I do think people do the blaming game too much, but the whole idea of "surgery to get a sense of (artifical) normalcy" is such a big, intrinsic part of the problem in my opinion.
John Money started his whole "gender" idea because he wanted intersex kid's bodies to conform to his idea of normality ("
When I asked Money about Diamond's appeal to delay surgery on intersexual babies until they are old enough to speak for themselves, Money emphatically rejected the idea. "
You cannot be an it," he declared, adding that Diamond's recommendations would lead intersexes back to the days when they locked themselves away in shame or worked as circus freaks.")
So kids have to suffer to be "normalized", but this normalization is completely artificial, you cannot create a vagina or a penis, you can create a hole or a flesh appendage. You cannot bring back your breasts, either. I understand that she has been through a traumatic experience, but another cosmetic surgery will not restore anything she has lost, and frankly with detrans people specially it seens like it could be harmful. We all agree that one of their biggest issues is that they seem unable to grasp that surgery cannot recreate their bodies in the image they desire, so when they try those reconstructions, are they aware they are once again making merely cosmetic changes? Have we not seen how detrans people can still maintain "magical thinking" when it comes to those surgeries (extreme cases are those thinking they could have phallo or vaginoplasty to detransition, when that would be more than likely a horrible idea)?
What I think is best is to try to accept your body as it is, rather to continue to seek more plastic surgery. She has hated her body since she was a teenager and she continues to hate it today. If it was something to truly benefit her quality of life, like stumpy getting rid of that stump that almost killed from thrombosis, I am all for it but implants, while not necessarily a problem, could be a warning sign. Like with ex-anorexics, they need to learn a healthy relationship with food so certain diets or counting calories are a warning sign.
Nothing of this is to say she is at fault or she doesn't deserve sympathy, but it does raise a bigger issue of why implants are so important for her mental health.
(also sorry this is written so weirdly, I am bad at english)