What’s a red flag for you in a relationship? - Any real life examples?

[mister meaner]

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[SandyCat]

Anyone wanting to be in a relationship with me to begin with is a red flag

 

[Table Country]

Being communist. In more ways than one.

 

[mister meaner]

Anyone wanting to be in a relationship with me to begin with is a red flag

 

[NOT Sword Fighter Super]

Wanting to look though your phone/emails/whatever.

 

[William]

I'll tell you when I get into one.

 

[TerrorCorpCEO]

If they tell you they browse Kiwi Farms, GET OUTTA THERE

 

[mr.moon1488]

Not having any interests. There are only two ways this can ever go. Either A: she's just an incredibly dull and brain-dead girl, or B: her only interests are things she's not willing to talk about.

 

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[NOT Sword Fighter Super]

Not having any interests. There are only two ways this can ever go. Either A: she's just an incredibly dull and brain-dead girl, or B: her only interests are things she's not willing to talk about.

Or C, she'll be obsessive and possessive of you.

 

[Backinpogform]

Wanting to look though your phone/emails/whatever.

Not having any interests. There are only two ways this can ever go. Either A: she's just an incredibly dull and brain-dead girl, or B: her only interests are things she's not willing to talk about.

Or C, she'll be obsessive and possessive of you.

All of these, plus other controlling behaviours like telling me how to dress.

 

[AMHOLIO]

Talking about one's problems and not really caring or listening to you when you do the same. Most signs of too much self absorption are a flag in any sort of relationship. The other person should value themselves at least a bit, but if they can't give you anything in return and only take, drop them or keep them at arm's length.

 

[HorseGirlSupremacy]

watching p0rn
likes anime + works in STEM = 100% chance they gonna troon out on you as soon as you have children.

 

[A Gay Retard]

Veganism, Disney Adult, won't listen to me sperg about Ancient Rome.

 

[Shig O'nella]

She's single.

I mean, where's the fun in that?

 

[BONE_Buddy]

"I can fix him!" Seriously, the biggest red flag is a woman thinking you are a broken bad-boy who needs to be saved/put back together. They are the type that will deconstruct your life, and try to rebuild it their way. Nobody wins something like that. You'll hate it, and she'll come to hate you for hating it. Note that this is different from a woman just being attracted to bad-boys/dangerous men. That's pretty normal, so long as they aren't lusting over serial murders or the like.

The second big Red Flag? I hate to say it boys, but casual sex. I have seen two instances of fuck-buddies falling into stable relationships with each other. All the rest? Hoes don't make housewives. I'm sure there are a billion extremely good but autisticly long winded reasons as to why, but bottom line: If she fucks on the first "date" don't get too invested in the relationship. I've seen good men real ate-up real bad from situations like that.

Last big Red Flag from me: If she's a dumpster fire with finances, don't even think about entertaining thoughts of marriage. If she can't handle her own budget, what makes any sane man think that he won't get burned when they share accounts? I sure don't know, but what I do know is that over half of all divorces are caused by financial arguments.

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There are, of course other commonly known Red Flags, some really good ones have already been mentioned in this thread, but these are the less commonly talked about neon-bright warning signs for me. And this can largely be gender flipped too.

As an aside, when you are hunting for your spouse you should already know if and roughly how many kids you want, and discuss that up front with prospective partners. Its up there with Religion and politics on things that don't change, and are hard to compromise on. You don't want to be a year and a half into a marriage when you realize that you and your partner have very different views on the matter.

 

[GenericEdgelordSupreme]

A penis, including the butchered remains of one.

Also, being unable to accept my incorrigible and abrasive nature without trying to change it. It's not a glitch; it's a feature!

 

[Least Concern]

I could give so many but some would be doxing myself. Here's one, though; when, well into a stable relationship where you have already been sharing all bank accounts and credit cards for some time, you find out she's opened a new account at a different bank and won't give you access to it.

Holy fuck, what a retard I was.

 

[Grinrow]

Asking the incel farms for relationship advice

 

[Alligator Alcatraz]

When they say they want to "take a break" or want an "open relationship" just break up.