its because they hate women but simultaneously want to not hate women
high levels of cognitive dissonance like that makes people schizophrenic and irrational
Kind of. It's that they have a certain expectation of women that women aren't living up to, and it makes them upset that their idea of what a woman "should" be isn't what they are in reality.
I will say this, and I'll prepare myself for the dumb ratings to follow, but I don't necessarily think all self-proclaimed incels are bad people. There are basically two camps of incel that I've noticed. The first camp is the socially awkward, nerdy guys who just are terrible at approaching women, don't know how to do it for whatever reason, and they're upset because they want a relationship and don't know how to get one. Unfortunately, if they end up mingling with the incel crowd, that anger boils over into resentment and hatred and they become misogynists, but they're not totally hopeless. I think they can be helped if given the right tools.
However, there's also the second camp, which our good friend Johnny here falls into, and this is the camp of out-and-out misogynists who have this exceptionally narrow view of what a woman should be, and they just hate the fact that women aren't that thing. These are the folks who legitimately believe women are just sex dispensers who exist to cook and clean and suck their dick on demand without complaint.
I personally don't like to try and generalize incels, because I've found there's lots of different reasons one might fall into that crowd, and I do think there's some merit, however slim it may be, to some of the stuff they say. I think a good number of them are just ignorant and confused and need help.
Johnny here, on the other hand, is just a total piece of shit. I mean, fuck, even if you are of the "boo hoo, woe is me, women won't fuck me" persuasion, going around and straight-up harassing women and being a creepy fuck does
nothing to endear people to you. I honestly don't know what this guy is thinking. He's gonna go up to a girl and say "suck my dick you dumb bitch" and she's gonna say "oh wow, you're so laconic and manly, let's go to your place right now?" Dumbass.