Why don’t people want to have kids?

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I don't want any, at least in the foreseeable future, for many reasons:

• They cost a shit-ton
• They require a lot of attention and time. Parent duty never stops, week-end, holidays, evenings etc...
• They (should) require a very strong relationship with your SO, and they will test this relationship
• They are fucking annoying most of the time

I see kids in a similar way that I see a sick and dependent cat :

• They puke and shit everywhere, leave the clean up for you
• They cost you a fortune at the vet
• They cost a fortune to put in the shelter during holidays, because they require more attention
• They tear your shit up when you're not looking
• They harass you for food and anything else they want, or just when they are bored

Now, sure, there are some good times with your sick cat, you cuddle and shit, you love it, it loves you etc... But if you had known all that crap before adopting it, you might have chosen a different path.

 

[Abella]

My daughter’s due in February and I’m not too fond of how much things like diapers and formula cost.

 

[Ensign Faggot]

I've never been 100% about it, and I don't believe a child deserves any less than that.

 

[Ultrapenguin]

Young people have to have a path forward among other people. Imo humans aren't built to reproduce as individuals, they reproduce as communities.

They need to have some place to belong and some way to orient themselves with people there to support them along the way besides just their parents. The idea of having kids seems appealing, but it would be cruel to have one just because, then go "Idk man, you figure it out", or treat them like a ball of clay you'll mold by force into what you see as the ideal person. That always ends in disaster.

Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like there was never a point where people "wanted" to have kids, any more than they do now. They simply had kids. That's just what happened, it wasn't this weird agonized process where people had to put that much thought into it.
If the situation was right, I believe developing families would probably kind of proceed on its own.

 

[Claude Sigma]

People with genetic and mental issues (like me) shouldn't breed (like my father did).

That sounds like a cope. Why not adopt then? If you honestly have the pragmatic opinion that your genetic code is unworthy of being replicated, you wouldn't have any issue with using donor sperm or adopting.

 

[Claude Sigma]

My daughter’s due in February and I’m not too fond of how much things like diapers and formula cost.

Cloth diapers are cheap. You don't have to be a good consoomer and buy throwable ones.
Also why use formula? It's by far not as good as breast milk for the child.

 

[Manwithn0n0men]

If I had a chick I could knock up i'd have kids

 

[Not a bee]

As of this moment, I am not responsible enough, and I cannot afford one. Until those two needs are met, I hope I can.

 

[CuzinEd]

On the question of most kids being mistakes. Yes, they are. 50% of all births were not planned. I can't remember where I heard this, but I am sure you can do a search for it.

Most people don't want to have children because children are very expensive. Anyone who says they aren't either doesn't have any of their own and they don't know anyone who has children. The people who can afford to have children don't want to because it would carve a huge chunk out of their finances and lifestyle. They can only have this lifestyle by working and not having kids. If you have a job that allows you to support yourself and that's about it just 1 kid is going to be huge financial investment. They need daycare food clothes and healthcare. Most people in relationships these days usually they both work. They have to work so they can support themselves. It's where the acronym DINK comes from Double Income No Kids. Most people I see with kids these days both parents tend to work. The kids are left with relatives usually the grandparents. That is if you have grandparents to watch them while you work. Sometimes the parents think the single childless people in the family should help out.

It's all financial. People can't afford to have kids, so they don't. Especially white Americans. The government doesn't pay white people to breed. They sure do like paying niggers and taco niggers to breed though.

 

[Banquet Meal]

i have a fairly large number of children, but i can safely say that if i had any knowledge of how things would turn out, i dont know if i wouldve had any at all. this world is getting worse by the day, and i wouldnt feel right about bringing a child into this trainwreck. that said, its a personal decision, having children/not having children doesnt make someone a good or bad person. there are retards who go on and on about how selfish it is for people to not have kids, but its really none of their business in the 1st place. kids grow up and move on, and if you make your identity about being a parent and nothing else, you are going to be a pretty miserable person in the long run.

 

[Chiliarch]

In the past, having kids was often a pragmatic thing - you had babies cause they would help you on the farm. If you were in the higher strata, you would have babies so that they could spread your family name, accurring you more honor (money too but that was secondary). Nowadays all of the purposes have either been erased, or replaced by the state.

