Having actually read his update, it seems he and his now wife have actually come to some kind of understanding, and the therapist was mostly to blame. Said therapist is now unemployed, and it turns out that his wife was not the first person whose relationships she ruined.
Sounds like that therapist tried to forcibly spread an ideology among her patients. Reminds me of school counselors whose response to every problem a kid comes to her (it's almost always women who attempt that kind of shit) with is to troon the kid out.
yeah, sloppy groomer therapists and shrinks are nothing new, it's because of their cultural air of authority on mental and relationship help. People with soggy minds are easy enough to manipulate for an unqualified loser with a type B personality disorder. But put them in that situation, when the therapist is telling them to do something they already half wanted to; Nothing will break the indoctrination unless a 3rd party with a triple digit IQ shows up.
the internet is full of psych munchies who complain endlessly about
Word salad is a lot more beneficial than actually solving and treating the problems that could end up destroying and damaging a person’s personal lifestyle and mental state if left unchecked and unsupervised.
It's not really about stupidity as much as vulnerablity. All people are cult material if you catch them at the right time and smarter people are some of the best targets. They can come up explainations and excuse so much faster than dummies so it can be harder to snap them out of it and they tend to think they are above of falling into something like that.
Strong synergy. Corporations and Polycules are both known for claiming “we are like a family” while abusing members.
This is something that stuck out to me from page 1 of this thread. Jealousy is a key human emotion and you can't just turn it off. The idea you are "smart enough" or that reading reddit posts will undo a basic human feeling is pure ego driven delusion. Poly can really only works if you have zero love or feelings for your partner and at that point why even bother? Why would you even be dating them? If you do love them it's purely destructive. Long-term there are no happy endings in polyamory. Ruined marriages, STD's, jealousy, anger, depression and sadness. For what? So you could COOM more? Personally I don't find that a great reason to ruin a relationship. It's just negative for everyone unless you are a sociopath Ted Bundy type who feels no attachment to anyone.
Jealousy and shame can be really useful, they both serve a purpose. But in the current year jealousy always means either immaturity or overly possessive psycho behavior, and feeling shame is about being mentally crippled beyond any capacity to function. They're indeed treated as things that should not exist. This thread has so many examples of narsissistic assholes feeling no shame while they shame their supposed partners into quiet suffering for having natural feelings of jealousy.
There's this weirdly persistent delusion in the modern era that you can just willpower/reason yourself out of key human emotions like some kind of vulcan.
Shame is generally mentally unhealthy though. What these polyamorist need is guilt, which is quite healthy and something I'm sure very few of them feel.
I don't agree with much of that. To me, it reeks of the kind of autistic suppression of emotion that characterizes the worst aspects of the poly crowd.
