Mental illness / Self Diagnosis

[Jaimas]

Maybe this thread should be moved to the off-topic boards? It seems to be less about tumblrites and more about self-diagnosing in general at this point.

I'd agree but Self-Diagnosis is a Tumblr trait, to the point where we can point at almost a third of the cows we've covered from there that've done it, in regards to everything from Autism to Sociopathy. The first article I ever wrote on the Farms pretty much centered around this very subject.

 

[PetalPinkPuppy]

I'd agree but Self-Diagnosis is a Tumblr trait, to the point where we can point at almost a third of the cows we've covered from there that've done it, in regards to everything from Autism to Sociopathy. The first article I ever wrote on the Farms pretty much centered around this very subject.

You have a point. I mean I saw self dxers pre-tumblr but it wasn't a fad nor as widespread. It was just some attention whores here and there looking for sympathy or money.

Are there any Tumblr cows that don't have a self dx that's absolutely ridiculous?

 

[ActualKiwi]

You have a point. I mean I saw self dxers pre-tumblr but it wasn't a fad nor as widespread. It was just some attention whores here and there looking for sympathy or money.

Are there any Tumblr cows that don't have a self dx that's absolutely ridiculous?

Asking that question is like going fishing with a ripped net- you're probably not going to catch much.. It's honestly like a virus of it's own that spread through tumblr..

 

[holy buttocks]

These people go to doctors for validation sometimes and clog up mental health services for the actual mental cases with their detritus. these idiots have real world effects.

Also, I've noticed the tumblrinas have started claiming to have both NPD and AVPD. Bitch those are mutually exclusive!!!!!!

 

[ActualKiwi]

These people go to doctors for validation sometimes and clog up mental health services for the actual mental cases with their detritus. these idiots have real world effects.

Also, I've noticed the tumblrinas have started claiming to have both NPD and AVPD. Bitch those are mutually exclusive!!!!!!

Yup. Along with the ones who claim to be both hypersexual and asexual, or that weigh 300+ pounds and claim to be ano/bul. Or claim to be srsly trans, but seem perfectly happy without changing anything about themselves or the way they present.

 

[Cinnamonn]

ah yes, 'cute self-care', the fucking bane of my existence. The people that parrot that the loudest also cry about mentally ill people daring to say that mental illness is a fucking disease and a struggle, because apparently we should only focus on nice comfy things all the time and not actually do the shit that legit helps. While relaxing really DOES help at times, other times you need to fucking force yourself out of your bed and do shit you don't want to.

Then again, tumblr seems to think mental illness is something that should be envied and is a goddamn gift, instead of the impairment it actually is. They wear it like it's badges of PRIDE that they 'have' these illnesses and aren't really getting help for it, when actual sufferers normally just want to be like everyone else in society and work their asses off to manage their shit, and would probably happily get rid of them if there were ever a chance to.

Yeah the whole idea that it could possibly be a good thing, a badge of honor even, to have a mental illness is baffling. Yes sometimes having a mental illness can give you a different perspective on the world but for the most part it's just hell and the idea that someone suffering from a truly debilitating mental illness wouldn't want it to stop is crazy. It's like saying that someone who has cancer wouldn't want to get rid of it because hey their tumor makes them unique.

It's sad, especially because a lot of the people on tumblr running around giving themselves a million different labels are as young as thirteen, and are just kids who probably just want some way to fit in with this group that parades itself as so so edge, so forward thinking, and so inclusive as long as you are 'oppressed' in some way. They're kids who don't know any better getting encouraged by a shit ton of 20 somethings who should frankly know better by that point in their lives but they're still acting like children.

 

[Secretly Satan]

Yeah the whole idea that it could possibly be a good thing, a badge of honor even, to have a mental illness is baffling. Yes sometimes having a mental illness can give you a different perspective on the world but for the most part it's just hell and the idea that someone suffering from a truly debilitating mental illness wouldn't want it to stop is crazy. It's like saying that someone who has cancer wouldn't want to get rid of it because hey their tumor makes them unique.

It's sad, especially because a lot of the people on tumblr running around giving themselves a million different labels are as young as thirteen, and are just kids who probably just want some way to fit in with this group that parades itself as so so edge, so forward thinking, and so inclusive as long as you are 'oppressed' in some way. They're kids who don't know any better getting encouraged by a shit ton of 20 somethings who should frankly know better by that point in their lives but they're still acting like children.

I would like to see a tumblrina come up to some 6'7 ft tall dude struggling with violent BPD IRL and saying "I don't understand why you would want to get better, mental illnesses are so trendy and cool" and then getting beaten to Hell and back.

 

[PetalPinkPuppy]

I would like to see a tumblrina come up to some 6'7 ft tall dude struggling with violent BPD IRL and saying "I don't understand why you would want to get better, mental illnesses are so trendy and cool" and then getting beaten to Hell and back.

