Because y'all are like crack for my alcoholic habits, especially the Lougie thread, I just gotta chime in with some mild pling and to add onto a previous poster; depression is a bitch and yeah, it can make things a fucking nightmare, but that is also why making routines and some form of structure so, so damn important; because the mind naturally wants to follow patterns and that need to follow routine is essential towards getting over yourself and becoming a functional member of society.
At the moment, I'm a new resident in another country, I've spent the last four years doing freelance shit that barely pays for fuck all because I was constantly travelling back and forth overseas to make my plans a reality and to get to a better place. I'm waiting to get all of my paperwork accepted so I can finally get a job again and be fiscally solvent-
-the thing I hate the most is being able to relate to Lougie and KangaLou, because it's so easy to feel trapped and to wallow in your own misery and to never try because it somehow feels like the world is against you. But that's the depression talking and the lack of personal initiative breaking through.
One thing that has helped break that, which seems to be a more foreign concept than my existence in this new country, is that you celebrate the little things and build off of them in order to build up yourself. Just waking up, taking a shower, and cleaning something is so much worth appreciating and being proud of, than it is to do nothing.
There is fuck all preventing someone from doing the laundry or washing dishes; you do it for yourself in order to prove that you're worth something to yourself, something that is so foreign to these people. You don't do it for the internet to congratulate you on basic life skills or because you're a poor persecuted trans person, but for yourself and as an investment into yourself. Which is a huge thing these people lack and refuse to instill in themselves. It's also another reason why I think these people choose to be transgender; it's an easy route to finding some form of social acceptance for doing fuck all about one's own life.
Meanwhile, I would never wish the feelings that I and fellow trans folk have about our bodies onto my worst enemies. It's miserable and to see these people co-opt something so serious just because it's trendy or gives them an easy way out of their own personal responsibility is offensive and entirely cheapens the disconnect that trans people feel with their bodies and the battle between personal acceptance and what we can change. Trans people have existed forever and KF is the only place I really bring it up on a personal level because so many cows misrepresent something that is almost akin to body integrity disorder. We just live as who we see ourselves as and want nothing more, but now that it's trendy to be trans; sure it's great to get more awareness out there like everyone else under the alphabet spectrum and to build understanding, but it seems like the transgender/sexual movement is entirely without gatekeepers and people with enough courage to oust the pests and fetishists that the entire pool is poisoned and it feels a lot better to completely hide your own identity rather than be associated with a movement co-opted by Tumblr children, to the point where people like me and others are labelled "truscum". Scum for judging people for taking a label and ruining it.
There is fuck all preventing Lougie et all from regularly shaving their "chin parasites" other than sheer laziness and being wholly superficial- the whole thing about girl dick/boy pussy was originally for people who cannot transition, whether it be a lack of funds or because science isn't at the point to do proper GRS, not as an umbrella for people who just cannot be fucked.
I will proudly accept my PL and puzzle pieces now. I'm also always down to answer questions if anyone ever has any.