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[ in response to guys hitting on girls]Well, I don't want to derail the thread soooo:How did I end up in the situations? Most of the time, I was just minding my business and doing regular every day activities.
This stuff starts when you're young and doesn't get better as you age. In middle school, I was reading in the school gym while waiting for school to start, and this guy I had never talked to before sits behind me, pops my bra strap, and then tried to lift my shirt up to "see what color my bra was". He did this in front of everyone else that was in the gym, and most of the guys that saw this thought it was hilarious. My friends told him off, but it didn't do any good, the guys told my friends it was just a joke and to lighten up. That guy tried to do it again but my brothers threatened to kick his ass, so he stopped (lol)
Keep in mind, I am an introverted person and I also dress very conservatively, and my school's dress code was strict to the point we were all basically wearing uniforms, so it's not like I was dressed up as a bimbo (not that dressing that way would justify being harassed).
Other times, I was bagging groceries at the self check out, returning my grocery cart. Getting gas, at the car wash, etc..
While at work as a cashier, I was getting creeped on every single day in front of customers.
I used to go out walking or jogging by myself, but I stopped doing that when I became sick of guys that would drive by slowly behind me and scare the shit out of me. Keep in mind, I live in a safe neighborhood.
There's honestly way too many situations to list. And lots of guys want to think that the only time this stuff happens is when you're walking alone in a dark alley, but that just isn't true. Sometimes I was alone, but most of the times I wasn't. I was either in public or with friends.
Obviously, I am alive today and it's not like I'm traumatized. That said, I remember being young when this stuff happened and how much I hated being a girl because of it. I'm glad this troon shit wasn't around when I was young, because to be frank, I do believe I would have gone down the troon route. I envied my brothers and wanted to be just like them, and as an adult, I can look back and realize part of the reason I hated being a girl so much was because I felt weak and powerless, and blamed my female body for my weakness. Which is kind of true, isn't it? Females are the weaker sex, that's just facts.
That's why Dr. Sidhbh Gallagher is so evil, so disgusting. She knows exactly how it feels, she also knows there's no way to change your biological reality. And yet here she is, exploiting the universal insecurity and fear that all young girls experience, for profit. I hope hell is real.
You're right this is derailing the thread but almost every instance you mention is just guys flirting with you. In middle school awkward boys pick on girls they like because they're young, dumb, and awkward. I'm guilty of this.
At the supermarket it's desperate guys who admire you, this will not and can not change... it's part of the human condition.
If someone is following you while jogging then BE ON GUARD! That one is fucked up. I'm not going to lie and say there aren't dangerous men but they're rare.
You mentioned feeling weak and powerless. Women are vulnerable alone and cornerstones when with others. It's sad that modern culture doesn't value feminity (be strong and fight like Cpt. Marvel) and It may even seem alien to people reading this who are from a single parent household but in a familial unit women reign.
The saying: "behind ever strong man is a stronger women" is true. Man and women are neither inferior or superior, they are both essential.