfect form of "christian government". She doesn't understand the difference between individual actions by choice based on theology and government confiscation and redistribution of wealth.
 
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