🐱 Transgender People Reveal Biggest 'Culture Shocks' After Transitioning

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Thousands of users flocked to a viral internet forum to share their biggest "culture shocks" after undergoing gender transitions.

The Original Poster (OP), known as u/TyDye386, asked the viral question in Reddit's popular "Ask Reddit" thread where it received more than 6,000 upvotes and 4,300 comments. The post can be found here.

Many users said their social interactions changed after their transition, while others said they needed time to get used to the lack of pockets in women's clothing.

Transgender Americans​

According to data analyzed by Pew Research Center, an estimated 5 percent of young adults in America identify with a gender different than the sex they were assigned at birth.

More than four in 10 Americans report knowing someone who is transgender compared to three in 10 Americans in 2017.

Americans under 30 are more likely than their older counterparts to identify as trans or nonbinary, according to Pew Research.

What Does Transitioning Mean?​

The National Center for Transgender Equalitydefines a gender transition as: "the time period during which a person begins to live according to their gender identity, rather than the gender they were thought to be at birth."

It is important to recognize that gender transitions differ depending on the individual, with some opting to change their name, pronouns, appearance, and sometimes identification documents.


Others choose to undergo hormone therapy while others choose to get gender-affirming surgery.

"No specific set of steps is necessary to 'complete' a transition—it's a matter of what is right for each person," NCTE said. "All transgender people are entitled to the same dignity and respect, regardless of which legal or medical steps they have taken."

Biggest Culture Shocks​

More than 4,300 users commented on the post asking "Trans people of Reddit, what was the biggest 'culture shock' you noticed after transitioning to your gender?"

'Bud'​

"People weren't joking when they said Canadians use the word "bud" a lot when talking to boys," one user commented.

'One of the Girls'​

"The amount of women in my family, my female friends, and even female acquaintances now confiding every single deep dark detail of their life in me, or just openly talking about their every bodily function," another user commented. "I became 'one of the girls' way before I was comfortable with it."

Safety​

"As a passing almost fully transitioned trans woman, it's that people are a *lot* more concerned about my safety as a woman than they ever were as a man," another wrote.

"I am MtF [Male to Female] and even though I knew about it, the amount of sexism, harassment and sexual assault is shocking," another commented. "Logically, I knew it happened. I've had people tell me all about it before. But once I started passing as a woman, holy fuck. Sexual comments happen all the time, even just sitting at a stoplight in my car, people have shouted through my window sexual shit. More than once!"

Confusion​

"I never adjusted my voice after transitioning, so my voice does tend to cause confusion, and yet, rarely an issue," one user commented.

Men's Restrooms​

"Men's restrooms are weird slits in the fabric of the universe where social norms don't make sense anymore. Do NOT look at anyone. Do NOT speak to anyone," another commented.

Women's Clothing​

"The lack of pockets," one user wrote.

"Welcome to sad reality of feminine clothes," another commenter replied.

Mental Health​

"As a 'passing' almost fully transitioned male, I've been told to suck up my mental problems A LOT more (and by that I mean even more than a lot) than when I looked like a female," one user commented.

Anonymity...and Pockets​

"Male here. suddenly no one gives a shit about me, I feel totally anonymous. no one makes any comments about me or double takes or smiles or anything. I'll get a nod but that's it."

"Welcome to being a man. We have jackets," a user replied.

"More importantly, we have pockets," another added.
 
"Men's restrooms are weird slits in the fabric of the universe where social norms don't make sense anymore. Do NOT look at anyone. Do NOT speak to anyone," another commented.

What the fuck is up with the restroom fetish shit with these people? I still fucking have no clue. The public restroom is just a place to shit and piss and go till some point in the mid 2010s where itsuddenly became this oppressivive or mystical place to some gender-minded people. You don't go there to talk with anyone whether you're a fucking man or woman, unless you're pissing and shitting with friends.
 
