I'm going to acknowledge, and be respectful in my replies, to questions that are sufficiently respectful in their phrasing. Furthermore I intend to answer truthfully in good faith, and to the best of my ability.
First, I don't agree with the implied characterization of MTF transwomen as "body-mod masochist kinksters."
In fact, my sexual attraction tends toward men as well as women, and it happens that I love and accept trans women as women.
Given that I know my way around various genital configurations when it comes to intimacy, in this way I am able to "love" any person I happen to find myself inclined toward, without any barriers with respect to their gender identity vis a vis the shape of their bodies.
As to how this relates to my identity and the pronouns I use, I guess it doesn't. I just know I'm a "she," I've been a woman for thirteen years, I was only ever a man for three or four years. And I don't need the approval of others to be sure in who and what I am.
I hope this answers your questions.
We chatted non-sexually and did minor activism work together for several months while she was 18, then after her 18th birthday, we got together romantically and sexually, I built a website for her related to calendar-searching for trans resources (not just for youth, and not focused on HRT), and then later after a bad breakup she threatened to file a false rape report against me to extort control of the site. I refused her demand. In retrospect, a bad choice; She reported me and I was prosecuted. Thank God the evidence supported my innocence, or I'd have ended up in prison. As it was, I wasted thousands of what you would call "leaf dollars" on my defense.