Your average tumblrina would last less than a minute against someone who is mentally ill and having a violent episode. There's a reason ward staff at mental hospitals are trained to do take downs.

The mean part of me thinks they'd make excellent meat shields though...

 

[Cinnamonn]

I would like to see a tumblrina come up to some 6'7 ft tall dude struggling with violent BPD IRL and saying "I don't understand why you would want to get better, mental illnesses are so trendy and cool" and then getting beaten to Hell and back.

Tumblrinas can't even handle actually mentally ill people on that site saying "hey maybe you shouldn't use mental illness as an excuse to be a douchebag, or as an excuse to be coddled".

Also a man struggling with violent BPD wouldn't beat them up because of his illness, he'd beat them up because he's a man and men are raised to be violent under the patriarchy, god, this is why men need feminism. /end sarcasm

 

[Wildchild]

I deserve a prize of some sort, I've self-diagnosed myself with cancer for 15 years, and I'm still alive.

 

[ActualKiwi]

I deserve a prize of some sort, I've self-diagnosed myself with cancer for 15 years, and I'm still alive.

I feel you, fellow cancer-kin. We should take to tumblr and start a whole new hashtag for our kind! (seriously though, cancer treatment sucks)

 

[PetalPinkPuppy]

I feel you, fellow cancer-kin. We should take to tumblr and start a whole new hashtag for our kind! (seriously though, cancer treatment sucks)

There's probably already trans-cancer kin whining about how privileged actual cancer survivors are.

 

[Cinnamonn]

There's probably already trans-cancer kin whining about how privileged actual cancer survivors are.

I tried searching cancerkin on tumblr and all I found was a post about being crabkin.

 

[What's Her Face]

This thread seems to have died, but I just joined Kiwi Farms specifically to chime in on it: the mental illness side of Tumblr is a goddamn toxic waste filled cesspool.

And this is fairly power-leveling (again, I'm new so I'm not sure how much I'm allowed to reveal about my personal experiences of being a past member of this uwu mental illness uwu cult, also I have no idea how to put this under a SPOILER) but I finally deleted my Tumblr about six or seven months ago, after getting bitched at / blocked by several mutuals just because I reblogged a gif set of different Lolita-type characters in recent film. One mutual reblogged it and accused me of being a contributor to pedo-culture or some bullshit, it was really bizarre, because there was nothing sexual about what I'd reposted-- BUT, I'm glad it happened, because I finally fucking realized that my use of Tumblr was playing a huge role in how miserable I was making myself.

I was diagnosed with BPD by several mental health specialists / doctors / whatever, and I go to therapy for it (unlike most of these brats). But because of the culture of "it's not YOUR fault that you have a mental illlness, and you are BEAUTIFUL and SPECIAL just the way you are! " I wasn't bothering to try and work on it because I was super into, you know, being a lazy little shit and whining about it on the internet all day. And again, let me reiterate that I was biiiiiiiiig into this side of Tumblr. Like, I'm shocked at the total turnaround my life has had in the months since deleting, because I'm finally seeing that these ~self-care~ posts, #ableism accusations, That [Mental Illness / Disorder] Feel When..., self dxing is all total bullshit. And it's reeeeeeally harmful bullshit-- I know I was such a nightmare to be around, both my IRL and my URL selves, I was exactly this type of Tumblrina (minus the self-dxing because I've always thought that was for oppression points). What these morons don't want to see (because I definitely didn't) is that it's up to the individual to get help and actively work on themselves, or else, yeah, they're gonna be fucking miserable for the rest of their lives. Tumblr is so infuriating. I don't even talk to a lot of my internet friends from there anymore because they're so whiny and just... despicable. Completely abhorrent. Etc. I see too much of how I used to be in them and it's someone I never want to become again.

So, speaking from experience, yes, someday some of these kids will absolutely be mortified at who they used to be... depending on whether or not they're able to yank themselves out of Tumblr and out of their assholes, because let's face it: some of these kids won't be able to.

Alright, anywho, those are my two-cents, I apologize and will edit accordingly if I'm breaking some forum rules.

 

[Doc Smith]

I'm glad you did revive it, because I've been thinking about this subject for a while myself. A common trend I've noticed among people featured here with a litany of self dx'd conditions is the only official diagnosis most of them have is stuff like depression and anxiety. And I think people severely underestimate how much depression fucks with you. It has a pretty broad range of symptoms, and I think kids that are still developing emotional awareness misinterpret these as being signs of something else.

I think a big part of the problem is really personal stuff like history of abuse and mental illness ends up being used as cred to talk about certain subjects or act certain ways. The stuff you once kept private or only between a select few has to be broadcasted now, and I think that kind of mindset is very dangerous for exactly the reasons you mentioned: unless you fess up to being abused or mentally ill, you end up not being allowed to like certain things or express certain viewpoints without being accused of some flavor of abuse apologism.

