Yknow, people like Peetz use women’s dislike for them as evidence that women only want the Chads, the alphas, the total douchebags who treat them like dirt. Clearly, they argue, women only respond to aggressive men and dislike quiet, unassuming ones because their primal lady hormones tell them to.
Which is bollocks because if you look around you anywhere, hundreds of quiet, unassuming men get married every day, to decent women. But it got me thinking that plenty of lady Kiwis have expressed a disgust for Peetz and his weak, pathetic ways. But it’s not because he’s a weak man. It’s because he’s a weak person.
Nobody likes a person who sits about, exuding depression and resentment, letting everyone walk all over them in their daily life while they passively-aggressively almost-complain about it, and generally just stewing in their own self-loathing. There are loads of women out there like that and other women avoid spending time with them too. Regardless of your gender, nobody wants to be around you if you’re the kind of person who is miserable and yet does nothing about it. Especially if there are easy, obvious solutions to some of your problems and you refuse them, because change is too hard and you’d rather suffer in quiet resentment forever, hating a life that you yourself cannot be bothered to try and improve. Just sitting in the pouring rain, resentfully muttering about how you hate being wet, but refusing to go stand under the dry shelter fifty meters away because that would be hard.
That attitude there is what elicits an instant, primal dislike in others, both men and women. There are loads of girls out there who simp for dorky, awkward boys who like vidya games and comics and whatnot. Adorkable is a thing and lots of women would happily take some nerd-cute, skinny doofus to share their fave netflix shows with and enthuse over fandoms, etc. The lack of “manliness” is not the problem. Rather, it’s the lack of will or drive.
If you just sit there, day in and day out, letting bad things happen to you without ever even trying to do anything about them despite the obvious fixes being right there, then you have no real will to live or survive. You’re not a person, you’re just a plant. And that there is the real universal desire all humans have when choosing a partner, or even a friend: the will to actively live your life, not just let it happen to you, not just cringingly accepting everything bad without a word, letting your life slowly slide down and down and down, because to do otherwise would be effort.
And I’m not talking about being stuck in an awful situation and not being able to do anything about it, no. I’m talking about people like Peetz, who could move out, who could open the blinds and get some damn light in his room for once, go for a walk every day or GOD FORBID enter a gym, suck up the nervousness and self-consciousness and just ride a stationary bike for a bit, maybe get real furniture and decor to cheer up his room, maybe learn to do something easy like make bread or something, just for the confidence boost of learning a new skill. Peetz could do any of these things, but won’t. He has said over and over he will live with Chantal until she doesn’t want to live with him anymore. It’s not even going to be his decision, and that’s how he likes it. Everything is someone else’s decision and he just lets life happen at him. Ffs my little plant on my desk at least makes an effort to grow sideways towards the window and get more sun. Peetz does not. He and other people like him just sit like a rock and let this one precious lifetime, the only one they’ll ever get, wash over them however it wishes, while they do nothing.
That is why people resent him: deep down, we all know life is finite and there are a hell of a lot of people who don’t even get the chance to live to adulthood. So when we see a Peetz person out there, pissing away their limited days on earth by refusing to live or engage with the world on any meaningful level, saying “meh” to every single thing, acting like life is some inconvenience they have to quietly tolerate…that’s what bothers people.
Well, that and the rape fics.
