What do people look for in a partner?

[silentprincess]

I was wondering this question, as I am going to admit I have never had a boyfriend and I'm not very good at attracting them. You see I have this worry that because of all my baggage, men aren't going to be willing to give the relationship a try. Also I'm not a supermodel stunner, I'm not pretty, I'm ugh.

So do people just go for looks? Do people go for personality?

What do people look for in a partner?

*Admins you can lock this thread if you feel this is inappropriate for the forum, or if you think I am trolling.*

 

[Linako 2.0]

What's a Boyfriend?

 

[Judge Holden]

Easily flayable skin

 

[Null]

21 and Single White Male...
-Shy
-Smart
-Young at Heart
-Computer skilled
-Humorous
-A great thinker and go-getter
-"Natural salesperson"
-Enjoys good parts of life
-Diplomatic
-Friendly
-Loves his family
-Peaceful
-Very creative
-He's lonely

...Seeking a CUTE ♀18-21 SINGLE ♀FEMALE♀ COMPANION
*18-21 years of age
*does not already have a boyfriend
*Single
-Average to Slender Weight/Body Type
-White
-Lives in Charolettesville or Ruckersville area
*Does NOT Smoke or Drink Alcohol
-Happy, Positive Personality
*Average/High Income
-Drives a vehicle

 

[Judge Holden]

a willingness to help me sodomize their younger, hotter sibling to death

 

[CatParty]

boobs

 

[littlebiscuits]

I like a man with some serious meat on his bones.

But really, I think finding a partner who treats you with love and respect is the most important thing. I also think men find confidence really attractive? In my experience at least. I have always made the first move in every single relationship I have ever been in, and men have told me that they like that, they like a woman who can take charge. Not in like a dominatrixy way, just in a casual way.
I first met my fiance because when I was making fun of fanfics with some friends at a restaurant. We were actually joking about Sonichu and Rose Potter, and the guy at the next table let out this gasp of surprise and recognition. I immediately invited him to join us and well...

Hang in there girly, you'll find someone.

 

[BT 075]

So do people just go for looks?

Looks are typically what attracts people at first. You don't "see" someone's personality right away. What you see is what they look like. So what you look like certainly plays a part. How big a part it plays depends on the personal taste of whoever it is you meet, and how much it matters depends on how shallow they are. Attraction cannot be forced (unlike what Chris, Pick Up Autists and wizards seem to think) but it may grow over time.

Do people go for personality?

Of course they do! If a long lasting relationship is the goal, you are going to have to like each other's personalities. If you can barely stand being in the same room for an hour, how on earth can a relationshop be expected to last long? Besides, looks fade. People get wrinkly, saggy and ugly. Dudes lose their hair and get fat, women lose their curves (or gain an abundance of them) and teeths go yellow and fall out. What remains, before senility kicks in, is personality. Few people outside Hollywood remain much to look at past the age of forty so you better like each other's insides as much as their outsides.

Either way don't worry. You're a swell person and you'll find someone I'm sure. I think you're just not very confident in your own skin and you may think a bit lowly of yourself. Rock what you got, stand up straight and own that shit. Don't ever describe yourself as ugly. A lack of confidence isn't attractive. Be a diva.

 

[FramerGirl420]

I look for high levels of alcoholism and Mobyness

 

[BT 075]

On a more practical note: squat all day, every day. Drink a lot. Go out. Success guaranteed.

 

[littlebiscuits]

On a more practical note: squat all day, every day. Drink a lot. Go out. Success guaranteed.

He means squart. Squart on all the men to show dominance.

 

[Surtur]

Me? My most recent ex tried to change everything about me. The way I dress is wrong, the way I talk is wrong, my choice of entertainment is wrong and my religion is wrong. Someone who is cool with me and maybe likes to play D&D would be nice.

 

[EI 903]

Sense of humor, lack of drama, and a big enough dork to put up with how big of a dork I am. Also a minimum of squarting would be nice.

 

[The Hunter]

I usually go solely for personality. It's just a coincidence that every girl that has ever been attracted to me or that I've been attracted to has been, you know, fucking hot.

 

[The Fair Lady]

A good sense of humor, accepting me for who I am. That's pretty much it.

 

[A-№1]

Patience.

 

[Venusaur]

I was wondering this question, as I am going to admit I have never had a boyfriend and I'm not very good at attracting them. You see I have this worry that because of all my baggage, men aren't going to be willing to give the relationship a try. Also I'm not a supermodel stunner, I'm not pretty, I'm ugh.

So do people just go for looks? Do people go for personality?

What do people look for in a partner?

*Admins you can lock this thread if you feel this is inappropriate for the forum, or if you think I am trolling.*

Hi silentrincess. I'm an awkward person with confidence issues, I also had your worry that my baggage would drive any potential guy away and unlike most of my friends who had at least gone through 3 different boyfriends by the time they were 21, I had none. But life is odd, and you can never really predict what will happen... So some years ago, I randomly met this guy at a pub. Our personalities just clicked and it's going good so far. We might last a long time, we might not. So, don't worry about it, as long as you continue to meet people you have a higher chance of finding somebody you really get along with. Don't stress to much about what the guy might be thinking, just see if you get along as people first. A good partner will be a patient friend.

As for what I look in a partner...
I've always been attracted to personalities first (no matter what the Wizards and Loveshies say!), a smart guy with a sharp wit and a dark sense of humour immediately catches my eye. Having similar interests is also important so you can do activities and the like together, but it doesn't mean that the person has to be a clone of you. Example, I love video games, but the guy I'm with doesn't really get them. The most I've managed to make him do is play a Mario game. But it's cool, there's other things we enjoy like hiking, going to gigs and drinking ale/beer/rum/whiskey...

Edited: The internet where I am at the moment is pretty wierd. Apologies for the TRIPLE post.

 

[BT 075]

After a quick internet search I discovered what all women look for in a man. They all look for one specific man to be precise. His name? Chad. Chad Thundercock. Not a woman on earth who does not secretly desire riding his thunderbolt.

 

[Gorogoroth]

Why don't you check out the dude's guide to manliness? It can tell you everything you need to know about what you, and every other woman, wants in a man.

 

[BT 075]

Why don't you check out the dude's guide to manliness? It can tell you everything you need to know about what you, and every other woman, wants in a man.

Because the Dude's Guide To Manliness will only get you a Southern Belle in 1950s rural Georgia to go on a chaperoned date with you, whereas The Way Of The Chad will get you the sex appeal of a million James Bonds' rolled into a single beefy James Dean.