I don't think you understand, let me repeaterino.
You literally cannot negotiate with Russia, they will, even if you're on their side, try to fuck you in the ass. That's just how the Russia psyche or whatever the fuck works, they pathogicaly need to bully the pathetic weak ex Soviet states into total submission or make life for them a living hell.
All this back and forth about referendums, bombed children is just some stupid grift vs grift bullshit that means nothing. Fact is Putin attacked a country because he could get a fast muscle on Ukraine and make the West shit itself, which isn't working all that well for him now. You literally cannot have a clearer side in the wrong even if it glowed like the Sun in the night.