 

[What's Her Face]

I'm glad you did revive it, because I've been thinking about this subject for a while myself. A common trend I've noticed among people featured here with a litany of self dx'd conditions is the only official diagnosis most of them have is stuff like depression and anxiety. And I think people severely underestimate how much depression fucks with you. It has a pretty broad range of symptoms, and I think kids that are still developing emotional awareness misinterpret these as being signs of something else.

I think a big part of the problem is really personal stuff like history of abuse and mental illness ends up being used as cred to talk about certain subjects or act certain ways. The stuff you once kept private or only between a select few has to be broadcasted now, and I think that kind of mindset is very dangerous for exactly the reasons you mentioned: unless you fess up to being abused or mentally ill, you end up not being allowed to like certain things or express certain viewpoints without being accused of some flavor of abuse apologism.

Yes, exactly! Thank you for replying to this. And these kids / ADULTS use their mental illnesses-- real or not-- to justify treating people like shit. Saying "it wasn't me, it was my DISORDER!" is definitely a hell of a lot easier than acknowledging and apologizing for hurting someone, because when you do the latter, you typically have to, you know, work on yourself to make sure you don't pull that shit on someone else. That's what these people don't get but just love to preach about: everyone else needs to be accountable, except for them, the true victims.

 

[Sparkle Sloth]

Saying "it wasn't me, it was my DISORDER!" is definitely a hell of a lot easier than acknowledging and apologizing for hurting someone

It's hilarious because excuses like that, used to deflect blame and make the other person feel guilty, are tactics of emotional abuse. For a group of brats that have such warped ideas of harassment/abuse and whatnot, it's amusing.

Age old advice: "your disorder is an explanation, not an excuse." Then again, so many of tumblrites are teenagers/minors and for whatever reasons, minors are not accountable for their actions...

 

[Doc Smith]

Yes, exactly! Thank you for replying to this. And these kids / ADULTS use their mental illnesses-- real or not-- to justify treating people like shit.

Ugh, yeah, I completely agree. I think it's the worst when they expect other people to just put up with it. Can't name the number of tumblr posts I've seen that basically say "you just have to be this person's punching bag and put up with everything they do to you or you're a bad person uwu uwu uwu". Which is not only incredibly unhealthy, it's completely the opposite of how you're SUPPOSED to handle unhealthy, emotionally dependent relationships.

You're not supposed to cater to one person's every whims, even if they're legitimately mentally ill. That isn't real friendship. That's being an enabler.

 

[urgeō]

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So, speaking from experience, yes, someday some of these kids will absolutely be mortified at who they used to be... depending on whether or not they're able to yank themselves out of Tumblr and out of their assholes, because let's face it: some of these kids won't be able to.
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It is painfully clear their growth can only go so far if they keep themselves from being exposed to the real world. Depending on how deep-seated their delusional pit is, they run the risk of a classic self-fulfilling prophecy.

All I can take from those raging DX-shoppers posts is they play-pretend to disguise their maladjusted sheltering from a young age.

 

[What's Her Face]

@Doc Smith I recently had to have a "friend break-up" exactly because this girl (and she's also a hella SJW and "diagnosed" me with autism "the first time I met you", and I've been having my head tested since I was two years old, and autism has NEVER been brought up) was using me as a punching bag. Wouldn't take responsibility when she would say something hurtful and would blame it on the other person (or on me, and sometimes for things I had nothing to do with), has a massive superiority complex... oh, and she self-dx'd herself with Aspeberger's.

It's hilarious because excuses like that, used to deflect blame and make the other person feel guilty, are tactics of emotional abuse. For a group of brats that have such warped ideas of harassment/abuse and whatnot, it's amusing.

Age old advice: "your disorder is an explanation, not an excuse." Then again, so many of tumblrites are teenagers/minors and for whatever reasons, minors are not accountable for their actions...

Yes! Tumblr tries to get off on excusing nasty behavior from friends because they have a ~mental illness~, but one day these kids are gonna learn the hard way (like I did, because I pulled this same shit on people all the time until I finally left Tumblr and fucking went outside and got slapped in the face by reality) that they are going to lose a ton of important relationships in their lives because people can only be pushed so far. That's why I can't be friends with this girl, she uses her various illnesses / disorders to excuse her hurtful behavior rather than explain it and continue to try and work on it. And like, I'm not anywhere close to being a normal, functioning adult yet, but... Jeeeesus Christ, I physically cringe when I think about the person I was while on tumblr dot com.

(Also, off-topic, but am I power leveling a lot? I'm not sure how to add spoilers because I know I've posted some text-walls.)