r/polyamory

[Dave Foliage]

Yikes!

Help, I feel my relationship is failing

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"She is poly but I am not."

Then, your relationship was already dead on arrival.

"It isn't the first time she's lied"

 

[thyme]

My coworker I've written about in the Parents of Trans Kids thread is poly. He's essentially a walking reddit trope so there's not much original about him, but here's some highlights:

-He has blue hair now (this felt like pertient information)

-He has slept on the couch for days on end when his wife's boyfriends are visiting

-His wife is built like Minecraft Steve

-The wife's boyfriends are all IRL but his girlfriends are all online only

-He says he 'doesn't like sex anyway' but it reads as cope

-The boyfriends use his car when they're in town

I found his youtube but it just has him playing punk rap for his actual son, and an atheistic wedding he ordained- got a kick out of the groom's stupid outfit
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Just wanted to give an update on this guy- my coworker in a poly relationship with his wife: the kind where the woman has a lot of luck and the man has none at all, of course.

Well, he recently found out his youngest was not actually his son- kid's got a different father. Surprise!

He's been really beaten up over it, which is ironic. I don't know what he was expecting.

The more examples I see of 'poly dating', the more repulsive it seems. I feel bad for the kids the most. They're too young to have to cope with this.

 

[Constellationzero]

Regarding children caught in the middle of their parent's debauchery and neglect polyamorous relationship, I often see people saying that the kids should be kept in the dark about it, or that they shouldn't know until they're older, because its better not to know. I think it is true that it's better not to have the side pieces cuddling on the couch while the kids are home, but even when they don't have a clue what's going on, it's still really awful for the kid. A polyamorous relationship, especially one that is being kept entirely seperate from the kid, is going to result in the parents being very, very absent.

Spoiler: Imagine, if you will...

You're a younger child, 4 or 5. You have a lot of sleepovers at your friends' or relatives' houses. You always get excited when your parents tell you that next week you're going to be spending the night somewhere else, and you don't understand why other kids feel homesick when they're away from their parents. You're always shuffled from one house to the next, and you handle it just fine, thanks! Occasionally your parents go on vacations and trips, but you don't get to go. That's fine, theyre going to do boring adult stuff anyway. Still, it would be nice if you could go with them sometime, but its just that you're too young now, you'll surely get to go when you're older.

Now you're an older child, 9-10. You're wondering why some family friends are no longer around, and why you haven't been invited back to some kids houses after you used to stay the night so much. Your last sleepover seemed rushed, your parents started getting ready to go out after you got home from school, and they called the parents of one of your friends to arrange for you to stay with them, even though it's a school night. That night, you overhear your friend's parents saying something about how ridiculous it is that they (your parents) keep doing this, why is this more important than watching their kid? You wonder what "this" is. You wonder why you never go out to do anything with your parents on the weekends. They're still taking trips without you, but now you see your friends at school coming home from family vacations, and you don't know why your parents are never able to make the time.

Your childhood is lonely. You have your friends, yes, but your parents are always in and out, because unbeknownst to you, you came second to them getting some strange. Their choices have caused you to lose friends because they caused you to wear out your welcome in other kids' houses, or because the other parents were disgusted by your parents' behavior. God forbid you ever find out about your parents' second lives in the future, because now every lonely moment, every weird comment from your childhood, every question you ever had about why your parents were not there is answered: they wanted to fuck more than they wanted to be around you. Everything is recontextualized, and even the good memories of spending time at friends houses and staying up til dawn are tinged with the realization that your parents only did that so you wouldn't get in the way of their sexual proclivities.

And this assumes that they were perfect at concealing their *ahem* lifestyle from you, that there was no additional kink shit around for you to stumble upon, that your friends/kids at school didn't know.

It makes me sick, because honestly? This is probably the best outcome for a kid whose parents are into this shit, and it still leaves a kid who feels lonely and unloved.

And touching on this, even when these degenerates keep it "hidden," the child sees/internalizes more than that.

Some develop deep seated crippling trust issues. That affects their interactions with others.
Some classmate approaches them and invites them to come over Saturday: How do I know you actually want to be friends? How do I know you won't play for a few hours and never speak to me again?

In High School--the same, but now it's an offer to date or go to Homecoming.

And some kids, depending on nature/nurture and basic DNA, will have bouts of crippling depression and anxiety relating to fear of loss. Not knowing if their friend is their friend. Not knowing if their boyfriend/girlfriend will come back. Sometimes absolutely crippling others around them because they wouldn't know confidence and secure feeling about someone returning if it bit them on the ass.
And when they have this, they need qualified help. But in the meantime, people drift away because it isn't everyone else's job to validate and protect their insecurities. Even the boyfriend/girlfriend isn't qualified and shouldn't have to anyway.

That was the job of the free love parents.

