🐱 ‘There’s no hope for men’: TikToker says female co-worker is talking to 39 guys on Hinge, sparking debate

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While “love is blind” may be a common reality show-producing mantra, the reality of online dating today seems set to prove love is anything but sightless.

Apps like Tinder and Bumble employ a swipe system in which users are presented with a photo and scant information about their potential partner, allowing them the option to quickly select “yes” or “no” with just the flick of a finger.

As these apps become ubiquitous, more people are realizing the imbalances that they produce. For example, a 2016 study found that, while men on Tinder accumulate likes slowly, women can rapidly match with many people. To that end, by the study’s conclusion, the seven fake male profiles researchers created had received a total of 532 matches; the number for the fake female profiles was 8,248.

The findings of this study seem to be backed up by a recent viral TikTok from user Jeremy (@lilyanddahhboosh).

In the video, which now boasts over 69,000 views, Jeremy asks his co-worker about her matches on the dating app Hinge. After only two days of being on the app, she is allegedly talking with almost 40 people.

Jeremy’s surprise in the video is obvious.

“Do you realize for guys we have to wait, like, weeks to get likes, let alone a person that we are interested in to send us a ‘like’…[or,] when we send them a ‘like,’ for them to accept it?” Jeremy asks his co-worker. “We’re, like, shooting a basketball in the dark, blindfolded, backwards, and hoping that it lands in a goal that’s almost smaller than the actual ball.”

In the comments, some users agreed with this notion.

“I sat with my guy friend and we did a 5 minute bumble swipe where we had to swipe on everyone,” recalled a user. “I got 55 matches he got 2. It’s so rough for guys.”

“I had over 4,000 likes in 6 days,” claimed another. “Got overwhelmed…and didn’t proceed.”

However, others pointed out that quantity does not equal quality.

“From those 39 only like 2 are good,” a viewer stated.

“Tell me why half the men don’t respond then when they liked you first then you accept and start a convo,” a second user questioned.

“But it’s exhausting,” another user wrote. “From 39 none will be able to follow through with consistent communication!”

The findings of the 2016 study seem to back up this claim. In the study, while women did receive more matches than men, they were also better instigators and communicators.

“Overall, we find that 21% of female matches send a message, whereas only 7% of male matches send a message,” the study reads. “Thus, women who match with us are 3 times more engaged than men.”

Jeremy later posted an update on his co-worker’s progress.

In summary, she has now whittled the number of men she’s talking to down to 17.

In the comments, Jeremy clarifies that this series shouldn’t be taken to say that men are completely hopeless in the modern dating world.

Responding to a commenter saying they were unsure of how to proceed knowing that their match is talking to many other people, he simply wrote, “Not all women are doing that. Just be yourself and if she doesn’t like it. Then let her go, king. Don’t change yourself for someone else.”
 
Some of these chicks better enjoy it now because here is your future after 35
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Frankly I cared way more about LTR and even marriage in my 20s. Now in my 30s I honestly don't give a damn, if I was a multi-millionaire I would probably just have escorts on speed dial. I'm not and most women who would go into this line of work have figured out they can make as much money just selling feet pics to coomers and simps, meaning that you have to pay a lot for the benefit of sex on demand. So I'm stuck in the hookup game which if you're even moderately good at it as a man its a win-win. You see, the old system? it was shit, you were stuck with the same woman all your life, you had to work your ass off, you were stuck with kids, no time to do what you wanted, etc. Only incels and feminists think it was a "man's world". Some women/femcels are realizing they are in fact getting the short end of the stick but they are too proud to admit it.

Of course if you're in the 80% of men who women dont even register then you're fucked. It's like the reaganomics of sex, you were told the tide would lift all boats and all we got is a bunch of new billionaires while wages are stagnant and the middle class becomes extinct. Same with dating, except because of the economics of sex women still get it, its only most men who have it hard. And even the "playas" have to put way more work into it than women do, they can't simply stand by and sex will just happen, but women certainly can. In turn women dont appreciate sex because for them its a given, its not something they have to fight for which is the same reason why a woman who has too much sex is considered a slut even by other women while a man who does the same is a playa, because the former is a lack of self control while the later is an achievement few accomplish.

Needless to say the situation its unsustainable, you got thinktanks rambling against single men because they are not willing to take a shit job for less pay since they don't have a family to support so they can do the bare minimum, and that's bad for the GDP. This correlates with companies shifting to marketing to women because they figured out way back in the 60's that they are far bigger consumers than men who as it turn out don't really buy much stuff even if they make more money. Of course despite all the blahblah about workplace equality the vast majority of non-bullshit jobs, the ones necessary to keep the lights on, are done by men, men who are increasingly unwilling or unmotivated to do it. The military is missing recruiting goals by a mile every year because women dont like the idea of being blown to pieces for minimum wage, and there's only so many GI janes willing to do so out of spite. While men are 50% or less of society they made the bulk of the contributions for little return.