"The amount of women in my family, my female friends, and even female acquaintances now confiding every single deep dark detail of their life in me, or just openly talking about their every bodily function," another user commented. "I became 'one of the girls' way before I was comfortable with it."
Pressing X to doubt.
"As a passing almost fully transitioned trans woman, it's that people are a *lot* more concerned about my safety as a woman than they ever were as a man," another wrote.
Hammering X to doubt.
"I am MtF [Male to Female] and even though I knew about it, the amount of sexism, harassment and sexual assault is shocking," another commented. "Logically, I knew it happened. I've had people tell me all about it before. But once I started passing as a woman, holy fuck. Sexual comments happen all the time, even just sitting at a stoplight in my car, people have shouted through my window sexual shit. More than once!"
Nuking X from orbit to doubt.

Every statement from the transwomen in here reads like textbook fetish shit and the statements from the transmen sound like women getting a cold dose of reality that life isn't all sunshine and privilege as a dude.
 
Every statement from the transwomen in here reads like textbook fetish shit and the statements from the transmen sound like women getting a cold dose of reality that life isn't all sunshine and privilege as a dude.
MTF sounds like fetish fics
FTM sounds like a bad Seinfeld routine “why don’t lady pants have pockets” “what’s the deal with no eye contact in mens restrooms”
 
"Men's restrooms are weird slits in the fabric of the universe where social norms don't make sense anymore. Do NOT look at anyone. Do NOT speak to anyone," another commented.

I'm just laughing at the idea of a 5'2'' Aiden asking a guy from work to go to the toilet with them to gossip about the boys and clean up their makeup, and being astounded when the guy calls them weird
 
"I am MtF [Male to Female] and even though I knew about it, the amount of sexism, harassment and sexual assault is shocking," another commented. "Logically, I knew it happened. I've had people tell me all about it before. But once I started passing as a woman, holy fuck. Sexual comments happen all the time, even just sitting at a stoplight in my car, people have shouted through my window sexual shit. More than once!"
Dear Penthouse,

I have become such a smoking hot bimbotastic lady I am now a victim of the sexism. Men cannot control their impure thoughts and throbbing erections within a 70 mile radius of my luscious body and it has become a problem in my life. The amount of times I've been sexually assaulted today alone would shock you. As I was driving to work earlier one biker caught a glimpse of me through the darkened glass I installed for my security and did the awooga thing they do in cartoons as his eyes popped out of his head and steam arose from his ears, alerting all the males in the region and causing a horde of horny men to descend upon me. What should I do to become less effortlessly hot so men will stop being driven insane by their carnal desires upon seeing my visage?

Cordially yours, Tiffany
 
"Do NOT look at anyone. Do NOT speak to anyone," another commented."
What are you talking about, where in the world is this not a thing?
Im imagining a world where her concerns are normal, a womans in the stall and a head pops out under the wall and theyre like "Hey mate, everything coming out all right?" "Oh fantastic, a 10/10 piss, everything is just coming out perfectly!! How about you?"
Womens bathrooms are fuckin wild apparently.
 
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Lol, that only real new experience is the Female to Male ones that learn once they at least look like a 13 year old boy no one gives a shit about them.

The greatest Existential Crisis a women can have is were no one cares about them, no longer gives them attention, etc is just a random dudes Tuesday.
 
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"As a passing almost fully transitioned trans woman, it's that people are a *lot* more concerned about my safety as a woman than they ever were as a man," another wrote.

First off, you don't pass and your family and friends are just being polite. And they are concerned about your safety because they don't want you murdered after whipping out a surprise penis during a sexual encounter with an intoxicated John.

What the fuck is up with the restroom fetish shit with these people? I still fucking have no clue. The public restroom is just a place to shit and piss and go till some point in the mid 2010s where itsuddenly became this oppressivive or mystical place to some gender-minded people. You don't go there to talk with anyone whether you're a fucking man or woman, unless you're pissing and shitting with friends.

They are obsessed with restrooms because they are obsessed with genitals.

"The amount of women in my family, my female friends, and even female acquaintances now confiding every single deep dark detail of their life in me, or just openly talking about their every bodily function," another user commented. "I became 'one of the girls' way before I was comfortable with it."

Yeah. There's no way I'd talk about the gory details of my last period with a 6'4" yeti in a floral dress. You will never be one of the girls.You will never have a period, give birth or breastfeed.
"Male here. suddenly no one gives a shit about me, I feel totally anonymous. no one makes any comments about me or double takes or smiles or anything. I'll get a nod but that's it."

Oh they're making comments alright. It's just that they don't want you to hear them. That would be rude.
 
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