 

[Tom Nook's Gloryhole]

Swinging parents are essentially on the same level as single parent households. It is incredibly hard to raise a kid AND earn enough to support them AND also try and find another partner who can help to share the financial and emotional burden of the situation so there's usually one thing ends up getting left behind. Either the parent becaomes unemployable by being a benefits scrounger who is doing all they can to raise their kid or the kid gets emotionally neglected as the parent works overtime to make everything work.

When you have kids, there's a few expectations that people genuinely seem to forget: that the kid is very important and you have to neglect some of your fun time in order to raise them, these poly folk remind me of the ledditors who refuse to grow up and do adult things and will play video games all day or build legos or spend money on shit like funko pops instead of growing the fuck up, selling luxury shit that can help to make life easier for the kids, and committing to raising a human being.

The parents of yesteryear sold their exotic 2 seater cars to get a boring family car, but you don't see the parents of today selling their Lego Millenium Falcon in order to buy school uniforms.

 

[NoReturn]

Uh oh, looks like someone isn't feeling "comperson" in a certain webcomic.

Spoiler: More, highlights, but not the whole episode

Snap back to reality:

Spoiler: More from reddit

 

[Bad Take Crucifier]

@NoReturn Not surprised but the writing in that webcomic is kind of trash. I know it's supposed to be a fantasy thing but it doesn't even try to make good excuses for why this princess gets 5 princes as her boyfriends, as if they don't have other options. There's not really a conflict, minus the last one where it's forced. The rest are just like "yep this is fine".
The artist being talented is the only good quality.

 

[AMHOLIO]

@NoReturn Not surprised but the writing in that webcomic is kind of trash. I know it's supposed to be a fantasy thing but it doesn't even try to make good excuses for why this princess gets 5 princes as her boyfriends, as if they don't have other options. There's not really a conflict, minus the last one where it's forced. The rest are just like "yep this is fine".
The artist being talented is the only good quality.

And hell, looking at the decorations on the outfits, at least half of that shit is downloaded brushes and assets by other people on the Clip Studio Paint store!

Also lol why you still reading these crazy straight folks wet dream, NoReturn? You're a glutton for trash. XD

 

[Pomniman]

>They're still together
how can the guy stomach this without going insane from the constant pain and stress of the situation?!

By being too much of a cuck to break it off.

 

[DumbDude42]

Swinging parents are essentially on the same level as single parent households.

i'd say they're much worse overall. a single parent situation can happen without it being anyones fault, like if one parent just dies for example. but swinging/poly is always someones fault.

also in terms of impact on the child i think a "daddy is gone forever" situation is pretty bad, but a "daddy is out whoring while mommy is crying herself to sleep alone in her room" is much worse.

 

[Nazz]

Scrolling through tumblr, I am given the most tumblr-appropriate ad I've ever seen in my life

Homosexuals
Cutesy pastel colors
All of the dudes look like soft bean uwu trans bois
Sub-par webcomic with a cliche art style
And of course, polyamory

Its about what you would expect, there are 4 dudes who don't act like dudes (or like real people at all, to be honest) who meet and fall in soft cinnamon roll love with one another and start the ultimate fag polycule

Here are some highlights:


I had to look this one up. Morosexual- sexually attracted to people less intelligent than you, i.e. wanting to fuck morons.


I think you probably did peg him, just not as a hentai fiend, BAZINGA

in all seriousness though, polyamory is so suffused with being hopelessly addicted to porn they had to include it in the soft bean comic about four gay boys having gay sex with one another



Hit the nail on the head, buddy.

 

[Panzerfrau]

ITT: polyfags don't understand marrriage

This reply actually made me sad:

I am legally married for several reasons. A)immigration status. (I was/am deeply in love with my husband and the only way for us to be together was by marriage.) B)Health insurance (I have a cancer history.)

Now…. Does my husband mean more to me than my other partners? Absolutely not.

Love is a spiritual thing to me. A paper from the courthouse means nothing.

"I married him to get into the country and get my medical bills covered. Does he mean more to me than my hookups? Absolutely not!"

 

[T0oCoolFool]

Scrolling through tumblr, I am given the most tumblr-appropriate ad I've ever seen in my life
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Homosexuals
Cutesy pastel colors
All of the dudes look like soft bean uwu trans bois
Sub-par webcomic with a cliche art style
And of course, polyamory

Its about what you would expect, there are 4 dudes who don't act like dudes (or like real people at all, to be honest) who meet and fall in soft cinnamon roll love with one another and start the ultimate fag polycule

Here are some highlights:

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I had to look this one up. Morosexual- sexually attracted to people less intelligent than you, i.e. wanting to fuck morons.

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I think you probably did peg him, just not as a hentai fiend, BAZINGA

in all seriousness though, polyamory is so suffused with being hopelessly addicted to porn they had to include it in the soft bean comic about four gay boys having gay sex with one another

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Hit the nail on the head, buddy.

