As someone from Colorado, I can honestly say that 90% of any "alternative" groups of people, be it in music, general lifestyle, gaming, etc., are full of people similar to Kindness. Obviously, they aren't as extreme as her, but most people like this rarely get regular people to bat an eye.
This place is a fucking breeding ground for attention-seeking weirdos, who are all walking around with a handful of self-diagnosed illnesses, a myriad of ridiculous fetishes/pronouns/ideals, and an intense need to feed into callout culture.
I feel if Boner and Alyssa were to actually split up, in the conventional way, she would load up her Twitter feed with stories of "abuse", "gaslighting", and "manipulation", waiting until enough people gave her pity before jumping back into full-time LARPing as a "system" again.
People like her are products of whatever troony environment they put themselves in. If the next balding amhole she finds herself leaking pus over plays guitar, all of her updates will be about is her life as a queer musician.