Culture What Is Autogynephilia? 'White Lotus' Goes Where Few Have Dared

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A four-minute scene from Sunday's episode of HBO's buzzy series "The White Lotus" has gone so viral that viewers are now simply calling it "that scene" as they discuss its meaning online.

The show, a black-comedy anthology series created by Mike White, follows the guests and staff of the fictional White Lotus resort chain over a week-long stay. While the plot is ostensibly a murder mystery, the three seasons have been lauded for their edgy and razor-sharp satirizations of privilege, wealth and the dark underbelly of elite society.

But episode five of season three, which takes place in an idyllic Thai vacation setting, contained a scene described as both an "acting masterclass" and a brave — or ignorant, depending on one's view — illustration of a previously verboten topic that has roiled the conversation surrounding transgender identity and trans rights for years.

The scene involves a cameo from the Oscar-winning character actor Sam Rockwell, playing "Frank," an old friend of season regular "Rick," played by Walton Goggins. The pair meet up in a luxe Bangkok hotel to reconnect, when Rick asks Frank what he's been up to in his adopted home of Thailand.


Frank delves into a monologue revealing his struggles with alcoholism and sex addiction that morphs into a revelation about his arousal and fascination with being thought of as an "Asian girl," engaging in a series of sexual encounters with men in order to embody that fantasy, while women he hires look on.

"I'd look in her eyes while some guy was f***ing me and think, I am her, and I'm f***ing me," he says in the candid exchange that left many viewers floored.

The monologue was quickly linked to autogynephilia (AGP) by none other than Dr. Ray Blanchard, the Canadian psychologist who coined the term in the 1980s during his studies of patients seeking what were then known as sex changes.

Since 2003, political trans activists and their “allies” have done everything they could to prevent the word and the concept of autogynephilia from entering public awareness. And yet, with excruciating slowness but apparent inevitability, it is doing just that. https://t.co/G79IUJOMGt
— Ray Blanchard (@BlanchardPhD) March 17, 2025

Blanchard theorized that some trans women — those assigned male at birth — experience sexual arousal at the idea of themselves as female, positing that gender transition in these cases is driven by an erotic fixation rather than an innate gender identity or sense of being "born in the wrong body."

The term itself is Greek, meaning "love of oneself as a woman."

Newsweek reached out to Blanchard for comment, while HBO declined to make White available for comment for this story.

The Debate Over AGP​

Discussions about AGP ignited across social media following the episode, with heated conversations still taking place, three days later, on X, TikTok and Reddit.


Search interest in the term surged on Google shortly after the scene first aired, while transgender forums overwhelmingly dismissed the concept, arguing it was a bigoted misrepresentation of their lived experiences.

"Autogynephilia is not real. Of course people want to feel good about their body to feel sexy. Also, there is no true trans woman," one Reddit post stated. Another echoed the sentiment, calling AGP a "flawed framework" and linking to an essay by writer and biologist Julia Serano, a vocal critic of the theory.

Serano, a trans woman and author of the book Whipping Girl, argues that AGP is often used to delegitimize trans identities, reducing gender transition to an erotic impulse rather than a deeply felt need.

"Blanchard's model is built upon a number of incorrect and unfounded assumptions, and the data he offers to support it is deeply flawed due to methodological errors and biases," Serano writes in The Case Against Autogynephilia, published in the International Journal of Transgenderism in 2010.

In the article, she further contends that the persistence of AGP theory has contributed to the pathologization of trans women, portraying them as sexual deviants.

Blanchard, for his part, maintains that opposition to AGP is largely ideological rather than scientific. In a 2019 interview, he argued that transgenderism has been "reframed as a political problem rather than a clinical problem," leading to a "flat denial that autogynephilia exists."

His theory has been supported by other clinicians, including Dr. Anne Lawrence, a transgender woman who argues that AGP is its own distinct sexual orientation that differs from transgenderism —characterized by one's "erotic and romantic attraction to the idea of themselves as female."

Lawrence said she agrees with Blanchard's classification of two primary types of trans women: those who are exclusively attracted to men and transition early in life, and those who experience AGP and typically transition later.

