To be fair, I actually think Calli came off looking pretty bad from this and I like Calli.
If this was any other Twitch Thot scolding someone who dropped $100 to give their opinion and then said "If you want to criticise me, speak to my management", everyone would crucify her. Is the superchatter kinda cringe? Oh yes but she's not better.
The Conor thing is bad. He's forced himself into a lot of Vtuber communities by being the Vtuber hater and wants attention. He was shitting on Hololive, his implication was that even average streamers are popular in Hololive (which is true, but still). He did this all in public. Calli saying he walked it back only in private to her and her friends doesn't mean anything to the general public who have no idea. Conor is a drama queen, he likes attention and he has made it work for him but he kinda just hovers around near them until they notice him now.
Streamers with huge audiences usually only get criticism in supechats because it's the only way they'd ever see it. No one complains when Metokur gets it, or Ralph, or anyone like that. People are seriously acting like they are upset Calli had to go through something like this. It's a negative superchat. That's it.
People are just giving her a lot of leeway because she's a popular Vtuber and there is a lot of simping going on. Imagine if Pokimane did this, would you feel the same?