Not to sound dramatic but seeing this huge influx of polyamory media really worries me. I was hanging out with my younger cousin and she was watching tiktok, and one of the clips she watched had 4 teenagers boasting about their polyamory relationship. The clip made it seem like it was totally normal, and it had over 100K+ hearts and so many comments gushing about how adorable it was. These teenagers couldn't have been older than 15 either.

I don't want to know what the ramifications will be of kids being taught this shit from a young age.

 

[Medicinal Molduga]

Not to sound dramatic but seeing this huge influx of polyamory media really worries me. I was hanging out with my younger cousin and she was watching tiktok, and one of the clips she watched had 4 teenagers boasting about their polyamory relationship. The clip made it seem like it was totally normal, and it had over 100K+ hearts and so many comments gushing about how adorable it was. These teenagers couldn't have been older than 15 either.

I don't want to know what the ramifications will be of kids being taught this shit from a young age.

It will mean that yet another generation will learn the hard way that 'free love' most often than not leads to instability, insecurity and general unhappiness. It didn't work for the Shelleys and Lord Byron in the nineteen century, it didn't work for the existentialists in the thirties, it didn't work for the hippies in the seventies and it won't work for the redditors and tiktokers of the twenty-first century. But yes, the new technological context means that the harms done by this new wave of stupidity will be much greater.

 

[NoReturn]

And hell, looking at the decorations on the outfits, at least half of that shit is downloaded brushes and assets by other people on the Clip Studio Paint store!

kek, that's amazing. I had no idea. Thank you for enlightening me.

Also lol why you still reading these crazy straight folks wet dream, NoReturn? You're a glutton for trash. XD

Princess' Jewels updates on the same day as a certain piece of trash that I actually enjoy, so it always appears at the bottom of the page when I've finished that day's update. That said, I do enjoy the modern freakshow.

Spoiler

Scrolling through tumblr, I am given the most tumblr-appropriate ad I've ever seen in my life
View attachment 2545555
Homosexuals
Cutesy pastel colors
All of the dudes look like soft bean uwu trans bois
Sub-par webcomic with a cliche art style
And of course, polyamory

Its about what you would expect, there are 4 dudes who don't act like dudes (or like real people at all, to be honest) who meet and fall in soft cinnamon roll love with one another and start the ultimate fag polycule

Here are some highlights:

View attachment 2545567
I had to look this one up. Morosexual- sexually attracted to people less intelligent than you, i.e. wanting to fuck morons.

View attachment 2545568
I think you probably did peg him, just not as a hentai fiend, BAZINGA

in all seriousness though, polyamory is so suffused with being hopelessly addicted to porn they had to include it in the soft bean comic about four gay boys having gay sex with one another

View attachment 2545569
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Hit the nail on the head, buddy.

Not to sound dramatic but seeing this huge influx of polyamory media really worries me. I was hanging out with my younger cousin and she was watching tiktok, and one of the clips she watched had 4 teenagers boasting about their polyamory relationship. The clip made it seem like it was totally normal, and it had over 100K+ hearts and so many comments gushing about how adorable it was. These teenagers couldn't have been older than 15 either.

 

[it's called nyotaika]

not reddit related, but i got all nostalgic for one of the old internet classics.

 

[KingofNothing]

ITT: polyfags don't understand marrriage

This reply actually made me sad:

"I married him to get into the country and get my medical bills covered. Does he mean more to me than my hookups? Absolutely not!"

Gotta love that anyone calling this ungrateful shit out got downvoted to hell

 

[Buer]

Gotta love that anyone calling this ungrateful shit out got downvoted to hell
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Relationships would be so complicated legally speaking if marriage didn't exist. Lawyers would love it but normal people would fucking hate it. Like marriage is supposed to make the relationship more equal because otherwise if you were a stay at home mom you would be left with nothing in the case you and your spouse broke up. Also that immigrant woman wouldn't even be allowed to be here if it didn't exist unless she got some other type of visa which he probably can't. These people should move to Canada is they want something like common law marriage.

 

[Brain Problems]

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The first video if it's real gives off some serious bigamist vibes. The second definitely feels like two older perverts tricked some younger, dumber whore into fucking them. What's more interesting in my opinion about the two videos is that the people in them are not 2/10 danger hair schlubs and is it a coincidence that they're both MFF?

 

[Ser Prize]

Not to sound dramatic but seeing this huge influx of polyamory media really worries me. I was hanging out with my younger cousin and she was watching tiktok, and one of the clips she watched had 4 teenagers boasting about their polyamory relationship. The clip made it seem like it was totally normal, and it had over 100K+ hearts and so many comments gushing about how adorable it was. These teenagers couldn't have been older than 15 either.

I don't want to know what the ramifications will be of kids being taught this shit from a young age.

Propaganda for further societal decay. All that has happened before is happening again. Pushed by certain bad actors.

 

[Shadfan666xxx000]

Wouldn't it be quicker to just skip straight to the murder suicide instead of spending a few years building resentment while trying and failing to sleep around with other people?

You've got to build these things up first. Any good meal needs time.