A Polarizing Topic​

One issue in the ongoing debate — coming at a time when the very concept of transgender identity has been under attack from President Trump and his allies— is whether AGP applies universally or describes only a subset of trans women.

Blanchard originally suggested that most trans women who are not exclusively attracted to men exhibit AGP tendencies. Critics strongly reject this categorization, asserting that it falsely groups trans women under a single sexual motive.


Natalie Wynn, a transgender woman and popular left-wing YouTuber known as ContraPoints, has addressed the debate on her channel, emphasizing that "the biggest problem with autogynephilia as a theory is that it pathologizes something that is actually very complex and personal."

"It's not just sexual—it's existential. Reducing trans women's identities to a sexual fetish is harmful and fundamentally dishonest," she argues.

Serano and other pro-LGBTQ organizations have also highlighted the lack of empirical evidence supporting AGP as a clinical concept. They argue that Blanchard's studies relied on self-reported arousal patterns, which are susceptible to bias.

When reached for comment by Newsweek, Serano said in a statement: "There was a time, years ago, when one could sincerely claim that Blanchard's theory of autogynephilia was a 'controversial yet viable' model, or purely a matter of 'scientific debate.' But that day has long since passed. Subsequent research has yielded numerous lines of evidence that, taken together, disprove the theory."


Defenders of AGP as a legitimate medical condition argue that much of the backlash stems from a cultural resistance to openly discussing sexual motivations behind gender transition. Blanchard has said the denial of autogynephilia has "become a canon of modern trans activism," intertwined with broader culture-war politics.

The controversy surrounding AGP reflects the broader struggle between academic theories and lived experiences. Lawrence, the clinician, says that for some trans women, AGP provides a meaningful framework for their lives:

"Changing one's body and living as a woman offers an identity, a program of action, and a sense of purpose. Being able to fully express one's sexual orientation, without apology or shame, gives one's life greater meaning and authenticity, perhaps especially when that sexual orientation is atypical," she wrote in 2023.

"Autogynephilic transsexuals want to change their bodies to resemble the females to whom they are sexually oriented. Their gender dysphoria reflects their inability to do so."

Yet critics like Serano and Wynn insist AGP is an outdated and harmful oversimplification of a complex and deeply personal topic.

The thrusting of the debate over AGP into mainstream conversation following the recent "White Lotus" episode reflects a larger shift happening in America, where transgender rights have become a central issue in the country's culture wars. Some pundits have even floated the idea that a backlash to trans rights — captured by the most viral ad of the presidential campaign — was what delivered Donald Trump to the White House at the end.
 

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Thought I would include a counter article as well

TERFs are totally missing the point of Sam Rockwell's White Lotus monologue

Transphobes claim that the scene exposes trans women in all their "fetish-y addict glory."

Mey Rude

March 20 2025 3:05 PM EST

When Oscar-winner Sam Rockwell made a surprise appearance on the latest episode of the popular series The White Lotus only to deliver one of the most unhinged, brilliant monologues on television in years, it seemed like the entire internet was watching.

The season 3 episode titled "Full Moon Party," Rick (Walton Goggins) continues to seek the revenge fantasy he's had about confronting his father's murderer, when he meets up with an old friend, Frank (Rockwell).

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Rick is surprised to see that the formerly wild Frank is now a sober Buddhist, and over the next several minutes, Frank goes into deep detail explaining how he got there.

Frank explains that he moved to Thailand because he "always had a thing for Asian girls," and that when he got there, he acted "like a kid in a candy store."

However, no amount of partying and meaningless sex satisfied him, so he started wondering where his life was going.

"Why do I feel the need to f*ck all these women? What is desire? The form of this cute Asian girl, why does it have this grip on me? Because she's the opposite of me? Is she gonna complete me in some way? I realized I could f--- a million women and I'd still never be satisfied. Maybe, maybe what I really want is to be one of these Asian girls. You know?"

After taking home a ladyboy one night and letting her top, Frank says "it got in my head that what I really wanted was to be one of these Asian girls getting f*cked by me."

So, naturally, he started dressing up in lingerie and perfume, and finding men that look like him to have sex with him.

