Community Tard Baby General (includes brain dead kids) - Fundies and their genetic Fuckups; Parents of corpses in denial

[Jeep1971]

It's not uncommon for people to give their miscarriages or stillborns absolutely outrageous names that you wouldn't give a normal person like "horizon eclipse" or "Summer rain" (both of which I've heard of people doing.) It's a guilty pleasure name, something you'd never actually burden a living person with, but sounds nice on paper..

I know of someone who named their living kid Summer Rain. No offense but it sounds like a disposable douche brand name.

 

[booklover]

Harbour Kirchner has gone to the great potato patch in the sky:

Here's her obituary. In the newborn photos, she actually looks normal. I wonder what was wrong with her.

Harbour Kirchner Obituary - Jacksonville, FL

Celebrate the life of Harbour Kirchner, leave a kind word or memory and get funeral service information care of Hardage-Giddens Oaklawn Chapel.

www.dignitymemorial.com

 

[axeltrite]

Here's her obituary. In the newborn photos, she actually looks normal. I wonder what was wrong with her.

Harbour Kirchner Obituary - Jacksonville, FL

Celebrate the life of Harbour Kirchner, leave a kind word or memory and get funeral service information care of Hardage-Giddens Oaklawn Chapel.

www.dignitymemorial.com

In the picture the top of her skull looks shrunken. Maybe something related to microcephaly?

 

[GenociderSyo]

She has had multiple children with microcephaly she stated Harbour's was due to birth injury, but don't think shes a reliable story teller.

 

[katrizia]

Harbour had hypoxic-ischemic encephalopathy. She was adopted - she was the adoptive mom's sister's husband's birth mom's baby.

I find the emphasis on Harbour having a pure soul so strange. These fundies seem to think potato babies are angels on earth and their chance to martyr themselves to prove their worthiness to God.

Not to be cruel but I truly don't understand what there is to miss, the kid was basically a doll. She was essentially comatose for her entire life, there was never any awareness or interaction with the world. Is she really going to miss wiping up her excretions and pouring goo down her feeding tube? I think these people just do it for the Jesus points, especially when they know the kid has a limited lifespan and they won't have to deal with it for long. They get all that fundie Instagram community cred and none of the lifelong commitment. Imagine being her bio kids having to hear that being the parent of a potato is your mom's highest honor in life? They'll never be able to live up to their dead angel baby doll sister. Oh, and apparently her husband was in the ER with kidney stones and she ditched him to go upstairs to meet the unresponsive comatose baby and decided that she was to be their daughter.

 

[Carnavoyeur]

she was the adoptive mom's sister's husband's birth mom's baby.

I've read this 10 times and I'm still confused.

 

[katrizia]

I've read this 10 times and I'm still confused.

So I guess Harbour's adoptive mom's brother in law was given up for adoption as a child, and his bio mom also gave birth to Harbour much later in life. And he called Harbour's adoptive mom and told her there was a fresh potato out of the oven and she ran to the hospital and adopted her.

 

[Vibromatic Heart Bed]

Not to be cruel but I truly don't understand what there is to miss, the kid was basically a doll. She was essentially comatose for her entire life, there was never any awareness or interaction with the world. Is she really going to miss wiping up her excretions and pouring goo down her feeding tube? I think these people just do it for the Jesus points, especially when they know the kid has a limited lifespan and they won't have to deal with it for long. They get all that fundie Instagram community cred and none of the lifelong commitment.

Agree with this, although I do know of some secular parents who felt this way about their spuds. Something along the lines of how the child can do no wrong, they will never lie or be spiteful or do any of the typical unpleasant human things (ignoring the fact that the child can do no "right" either, at least not purposefully). They're the perfect blank slate for you to project whatever beautiful positive traits you want. There is also the mourning of what could have been, if the child wasn't sick. Kinda like how you mourn the death of a family member with Alzheimer's twice - once when they lose their memories, and again when they physically die.

 

[Sparkling Yuzu]

Yes. I'm Bart

@UserAnonymous (Thomas Lloyd)

Poor lil nigga Harbor has gone to the big harbor in the sky. I see why she was put up for adoption though.

