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It has been a bit over five weeks since the thing with my good friend occurred. We saw each other twice more after that. The first time it was like nothing had changed, but the last time… he was distant. Quieter. Less responsive to messages up to that point.

He is never really on his phone, but he would at least answer within a day or so. It has been over a week and he has not returned my calls or texts. He’s still posting, albeit much less than before. I don’t know what happened, and I’m not going to hold out hope that I ever will.

It hurt that he did not return my feelings, but it hurts even more that I’ve lost him as a friend.
You shot your shot and it didn't pan out, which is life. At least you had the stones to do it and you know where you stand now. Give it a bit and you'll be able to pick up where you left off, but with that boundary in place.
 
You shot your shot and it didn't pan out, which is life. At least you had the stones to do it and you know where you stand now. Give it a bit and you'll be able to pick up where you left off, but with that boundary in place.
You’re right, thank you for giving me that new perspective. Though I don’t know if we will pick up again, at least I tried. Not even a cope: All my friends disapproved of him from the beginning and even I realize I may have dodged a bullet with his drug usage and general immaturity. Edit: I just realized that I’m probably the tard here for always ending up being into to men who happen to be chronic potheads.
 
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I'm pretty good actually.
I've got this horrible cramp in my right leg that comes on in the middle of the night and wakes me up sometimes, but other than that I'm peachy.
Thanks for asking.
How are you?
 
Been reflecting on my last relationship and it finally clicked that many of the behaviors/traits my ex developed before the relationship completely fell apart match up with untreated CSA and I'm feeling a lot of different things. Mainly guilt that I didn't piece it together before it ended. Maybe I could have actually had an idea of how to help her instead of feeling like a bystander watching someone's life derail.
 
I’m about two steps away from posting a bounty on myself on the darkweb. I’m too chickenshit to do anything to myself but maybe if I pay someone enough they’ll be professional and make it so I don’t see them coming.
Well, firstly, don't pay them in advance, since they are going to run away with your money. Secondly, are you sure things are that bad?
 
I turned down a invite to a night out today and I'm rather glad I did, the people who would have been going are for the most part younger than me by a good decade and a half (I'm 36 and back in collage, they are 18/19/20 for the most part) and want to go clubbing so I'd feel like the old sober 3rd wheel and end up playing Dad and making sure they get bundled into Taxi's at the end of the night if I lasted that long anyway.

The plans are for tonight, stay home, have some Tea and Fig rolls from a local bakery, maybe a takeaway if i can't be arsed cooking and going to bed at a sensible hour, then up early for a nice walk I think.
 
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I had shit to do. Example: sleep.
How can you sleep as he scorches the earth?

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I turned down a invite to a night out today and I'm rather glad I did, the people who would have been going are for the most part younger than me by a good decade and a half (I'm 36 and back in collage, they are 18/19/20 for the most part) and want to go clubbing so I'd feel like the old sober 3rd wheel and end up playing Dad and making sure they get bundled into Taxi's at the end of the night if I lasted that long anyway.

The plans are for tonight, stay home, have some Tea and Fig rolls from a local bakery, maybe a takeaway if i can't be arsed cooking and going to bed at a sensible hour, then up early for a nice walk I think.
Good call. I still remember having to be the responsible one back when we'd all go out and get shithammered as a matter of course. Worst instance was being awakened by my phone ringing from an unknown number at 4AM after having walked home from a bar (was too drunk to drive and it was close) and my brother was on the other end calling from jail.
 
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Making steady progress on my fitness and setting new Personal Records. A group of guys I know are transferring so I'm a bit bummed but it's a huge opportunity for them and I'll see em in the future...small world all that.

Just went and did a mini workout and felt satisfied for my Saturday then grabbed some groceries. They were soliciting donations for shelter/thanksgiving so I spent 20 on myself (literally 10 bucks for my proteins shakes RIP) and 20 on random food items they were looking for. Wasn't much but it feels good to give and I'm sure they'll be set up for future drives in the coming weeks.
 
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