"Are we our forms? Am I a middle aged white guy on the inside too? Or inside, could I be an Asian girl?" he asked. "I don't know. Guess I was trying to fuck my way to the answer. Then I realized I gotta stop the drugs, the girls, trying to be a girl, I got into Buddhism which is all about spirit versus form, detaching from self, getting off the never ending carousel of lust and suffering."

It was a powerful and mesmerizing speech on the danger of indulging your wildest desires and the cyclical futility of trying to satisfy unquenchable urges on your own.

When you have that many eyes watching one scene, of course people are going to interpret it in different ways. Some are celebrating the idea of Rockwell playing a trans character — after all, he did say he wanted to be a woman, right? Others have pointed out that his monologue is more reminiscent of the kind of things chasers and crossdressers say to trans women. After all, trans women don't want to be women of other races, they want to be themselves as women.

A third group has even pointed out that the character represents both, and is a depiction of the "chaser to gender dysphoric" pipeline. However, many TERFs have also latched onto the scene, claiming that it shows the true nature of "trans-identified males" and autogynephilia.

Autogynephilia is theory posited by psychologist Ray Blanchard in 1989, where he proposed that trans women fall into two distinct categories: heterosexual trans women who transition because of homosexuality, and others who transition due to "misdirected heterosexual sex drive" and a paraphilia that makes them aroused by the idea of being women.

His theory implies that it is a "male" specific phenomenon, and that cis women wouldn't be turned on by the thought of themselves as women. However, studies have shown that up to 93 percent of cis women have experienced "erotic arousal to the thought or image of oneself as a woman."

As Julia Serano said in her paper "Autogynephilia: A scientific review, feminist analysis, and alternative 'embodiment fantasies' model" in The Sociological Review, "autogynephilia theory relies on essentialist, heteronormative, and male-centric presumptions about women and LGBTQ+ people."

The theory also relies on tying trans women's gender identities to their sexual orientations. As Charles Moser said, Blanchard's Autogynephilia theory "implies that sexual orientation and gender identity are not independent concepts."

"Are all gender manifestations secondary to sexual orientation?" Moser follows up. "Are all gay men somewhat feminine and all lesbians somewhat masculine? Are all feminine heterosexual men and masculine heterosexual women denying their homosexuality?" (per "Blanchard's Autogynephilia Theory: A Critique" in Journal of Homosexuality.)

"While contemporary scientific and medical communities have largely moved on from the theory, autogynephilia has been increasingly promoted by anti-transgender activists," Serano writes.

Now, TERFs are looking to the latest White Lotus episode and proudly waving their autogynephilia flag once more.

Lisa Selin Davis, who calls herself a "gender culture war reporter," even wrote an article on UnHerd titled "Did The White Lotus challenge the trans narrative on autogynephilia?"

In it, she claims that the monologue "introduced viewers to one of the most controversial ideas in the cultural battle over all things trans: autogynephilia."

Davis argues that if only Frank had "grown up in a world that admitted autogynephilia existed" he might not have had to give up his vices, including sex, completely missing the point of the monologue.

Others online are praising the episode for explaining the whole "AGP trans identified male thing in all its fetishy addict glory," and saying that "Scenes like this mark an important cultural development that cannot be understated."

"For years making these observations got you labeled a BIGOT / TERF / PHOBE, but whether they meant for it to happen or not: 'transgenderism is a fetish' is mainstream now," said @TrvthfvTreason on X.

"The depiction of transsexual and AGP in #TheWhiteLotus #WhiteLotus Season 3 is brilliant," Lottie Lewis (@LottieHistory on X) said. "A middle aged man turned on by the thought of being a woman, getting penetrated by himself. It's a truly creepy and mesmerising scene, something mainstream TV hasn't dared to do in years."

The truth about the scene is much simpler than all of this.

Rockwell was simply playing a single fictional character in a TV show. HIs monologue doesn't represent real life trans people. His character doesn't represent real life trans people. He certainly doesn't represent a widely discredited pseudoscientific theory from the 80s.

He doesn't represent real life at all. He exists in the heightened reality of The White Lotus.