Its simple economics, that's why in the past the overabundance of bachelors was considered a major problem so much that there were harsh measures to curb that like a bachelor tax, although truth be told those measures didn't work back then either.
Men respond less because they swipe on women they aren't really interested in.
In my case I figured out that women who wont start a convo are a dead-end/not really interested and just fishing for matches to fuel their ego.
Not saying the dating scene isn't rough, but so much of the complaining from guys seems to be from guys who can't handle rejection.
Dont know but I imagine that by the 60th rejection those guys must be completely demoralized. You talk to these dudes and most don't get any matches period.
To be fair, Bumble and Hinge are the dregs of the dating apps.
Never used hinge but bumble tends to have less trainwrecks and thots fishing for simps than tinder does.
If any of you remember Anzujammu, she was a perfectly willing victim of this; an emotionally frozen young woman who basked in her online vissage like some sort of modern take on the Narcissus myth.
Is she dead or what? also wouldnt call her a victim given the money she made off insta just posing with anime girl makeup.
if you're looking for a wife, go to fucking church and stop trying to turn these whores around.
The only women in church these days are post-menopausal or have a rap sheet and/or a bunch of kids from different dads.
The issue plaguing modern dating is that far too many women have nothing but their vaginas and a whole lotta credit card debt to place on the other side of the table.
Can't argue with that.
or successful women either for that matter.
Disagree, the apps I've used were full of career woman, then again I'm stuck in a big city.
If they are employing a third party at all it's a professional matchmaking service, which aren't cheap for a good reason: they work.
No they don't, you got a boatload of women angry at spending thousands on these services and getting nothing. Its a grift for the working rich.
Maybe this is too cynical, but the best explanation I can come up with is that it's a subconscious threat to the grift and they feel an overwhelming need to discredit it as an acceptable mode of existence for men.
Its not cynical its literally whats happening. For generations women have grown accustomed to the idea that no matter what happens they can always expect that a man will bail them out.

When you get used to that the idea of losing this its an existential threat.
anything to do with textiles is nearly 100% female for example
I'm not into fashion and even I know the major designers out there even for women's clothing are men, albeit mostly gay, but still men.
Like my man lower your standards ugly girls need love too and the pussy don't hit all that much different.
Hate to break it to you but ugly women don't want ugly men either.

Fat women saying they wont date fat men its so common its become a cliche.
 
And speaking of functional children, here's one:
stuff you weren't seeing 20 years ago? old man you are not going to find love.
You know that old expression of "children should be seen and not heard"? This is why.

Cold approaches at grocery stores or shopping places sure are fun right?
Rolling the dice on getting maced or the cops called on you (unless you're primo Chad material) is a thrill of its own, amirite?
 
I imagine it's not uncommon for them to try to bait you into "doing the sex to them" so they don't have to take responsibility in their minds for initiating.

I've had Women in sexual encounters literally say to my face before anything happens "I'm not taking responsibility for what happens next". Like what? You're not an adult anymore? You're a child now?
 
Here's why that's retarded.
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Why should the fat ass with adult acne get the skinny chick? The other cartoon guy looks like he can stick to an exercise routine, showers and wears clothes that fit. Men and women should take care of themselves and have standards, not sleep with disgusting pigs. No effort, no reward.
 
One of the things that made me sympathize more with manosphere types was Roe v Wade being repealed. Feminists who had spent decades sneering nastily at men for thinking sex was an important need and telling them they weren't entitled to affection suddenly had an abrupt change of opinion and started publishing fuck tons of articles saying women had an absolute right to sex.

They never believed that shit, they just wanted to hurt and marginalize men.
Men literally think not getting pussy is oppression omfg I’m dying lmao. Like you think you’re being hurt and marginalized because you’re single and you got a dry dick that’s how you can tell men have never been genuinely oppressed in their lives they think they’re entitled to everything. Men are not allowed sex, they’re not allowed affection, they’re not allowed love, they’re not allowed anything besides water food clothes etc and I’m starting to think they don’t even deserve that. All the males in this thread seething and dilating over women getting attention is just hilarious like do you have any real problems? Obviously not if this shit makes you mad. And men being excited over RvW because they can’t get pussy is literally just them admitting that abortion restrictions is about punishing women for not having sex with them and not about protecting the uwu fetuses
 
I'm a single, somewhat exceptional dude. I wouldn't describe myself as handsome, but female friends I've had told me that I clean up surprisingly well.

My general areas of interest are "sausage fests" if you will: Middle Eastern/Central/South Asian history and literature, linguistics, geopolitics, logistics, that kind of thing. My favourite vidya gaem series are autistic depression simulators like SMT and Dark Souls. I stay up until 2-3am on the weekends calling my IRL friends niggers over Discord. Niggas talk about Devilman Crybaby all the time, but look at me funny whenever I ask them if they have plans on watching Shin Mazinger Z or anything else Go Nagai is involved with.

Yeah... I'm not necessarily ugly and I know that (statistically anyway), there are more than enough women out there who can appeal to even my own obscure hodgepodge of interests. But I've more or less resigned myself to a life of getting no bitches for the foreseeable future. I've known for years that online dating is atrocious, I'm too broke nowadays to go out into social settings like I used to pre-COVID, and honestly? I don't even think I have the mental acuity to deal with another person in my life on an intimate level.

