Don't feel sorry for Corissa's mom and sister. This is exactly what the family wanted: For Amanda to be the pretty, free one, and for Corissa to be the needy little princess. They nurtured this dynamic from the time they were a young family. Everyone is getting a nice big narcissitic supply.
Well, I don't know how much Amanda could choose that dynamic as a kid, any more than Corissa had a choice about it. The parents are to blame.
But Amanda didn't have to come home and sacrifice her body, mind, and time in an attempt to seek love and approval from an empty well. Girl, get therapy should be her handle. Then maybe she'd realize she can give like the tree that gets worn down to a stump and sat on - and her parents will still dote on and baby Corissa, the incapable brat.
That picture of J is the most obvious staged photo ever. Everyone believes J was sanding cabinets for hours. The video posted earlier of her eating Taco Bell while other people were cleaning is the actual situation.
I'm reminded of how parents of small children will take pictures of their kid in the kitchen, as the parent and other relatives prepare a holiday feast, and post it with the caption, "Look who helped us prepare Easter/Thanksgiving/Christmas dinner!" Sometimes, the kid is even "helping" perform a simple task. That's pretty much the level of help Juliana is capable of offering.
And I'm gonna housefag here, but it's painful to watch Pete use a little orbital sander to strip that adhesive off the kitchen floor. It looks like Corissa bought some power tools, but couldn't be bothered to rent a proper floor sander for a day.
Also, everything in the dining room and living room is getting coated with a fine layer of dust from both the cabinets and floor (and it'll travel through the rest of the house as well) because nobody bothered to hang plastic sheeting over the doorway to keep it contained, or put a box fan blowing out a back window to move dust outside.
Given that the mastic for a lot of old linoleum contained asbestos, this is potentially a disaster. Pete's got a vacuum attached to his sander to suck up dust, but some of it is still going to escape. If he's using the small sander because asbestos is present and he needs to use the vacuum—this is not how asbestos abatement works.
People worry about the presence of lead and asbestos in old houses, but both can be dealt with by sealing them off under layers of paint or paneling. Lead paint's much less of a hazard than asbestos; you have to ingest quite a bit of it, whereas tiny amounts of asbestos dust are carcinogenic. I've got ugly, asbestos-containing "popcorn" ceilings in a house I recently bought, but safe asbestos abatement is not a DIY project. I've painted them for now, but I'll panel over them next summer, which won't cost much more than professional removal and will be less life-disrupting. The entire basement ceiling is asbestos acoustical panels, I painted over them, and as long as they remain in place and intact I have nothing to worry about.
If you ever end up with an older house (pre-1970s), and need to tear shit out, get asbestos tests for samples of paneling, adhesives, flooring materials, insulation, and any "acoustical" treatments you plan on disrupting. Asbestos isn't anything you want to fuck with.
I like the picture of her MOM doing all that work sanding. Corissa couldn't even hold her arms up long enough to sand one cabinet and here is her mom doing it no problem. As a mom myself, I feel sorry for her. She's going to have to bury her own child. No mother should ever have to do that.
Good. The mother once yelled at the doctor who wouldn't proclaim Corissa anorexic while she was still overweight, just because she suffered some obesity and dieting complications like low iron and feeling bad.
Good. The mother once yelled at the doctor who wouldn't proclaim Corissa anorexic while she was still overweight, just because she suffered some obesity and dieting complications like low iron and feeling bad.
That picture of J is the most obvious staged photo ever. Everyone believes J was sanding cabinets for hours. The video posted earlier of her eating Taco Bell while other people were cleaning is the actual situation.
I love that photo. J looks like absolute death and the lone board is leaning on her gunt. What a full and productive life. I give her the benefit of a doubt and believe that she sanded this one board. While snacking.
I wonder if they’re paying the sister and her BF? It’s a lot of work and while they’re shacked up there, they’re probably not making money anywhere else
I'm reminded of how parents of small children will take pictures of their kid in the kitchen, as the parent and other relatives prepare a holiday feast, and post it with the caption, "Look who helped us prepare Easter/Thanksgiving/Christmas dinner!" Sometimes, the kid is even "helping" perform a simple task. That's pretty much the level of help Juliana is capable of offering.
And I'm gonna housefag here, but it's painful to watch Pete use a little orbital sander to strip that adhesive off the kitchen floor. It looks like Corissa bought some power tools, but couldn't be bothered to rent a proper floor sander for a day.
Also, everything in the dining room and living room is getting coated with a fine layer of dust from both the cabinets and floor (and it'll travel through the rest of the house as well) because nobody bothered to hang plastic sheeting over the doorway to keep it contained, or put a box fan blowing out a back window to move dust outside.
Given that the mastic for a lot of old linoleum contained asbestos, this is potentially a disaster. Pete's got a vacuum attached to his sander to suck up dust, but some of it is still going to escape. If he's using the small sander because asbestos is present and he needs to use the vacuum—this is not how asbestos abatement works.
