This Sander thing has to be a marketing ploy. He's selling himself as this wide eyed defender of the downtrodden who only wishes to spread love while searching for a true love of his own...
Fucking gag me lol
I wouldn't be surprised if he's pumping and dumping regularly. Look at the comments on every post. There are lonely women who eat that shit up. Fucking let's players get caught doing this all the time. We might hear about this in a few months or a couple years, however long it takes for one of the women to get over her embarrassment and make a reddit post.
I don't doubt Sander gets some thirsty messages; he got fawned over on that "Eligible Jewish Batchelor" insta, after all. The main issue is he has literally no game.
It's one thing to think "he's fucked up but I can
fix him". That misses the reasons why some fucked up women actually go for dumpster fires - it's generally because the man is an abusive dickhead and comes across as aggressively masculine in a way that is kinda "dangerous" and "sexy", he's an abusive dickhead but he
chooses to be
nice to you (most of the time) so you're
special, or he's an abusive dickhead but a challenge you can fix so you're
special and win a man who won't leave you because you're
special and stuck with him.
Notice how none of those men are easy to deal with? They're aggressive and testosterone fuelled and/or make the woman feel peversely special by being a challenge. Sander is a soyboy who pretends to love everyone. We've literally seen him clockblock himself by doing TikToks with an actual cis woman he was trying to date, or filming those girls he met in Cali on the beach for one of his stupid "finding myself" montages. Those women might message him on the off-chance but will rapidly be put off.
He continually emasculates himself and also is so desperate to be liked that he isn't a challenge. The sort of woman who'd ignore red flags to be with a bastard isn't going to be into him, even if they did slide into his DMs initially.
At the other end of the spectrum is the proto-Jeanettes of the world (I agree with the previous commenter that this isn't a specifically Jewish thing, although JAPs do definitely show this tendency) who are on the lookout for a rube. Sander works as a mark, they could wrap him around their little finger, but why bother? He lives at home, has a joke of a job with no prospects, and has no prestige that has any currency in those circles. There's no benefit to exploiting a man with nothing to offer.
Trans women probably try it on with him, but he's not fucking trans women because it's clear from his interactions with Hope and Peppermint that having a trans woman interested in him terrifies him (both because of a genuine lack of attraction and because he's scared of getting cancelled). So no dice.
He probably got laid in university when he was more in shape, hadn't yet become such a sperg, still had his hair and was surrounded by women who might reasonably think "Yeah, why not? He's decent looking and I can just pump and dump
him". But that's probably it.
His only real options are desperate unattractive women who are worried about dying alone or hear their biological clock ticking (or maybe hot-but-crazy BPD psychos) but it appears he has some sort of standards. Also at this point I wouldn't be shocked if Jeanette vets any potential options. So yeah, I'm pretty confident to say Sander hasn't been getting any for some time.