Like okay, I finally got a long-awaited Tinder date. Now what?
 
Surely not everyone. The problem is in a gynocentric society raised on feminist ideals sex is placed as something to worship. Look at the Roe V. Wade reaction. Then the men who are getting women often become all about getting the puss puss, and it becomes second nature. This is a case of once you release the bird from the cage, you can't put it back. Even if you try, all it takes is a few women to influence other women about sex again and start the same chain of dynamos rolling.

If you could get people to normal sexuality (remove degeneracy) from society you'd be a miracle preformer. Don't know how many women I've ran into with daddy complexes and issues, foot fetishes and other weird kinks these days.

Well that's kind of an iffy understanding of it though. They aren't really upset over roe v. wade, they're more upset over a simple loss of power. Imagine you're playing a game and have 200 options to play the game, then they patch out 10 items. This is the equivalent of what they are upset about. they still have venues for abortions and exceptions, it's just they lost SOME power. It's why religious text and even past civilizations warned of giving women power. They keep craving more and more and are very bad at managing that which they have. It has little to do with hurting men and more in this case about losing 1% of their domination over society. Even the special girl in my life who is not a thot got a little disgruntled over it's loss and she couldn't explain why. A loss of power is a loss of power.

That's a sign when a woman sees you either as more valuable than they are or because they think you are worthy of investment. It can also be due to guilt such as if they were cheating on you and felt you were a wholesome guy. The whole problem with trying to tell intent is how women's brain has like so many possibilities (Plausible deniability) for one specific action and reaction to something. Though I would say in my own experiences, I've noticed primarily the women not fit for long term do that behavior on average.

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Church's are not a good place to meet women these days. Some of the most kinky and sexually obsessed or weird women I've met have been at churches. There used to be a term for the women in churches being "Chameleons" because many would act wholesome until you talked to them behind closed doors and find out some of them are more deranged than basic whores and sluts and I wish I was kidding.
Shit like this is why I genuinely fucking despise men. Men have had everything in their life handed to them on a silver platter and then they want to turn around and gaslight and project their hurt feeling over their loss of power onto women. Saying that women having more power is evil and terrible for society as if 99 percent of all murderers rapists pedophiles mass shooters aren’t men. Women getting power is evil as if hitler and stalin weren’t men. As if every terrible world leader that killed billions in wars and ruined economies etc weren’t men. Saying we live in a gynocracy as if men aren’t literally every president, most billionaires, hold most seats in congress but no some men can’t get laid so that means are oppressed and we live in a gynocentric society because men can’t get their way literally everytime whenever the fuck they want. We haven’t even had a fucking female president yet and because men can’t get pussy on demand they think women have all the power. Yes women do finally have to power to say no to men and men can’t handle it. Men are the most privileged whiniest group of individuals on the fucking planet. What power do women have? Being sex objects for shitty misogynistic men that think they’re oppressed because Stacey didn’t text him back? Men thinking that they’re oppressed because they can’t control literally every aspect of women is very typical for these power hungry rape apes. Also, Abortion being curtailed is bad for women not because “it’s a loss of power and all women are just power hungry cavemen like men are” no it’s going to ruin the lives of many women and because of that women are sad about it. It’s not this bullshit nefarious sperging you’re talking about but since you’re a man you’re an utter piece of shit with zero empathy for women
Men wouldn’t be able to survive a single day as women
 
Shit like this is why I genuinely fucking despise men. Men have had everything in their life handed to them on a silver platter and then they want to turn around and gaslight and project their hurt feeling over their loss of power onto women. Saying that women having more power is evil and terrible for society as if 99 percent of all murderers rapists pedophiles mass shooters aren’t men. Women getting power is evil as if hitler and stalin weren’t men. As if every terrible world leader that killed billions in wars and ruined economies etc weren’t men. Saying we live in a gynocracy as if men aren’t literally every president, most billionaires, hold most seats in congress but no some men can’t get laid so that means are oppressed and we live in a gynocentric society because men can’t get their way literally everytime whenever the fuck they want. We haven’t even had a fucking female president yet and because men can’t get pussy on demand they think women have all the power. Yes women do finally have to power to say no to men and men can’t handle it. Men are the most privileged whiniest group of individuals on the fucking planet. What power do women have? Being sex objects for shitty misogynistic men that think they’re oppressed because Stacey didn’t text him back? Men thinking that they’re oppressed because they can’t control literally every aspect of women is very typical for these power hungry rape apes. Also, Abortion being curtailed is bad for women not because “it’s a loss of power and all women are just power hungry cavemen like men are” no it’s going to ruin the lives of many women and because of that women are sad about it. It’s not this bullshit nefarious sperging you’re talking about but since you’re a man you’re an utter piece of shit with zero empathy for women
Men wouldn’t be able to survive a single day as women
Sorry for rating 'Dumb' initially, when I quite enjoyed the rant. Changed to 'Autistic', 'cause it's still retarded. Amusing insight, though, and contains a great example of 'apex fallacy'. Thanks.
 
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