Why don’t people want to have kids?

Gig Bucking Fun

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There are a lot of uncertainties in life, but two things I always knew I wanted were a billion dollars and kids of my own. For some reason, though, it seems anyone I ask absolutely does not want children.

Is this a mentality that’s been around for longer than I care to think, and have most children just been mistakes? Or is there some new way of thinking that’s dissuading people from having families?
 
Economic and cultural reasons.
Economically, things are getting worse for the younger generations. Women have an incentive not to have kids, because it will impact both their career prospects and their financial ability to feed themselves.
Culturally, men are taught a child will tie them down to a woman who will use the judicial system to take him for all he's worth. Women are taught to fear the responsibility of a child and the changes pregnancy will cause to their body. Both sexes fear the loss of freedom that a child brings.

Not to mention people who have no drive to reproduce, which could happen for multiple reasons outside of this list.
 
I don't think I'd be a particularly good parent. That's along with what others said, in terms of just not having the economic ability to support them at the level I'd want to. If success is giving your child a better shot than what you had, and I can't do that, then it seems like I'd be failing them by default.
 
I used to want kids, but it would be cruel to bring a child into a world as fucked up and gay as this. Tax money is used to hire pedophiles to groom your children into going on hormones and cutting their dicks off to appeal sexually to aforementioned pedophiles. I could homeschool, but they'd still have the internet. I'm not willing to turn my genetic material into a sex object for deviant faggots, whether or not it spends 9 months in a uterus first.
 
Honestly? I just don't want the responsibility. Call me selfish but I prefer to live my life how I choose (as much as my economic situation lets me anyway). Kids and a wife mean I have to not do what I want for extended periods of time, in fact I have to deal with a bunch of bullshit I'd rather avoid in service to a cause I only nominally care about (making more good humans for the future).

I've watched friends and relatives get older, squeeze out some progeny and try to eek out some happiness with the significantly reduced time and resources they are able to devote to that pursuit. The more well-adjusted ones learn to kind of redefine happiness and get that from their family, the not-so-well-adjusted ones are miserable and then make their SOs and kids even more miserable. That'd end up being me, I'd rather avoid not only being miserable but fucking up other people's lives in the process. Better for everyone that way.
 
Why don’t people want to have kids?
When you say "people", I assume you mean middle and upper class people living in mostly urban environments of first world countries, because it's the only place where that phenomenon is occurring.

I would say that there are several reasons for that.

- The birth control has been invented and democratized not so long ago sociologically speaking, so the question hasn't been out there for very long. During the first generation of people with BP available, it would have still been seen as "weird" to not have children, your parents and literally everyone you knew had children, it was an obvious choice fact of life, but maybe you wouldn't have had as much as they did.
- Unlike previous generations where divorce and broken families was uncommon at best, nowadays it's common in some places. The likelihood that those people that don't want children are from a broken family where there parents are divorced and showed them an unhappy marriage is high. You are welcome to speculate as to why that is.
- Unlike before, now women are employed. They work (almost) as much as men, and it's being sold to them since birth that what will fulfill them is a career, not a big loving family that needs them.
- While we are richer than ever and lack for nothing, the feeling of poverty is high. You will never go hungry or cold, but you feel poor because having a house and land is more difficult than before, because you can barely fulfill your consumerist wishes as it is (you can't even afford the latest iphone!), how could you possibly financially care for a child?
- The feeling that everything is going to shit. While it's mostly not based in reality because things are better than ever on most fronts, the very fear-based climate we live in (mostly because of the media running on fear, it's what sells most) makes people do not want to have children when things are "unstable". Climate, war, recession, corruption, fascism, communism, pedophilia, immorality, godlessness, pick the one you like.

I want children with my wife. I cannot guarantee them a perfect life, and no one ever could, it's not a product of our time. There are still things you can do though.
My children will not grow up in a dystopian big city, they will not go to public school, they will not spend their days in front of a screen, they will not eat goyslop, they will not be surrounded by a broken family that doesn't have love.

I leave you with this song. If you can listen to it without having your heart tighten or feeling regret, then maybe you truly don't want children. If you do feel something, then think about it.
 
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