People worry about the presence of lead and asbestos in old houses, but both can be dealt with by sealing them off under layers of paint or paneling. Lead paint's much less of a hazard than asbestos; you have to ingest quite a bit of it, whereas tiny amounts of asbestos dust are carcinogenic. I've got ugly, asbestos-containing "popcorn" ceilings in a house I recently bought, but safe asbestos abatement is not a DIY project. I've painted them for now, but I'll panel over them next summer, which won't cost much more than professional removal and will be less life-disrupting. The entire basement ceiling is asbestos acoustical panels, I painted over them, and as long as they remain in place and intact I have nothing to worry about.
If you ever end up with an older house (pre-1970s), and need to tear shit out, get asbestos tests for samples of paneling, adhesives, flooring materials, insulation, and any "acoustical" treatments you plan on disrupting. Asbestos isn't anything you want to fuck with.
I brought this up at another point in the thread and someone pointed out that the house would have been checked for Asbestos as part of the approval process for the loan so they probably don't halfto worry but again I know nothing.
I wonder if they’re paying the sister and her BF? It’s a lot of work and while they’re shacked up there, they’re probably not making money anywhere else
Are You kidding?! Of course Corissa pays nothing for the labour of her sister and her boyfriend. Rather, the sister should be glad to not get lectured again about thin privilege. Maybe that's the way the sister pays reparations to Corissa to make up for the fatphobic oppression by society.
Going what is known about the family dynamics I believe that Corissa and her mum would screech to hell and back, if the sister would raise the issue of payment. Because family is there for eachother and help eachother, even bordering on slave labour.
I wonder if they’re paying the sister and her BF? It’s a lot of work and while they’re shacked up there, they’re probably not making money anywhere else
corissa's sister is rather pretty and she is dating what seems to be the product of an appalachian incestuous relationship. something weird has to be going on there, too. this entire family seems totally fucked up and dysfunctional...
corissa's sister is rather pretty and she is dating what seems to be the product of an appalachian incestuous relationship. something weird has to be going on there, too. this entire family seems totally fucked up and dysfunctional...
She's dating a distant, emotionally childish man old enough to be her father, because even the pittance of attention he gives her is filling the hole in her soul left by her parents' emotional neglect. All the family attention has always, and will always, get sucked into Corissa's vortex - even after she dies young.
Like I said, what Amanda needs infinitely above constant travel and #vanlife woth her father-lover is a good therapist who can get her to acknowledge the hurt inside herself, and then replace that with healthy self-love and boundaries.
I do house chores in long sleeves and gloves because I cannot stand the feeling of dust on my skin, especially the little wrinkles in the crook of my elbow or between my fingers, so the thought of what sawdust could potentially do inside of J’s wrist folds alone seems painful and potentially terrifying, given their bathing situation.
She's dating a distant, emotionally childish man old enough to be her father, because even the pittance of attention he gives her is filling the hole in her soul left by her parents' emotional neglect. All the family attention has always, and will always, get sucked into Corissa's vortex - even after she dies young.
Like I said, what Amanda needs infinitely above constant travel and #vanlife woth her father-lover is a good therapist who can get her to acknowledge the hurt inside herself, and then replace that with healthy self-love and boundaries.
She's dating a distant, emotionally childish man old enough to be her father, because even the pittance of attention he gives her is filling the hole in her soul left by her parents' emotional neglect. All the family attention has always, and will always, get sucked into Corissa's vortex - even after she dies young.
Like I said, what Amanda needs infinitely above constant travel and #vanlife woth her father-lover is a good therapist who can get her to acknowledge the hurt inside herself, and then replace that with healthy self-love and boundaries.
So that's kind of the hard part about raising children with parents who are entitled and/or narcissistic. Children are assigned roles and aren't really given the freedom to deviate and grow, and we talk about that a lot, but we also don't talk about the lack of support and a soft place to fall and be nurtured.
You, Amanda, are the beautiful, free, independent one, and you don't need much support. Just go do your thing. You don't need a lot of attention or time. This attitude is really damaging to a child, even though they may be the "golden child." So she seeks out this father-lover that props her up emotionally in a way her parents didn't while they were tending to Corissa's real or imagined conditions, her emotional weakness, and not giving her the space to grow into a complete person.
Narcissists don't usually pop up out of nowhere, and I would bet their parents are every bit as terrible as the stars of the thread.
I think this should be a disclaimer in the OP of every thread in BP. A malignant narcissist is not born in a vacuum. Of course, every rule has its exception, but to have the degree of Cluster B pathology our gorls display, something very bad and disruptive almost always has to happen in extremely early childhood.
Of course, every rule has its exception, but to have the degree of Cluster B pathology our gorls display, something very bad and disruptive almost always has to happen in extremely early childhood.
I don't know anything about Dad except that he's fat and buys the gorls expensive snacks, but I'm 99% sure that Corissa said that her mom used to be a therapist. (She now works as a software engineer for a woke BLM-lauding healthcare company.) I feel like a lot of misguided coddling and permissive overparenting were involved in Corissa's childhood. The enabling clearly continues to put it mildly.
Also, Corissa's brother, Topher, was apparently a successful football player at KU; he's now a "poet." Per Amanda, Corissa was a decent athlete when she was younger as well. I think they got used to people kissing their asses and celebrating them for that since sports can contribute to minor cults of personality and undeserved popularity. The Ennekings view themselves as singular and talented people. Corissa has an inflated ego to match her inflated body.