When people talk about why they do not want to have kids it is always the same petty reasons: Because they wanna have fun, or because having kids would mean they would have to buy a cheaper car. Boohoo. Pure materialism

 

[Ewan McGregor]

I just really really dont like kids especially young ones and babies. Sticky, needy, stinky, loud, emotional, expensive.....just let me retreat to my beautifully silent home and do literally anything I want without worrying about another being. Maybe I am selfish. Selfish people make bad parents. I love my non existant kids enough to not put them through that, lol.

You sound like a psychopath

I don't want any, at least in the foreseeable future, for many reasons:

• They cost a shit-ton
• They require a lot of attention and time. Parent duty never stops, week-end, holidays, evenings etc...
• They (should) require a very strong relationship with your SO, and they will test this relationship
• They are fucking annoying most of the time

I see kids in a similar way that I see a sick and dependent cat :

• They puke and shit everywhere, leave the clean up for you
• They cost you a fortune at the vet
• They cost a fortune to put in the shelter during holidays, because they require more attention
• They tear your shit up when you're not looking
• They harass you for food and anything else they want, or just when they are bored

Now, sure, there are some good times with your sick cat, you cuddle and shit, you love it, it loves you etc... But if you had known all that crap before adopting it, you might have chosen a different path.

You too

 

[RollerGator]

You sound like a psychopath



You too

Because they don't want to live the same lifestyle as you?

 

[Ewan McGregor]

Because they don't want to live the same lifestyle as you?

Because they talk derisively about very young children for not being able to fend for themselves and needing a strong parental presence.

Does my answer satisfy you?

 

[RollerGator]

Because they talk derisively about very young children for not being able to fend for themselves and needing a strong parental presence.

Does my answer satisfy you?

Sounds like a good reason for them not to have kids. Lots of people feel the same way.

 

[Ewan McGregor]

Sounds like a good reason for them not to have kids. Lots of people feel the same way.

There are many reasons for not wanting to have children. But if you hate children and you state your arguments for it is that they cannot fend for themselves, or need emotional involvement from parents (How dare they) I am going to think that there is something wrong with you, starting with being unable to understand what a child is to begin with.

I'm sorry I hurt your psychopathic feelings.

 

[RollerGator]

There are many reasons for not wanting to have children. But if you hate children and you state your arguments for it is that they cannot fend for themselves, or need emotional involvement from parents (How dare they) I am going to think that there is something wrong with you, starting with being unable to understand what a child is to begin with.

I'm sorry I hurt your psychopathic feelings.

If I was a psychopath that wouldn't hurt my feelings lol
You're feelings are hurt because you have one of those shitty annoying kids.

 

[Ewan McGregor]

If I was a psychopath that wouldn't hurt my feelings lol
You're feelings are hurt because you have one of those shitty annoying kids.

Yes, a psychopath's feelings can be hurt. Especially when you call them retarded, or stupid, or make it look like they're not the amazing, rational, intelligent people they think they are.

 

[MachoMan]

Ethan Ralph has produced 2 kids lol

 

[Hepativore]

I never had the patience for children, so having them was never something I wanted to do. Unlike what you see in Hallmark movies, children can also be very stressful, not to mention that they do require a lot of money to take care of. I mean, if having children is something you want to do after taking all of the above into account, then do so, but a lot of people do end up having regrets about it later. This is even though they would never admit it publicly and they love their kids.

There is also the fact that thanks to better prophylactics and changing attitudes, a lot of people are realizing that having children is a choice and they do not have to have children if they do not want to. In the past, having kids was just something that most people "did" without much in the way of self-reflection or consideration otherwise because it never occurred to them. There is no shortage of children in the world, so it will get along just fine without one more person.

Finally, your kid is their own person. You can try and raise them to be exactly like you, but they are still going to have their own outlook, attitudes, and beliefs for better or worse. There is no guarantee on what they will turn out what to be like. While you hope that you might eventually produce a well-adjusted and functional human being, you might get very unlucky and get stuck with somebody who turns out to be like Kevin in the movie, We Need To Talk About Kevin; or Nick Bate despite all of your best efforts at being a good parent.

Some people just turn out wrong no matter what.