I honestly want to know just what the hell these freaks want. What they really want, not what's socially acceptable to the general public to say they want. Because it seems to me that they're not content with the "we just want to live our lives" schtick.
I mentioned this in the TG chat, but I'll reiterate here. A while back, I was waiting in line at a department store kiosk to ask if they could check the back for a specific style of heels in my size. There were two wagies working the counter: a regular dude, and a fat, butchy FtM troon wearing ill-fitting men's clothing and a bowtie, who was the one that ended up helping me. I was uncomfortable, but like any other person I talked to, I figured that as long as I was polite, nothing weird would come of it. I asked for the shoes, she brought them out to me, I thanked her, and then I walked away to try the shoes on. That should've been the end of the encounter. Right as I sat down, I saw that she had followed me, and she immediately started in on, "I have four sisters, and being the only boy, I have no idea what it's like to wear heels." Emphasis hers. I just kinda forced a smile and tried to focus on the shoes. When I didn't say anything, she kept going, like, "since I'm the only boy in my family," etc. She wasn't content with just bringing me the shit I asked for. I terminated the conversation, walked away, and she followed me to talk about her being a fucking troon. It was so bizarre. My brain could not register her as a man, but she wanted so badly to hear me deny what my own eyes were seeing.
I get the same vibe all these years later with all of these terminally online narcissists, and I haven't even met or spoken to them. If they were happy just quietly existing in the same spaces as and behaving like normal people, I don't think tolerance would be so far out of the question. And I guess after having finally put my thoughts into words, I've figured out the answer to my own question here, but it's not really tolerance that they want, it's not even acceptance; they want to be worshipped.