 

[obsdj]

So I guess Harbour's adoptive mom's brother in law was given up for adoption as a child, and his bio mom also gave birth to Harbour much later in life. And he called Harbour's adoptive mom and told her there was a fresh potato out of the oven and she ran to the hospital and adopted her.

Even shorter version: She adopted her (tard baby) sister-in-law.

 

[Thomas Eugene Paris]

The same thing is true for people who have had a traumatic brain injury, or mild dementia.

This is especially true of people who have a mild TBI and are observed in a familiar environment. Once their surroundings change, their impairment is much more obvious. I read a horrifying thread on Reddit written by a woman who had just had a baby and was concerned because her husband had moved into an RV in their yard because he "needed space". He was still going to work and otherwise acting normal. It turned out that he had been a semiprofessional boxer in his late teens and early twenties, and the chronic trauma to his brain had given him dementia before he even turned 30. She investigated further and learned that he could only keep working because he kept extensive notes about how to perform all of his daily tasks, and his boss and other coworkers were picking up the slack and not pushing him to start taking on new duties. The wife hadn't noticed because they had such a strict routine until the baby came along. In one post, she said that when he held the baby for the first time after his diagnosis, he started to cry and said, "This is supposed to be the happiest time of my life and I can't even enjoy it."

 

[Strelok]

What the fuck is with people giving terrible names to children that will die young. Even if you decide to carry a child that has a terminal condition to term, the very least you can do is give them a pretty name.

There's a Harbor Freight joke lying in there somewhere I'm not clever though to make.

 

[booklover]

This is especially true of people who have a mild TBI and are observed in a familiar environment. Once their surroundings change, their impairment is much more obvious. I read a horrifying thread on Reddit written by a woman who had just had a baby and was concerned because her husband had moved into an RV in their yard because he "needed space". He was still going to work and otherwise acting normal. It turned out that he had been a semiprofessional boxer in his late teens and early twenties, and the chronic trauma to his brain had given him dementia before he even turned 30. She investigated further and learned that he could only keep working because he kept extensive notes about how to perform all of his daily tasks, and his boss and other coworkers were picking up the slack and not pushing him to start taking on new duties. The wife hadn't noticed because they had such a strict routine until the baby came along. In one post, she said that when he held the baby for the first time after his diagnosis, he started to cry and said, "This is supposed to be the happiest time of my life and I can't even enjoy it."

Back in the day, I had a pen pal who had an older relative (aunt, IIRC) who had a stroke, and while it left her intellect intact, therefore fooling her doctors, she was completely unable to take care of herself, even regarding things as simple as answering a phone. IDK if she recovered any further from it.

I also knew a man in my old town who had a brain tumor removed, and while he was able to do 90% of his self-care, he ended up with a seizure disorder that not only made him unable to drive, he was also not allowed to use a stove or an oven. He could use a microwave or a Crock Pot, and he moved to that town (in the meantime, his long childless marriage had ended for unrelated reasons) so his sister could look after him.

 

[Coleslaw]

"Mild", "moderate", and "benign" are not good words in medicine.

 

[Thomas Eugene Paris]

"Mild", "moderate", and "benign" are not good words in medicine.

How so?

 

[AnOminous]

How so?

They all mean you're sick and the last means you have a tumor, possibly even lots of them, possibly even fatal. Specific example, desmoid tumors or aggressive fibromatosis. These are "benign" tumors in the connective tissue, but if you have the condition that makes you produce them, in severe cases your body keeps producing them, sometimes in places where their growth can be fatal.

 

[Android raptor]

Off Topic but I know benign tumors can be potentially life threatening in small animals like rats, like I know both benign and malignant tumors are a very common cause of death for them.

 

[Thomas Eugene Paris]

They all mean you're sick and the last means you have a tumor, possibly even lots of them, possibly even fatal. Specific example, desmoid tumors or aggressive fibromatosis. These are "benign" tumors in the connective tissue, but if you have the condition that makes you produce them, in severe cases your body keeps producing them, sometimes in places where their growth can be fatal.

Ohhh, right. I hadn't considered it that way. In my world, benign is good.

 

[booklover]

Off Topic but I know benign tumors can be potentially life threatening in small animals like rats, like I know both benign and malignant tumors are a very common cause of death for them.

They can be for people too, especially if they get infected, block or open a major blood vessel, etc.

 

[katrizia]

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