We shouldn't be too hard on the TERFs, however, media literacy has never been their strong suit. And after all, they always prefer a hypothetical trans person to a real one.

HBO's The White Lotus season 3 drops new episodes every Sunday on Max.


 
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Natalie Wynn, a transgender woman and popular left-wing YouTuber known as ContraPoints, has addressed the debate on her channel, emphasizing that "the biggest problem with autogynephilia as a theory is that it pathologizes something that is actually very complex and personal."
Lol, Contra is one of the biggest AGPs out there. Of course he finds the term offensive. There is nothing complex or confusing about this, AGPs try to make it seem "complicated" because admitting they're porn sick men who can't stop living out their fetish is too shameful.
"It's not just sexual—it's existential. Reducing trans women's identities to a sexual fetish is harmful and fundamentally dishonest," she argues.
Of course the porn sick man thinks existing as a woman is "sexual" in nature. Real women do not get off on being a woman. We don't get excited about things like putting on makeup or shaving, we don't look at ourselves in the mirror and get turned on by our reflection. Porn sick men do this, not women.
 
LMAO! the truth has escaped containment! Alert! Alert!!

Rockwell was simply playing a single fictional character in a TV show. HIs monologue doesn't represent real life trans people. His character doesn't represent real life trans people. He certainly doesn't represent a widely discredited pseudoscientific theory from the 80s.​


Here’s the counter argument from the second article about why the scene is DEFINITELY NOT supporting evil TERFs: “um… we aren’t really like that!” Good luck with that one, trans folk! Lmao this is the best time to follow the gender wars.
 
Everything I've heard about this show makes it sound like porn for overly progressive people
It's more of just a mid mystery drama show aimed at middle aged women. There's like, no good people really, they all have fucked up lives, too much money, and hedonistic ideals.

Like the incest scene was over exaggerated (I mean it was weird AF but the scene was young people high and drunk as fuck, theres been weirder shit at frat parties). It's not held up as a good thing to do - its just yet another fucked up thing these people do.

The scene that the article is about, where a guy talks about wanting to find someone who looks like then, get dressed as a girl and be fucked by them, isn't held up as a good thing either. The guy is honestly pathetic throughout the whole scene.

That's why TRAs are mad - the scenes highlighted how fucked up they are. The second article linked is oh so close to getting the point, but then next paragraph it's back to trying to deceive themselves and their readers.

"It was a powerful and mesmerizing speech on the danger of indulging your wildest desires and the cyclical futility of trying to satisfy unquenchable urges on your own."

Almost like trans people who undergo 10+ surgeries to chase their unachievable ideal.
 
Troons really do tell on themselves huh? There are tons of resources on Reddit and elsewhere for perverted content like sissy hypno and TMI memoirs from themselves in their own words along the lines of "I knew I was trans because wearing my mother's bra and knickers gave me a boner. But it's definitely not a fetish you transphobic TERFS!" and "I get off to normies using my preferred pronouns. Real women get off to being female too uwu!" They claim to have "dysphoria" as a result of being born male but you'd never hear a troon shut up about their girldick. All of this bare evidence that's easily accessible and troons still want us to believe that autogynephilia isn't a real thing. The denial of autogynephilia by the troon community is just cope at this point.

I like Sam Rockwell and his suave voice, but I think he's way too hot and well groomed to be accurately depicted as an autogynephile. If I was a producer on White Lotus and wanted an accurate depiction of an autogynephile such as Stefonknee Walsh or Kevin Gibes, I would cast an actor like Danny Devito. He would portray a 70 something porn addicted cross dresser who left his wife of 40 something years and cut contact with his adult children and spent all the inheritance money like a selfish boomer to live out his fetish in Thailand.


Ideally, the character would look something like this

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or this

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These perverted men can deny it all they want, but there is ample evidence that AGP is the driving force for 99% of men who troon out. Just like pedophilia, their fetish is incompatible with living in a civilized society, and just like pedophiles, they cannot and will not restrain themselves and refrain from acting on their sick impulses.

They need to be segregated from society by force, and if that proves to be too burdensome, they need to be exterminated.
 
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