do women like ex not get the irony of claiming to be against strict gender roles and then calling women "aspiring men" or "not (stereotypically) masculine enough" to be butch (despite barely having a claim to it herself by her own standards as has been stated)? like the butches are "born not worn" sperging for instance. homosexuals are indeed "born not worn", but butch is just as much of a fashion as it is a lifestyle. it could be argued that butch is a more or less natural inclination towards some culturally masculine behaviors, but it is just stupid to imply appearance has nothing to do with it. it's not any more magical a phenomenon than a feminine gay man. butches do indeed "buy clothes", like mere mortals. if you're prepared to say gender identity isn't real, cultural gender is situational, and people can't be the other gender, you also have to be prepared to say that masculine and feminine mean very little and that there's no "threshold" for when a woman becomes a completely different type of woman or more of a man by performing gender roles, without being totally logically inconsistent. the bar for what appears masculine for women to the american public has become lower in recent years amidst the rise of gender feels, but this mysticism and gatekeeping is weird. again who even gets to stand on a pedestal and judge this shit, is being a more stereotypical butch like joey brite better? that generation is on its last legs, butch and masc will acquire new meanings and stereotypes in the future. again the neuroses are completely divorced from the carefree nature of the average lesbian. this shit doesn't even anger me, it's just tiring. you're selling freedom of female expression on the TERF side. at least act like it.
also i'm supremely confused about exulansic's late partner, she said she was dating a "transfeminine" man long term at some point, someone else found evidence that her late partner was a man, so is she mourning that same guy?! who knows. her deep grief at the loss of this male partner who she wanted to be with long term kind of suggests that she loved him and is therefore not a lesbian. to be clear, lesbians can have a history of dating or fucking men, so long as they were not romantically or sexually attracted and felt railroaded into it when they were less assertive, married young, etc. but she has reported despondency and lasting trauma, which suggests it was present. so why the fuck is she skull measuring actual lesbians. i'm so turned around. having no interest in men that aren't your late fiance isn't an excuse to say you're a homosexual. bi maybe? i wish she would clear this up publicly because right now it sounds like she omitted facts to deceive people.
and no, it isn't being a "privacy violating vulture manipulating the bereaved" to ask the sex of your partner. anyway this "fake butches" thing is hypocritical and retarded and seems like another years long battle for her. she literally wears makeup, dresses, and wigs, and has long hair. of course, she has flimsy medical reasons for the makeup and wigs, and pocahontas reasons for the hair. she obviously hasn't worked a physical day in her life, like the lumberjack stereotype, and doesn't come off as extroverted or a provider, like a 1950s hunk. if she wants to play that game she's going to lose it instantly.
