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- Mar 9, 2015
Forgive this topic hitting close to home, but I think this is the perfect place of semi facelessness to air this out and bounce some ideas and listen to others thoughts on the matter.
I'll try to be brief, but it probably won't work, so grab a cup of tea or something.
I'm not too old, (early 30s) but more and more of my friends are settling down, in a bad way. I mean becoming, boring couch yuppies. I honestly am open minded and happy for those who do what they want, god bless you if you want a family, career, single, home what ever. Work for it earn it and enjoy it.
I am not or have not cut people off because they are focused on their family, or job or what not. It's just well aside hearing up dates they seem to do some X pay the bills and plop down and suck up tv or vidya etc.
Some of the people I've been drifting from I've been close to for 20 years or more literally. I've branched out and made some friends who are into what matters to me and or share hobbies. So it's not a feeling of being alone, it's a guilt because there's just not much there between us aside remembering when there was more.
I figure there's really no tasteful way of saying "you're boring so I stopped talking to you" so that's not going to happen. But I mean do I say, like what else are you into? What can we share or do to keep a friendship alive? These are good people, still. People whom I want to do well and wish me well, but that seems to be it anymore.
What I've been doing since this has kinda hit me is keeping topical, texting a little something we share still, even if it's a small part in either or both of our lives. But it's seeming strained to do more yet they are willing more than I. I enjoy being social but, it's kinda hard when you spend the next hour telling me about a friend of yours I'll never met and how they did something stupid, or about a TV show I have no intention of watching.
As I mentioned before lots of these are long term friends who've been there thick and thin and major life events. I hate regulating them to "that dude I text once a week about a cool home run" when I was in their wedding party. They also honestly are good people and I want the best for them, if I can help I love to hearing they are doing well brings me joy but they aren't pushing for much more in that aspect. If you are happy with your lot I guess you can rest and I'm happy that's that but, it's a skism between us.
Edit: oh duh.
Well it's been harder and harder to reach out on my end and I now let texts/emails sit hours before I reply to them because well I just don't know what's there or what to do. So I'm thinking just slipping out or do I reach out and inform them what's happening. I know I can do it tastefully and I am prepped they may lash out I'm aware I have my own unorthodox values and views.
I'll try to be brief, but it probably won't work, so grab a cup of tea or something.
I'm not too old, (early 30s) but more and more of my friends are settling down, in a bad way. I mean becoming, boring couch yuppies. I honestly am open minded and happy for those who do what they want, god bless you if you want a family, career, single, home what ever. Work for it earn it and enjoy it.
I am not or have not cut people off because they are focused on their family, or job or what not. It's just well aside hearing up dates they seem to do some X pay the bills and plop down and suck up tv or vidya etc.
Some of the people I've been drifting from I've been close to for 20 years or more literally. I've branched out and made some friends who are into what matters to me and or share hobbies. So it's not a feeling of being alone, it's a guilt because there's just not much there between us aside remembering when there was more.
I figure there's really no tasteful way of saying "you're boring so I stopped talking to you" so that's not going to happen. But I mean do I say, like what else are you into? What can we share or do to keep a friendship alive? These are good people, still. People whom I want to do well and wish me well, but that seems to be it anymore.
What I've been doing since this has kinda hit me is keeping topical, texting a little something we share still, even if it's a small part in either or both of our lives. But it's seeming strained to do more yet they are willing more than I. I enjoy being social but, it's kinda hard when you spend the next hour telling me about a friend of yours I'll never met and how they did something stupid, or about a TV show I have no intention of watching.
As I mentioned before lots of these are long term friends who've been there thick and thin and major life events. I hate regulating them to "that dude I text once a week about a cool home run" when I was in their wedding party. They also honestly are good people and I want the best for them, if I can help I love to hearing they are doing well brings me joy but they aren't pushing for much more in that aspect. If you are happy with your lot I guess you can rest and I'm happy that's that but, it's a skism between us.
Edit: oh duh.
Well it's been harder and harder to reach out on my end and I now let texts/emails sit hours before I reply to them because well I just don't know what's there or what to do. So I'm thinking just slipping out or do I reach out and inform them what's happening. I know I can do it tastefully and I am prepped they may lash out I'm aware I have my own unorthodox values and views.
