Erin Reed / Anthony Reed II / @ErinInTheMorn / @ErinInTheMorning / @ErinInTheNight / _supernovasky_ / beholderseye / realitybias / AnonymousRabbit - post-op transbian Twitter/TikTok "activist" with bad fashion, giant Reddit tattoo. Former drug dealer with felony. Married to Zooey Simone Zephyr / Zachary Todd Raasch.

[Geranium]

Tony’s soliciting questions for an Ask Me Anything on his Substack:

(source, archive)

This one is open for non-subscribers (whether that’s intentional isn’t clear to me). Here are the current 11 questions:

 

[AMHOLIO]

I have a few questions for her, but I don't think she'd be kind enough to answer. So Ms. Erin Reed, if you're reading, I'd like to know this:

1. What steps can we take to prevent detransitioners who actually seem to regret their choices from becoming a part of the anti-trans wave? How can we be sympathetic to them and balance trans rights with it? I genuinely think it's possible.
2. What separates a TERF from an average transphobe? How often do you deal with TERFs in real life? Twitter is crawling with both and you deal with them differently there than IRL, can you tell us some examples to give advice to the audience?
3. Dating as a single mom is hard. How do you balance the responsibilities of being a parent, dating, your career, and the safety of your child all at once?
4. If it is never too late to transition, why is it imperative that young people transition right away? The ability to choose whether or not they have children before transitioning is easier to do once they reach maturity and a comfortable place post highschool and secondary education (if any), some time around their early 20s. Being able to have children, not just adoption (which I appreciate the streamlining of but we should always allow people to choose instead of force one option over all others), is a right all adults should have. Is it possible to delay until the turbulence of education and puberty is over to let those have the option of children like you did?
5. Why don't you cut off your family if they're abusive?

Thanks,
A.M.Holio

 

[I'mThePatMan!]

Normal homos such as myself cringe at the drag queen story hour shit, and are downright appalled by images of children attending actual drag shows.

Can I ask you something? As a straight man who doesn't know much about the dynamics inside the groups that fall under the LGBT umbrella... how much of that "quarrel" is personal opinion (i.e, what you wish the LGB would do), and how much is actual, current reality? I'm not an American, but in my country, 100% of gays and lesbians are hardcore defenders of transsexuals. And I do mean hardcore.

I hear a lot about "LGB without the T" and stuff like that, but all of it it's pretty much confined to selected places like KF. In real life (at least in my neck of the woods), I've NEVER seen or heard a single thing from an LGB against any T. And I'm completely surrounded by gay people.

Anyways, I hope I'm not derailing the thread too much, but any feedback prom people in the know will be greatly appreciated!

 

[Criticallacitirc]

Can I ask you something? As a straight man who doesn't know much about the dynamics inside the groups that fall under the LGBT umbrella... how much of that "quarrel" is personal opinion (i.e, what you wish the LGB would do), and how much is actual, current reality? I'm not an American, but in my country, 100% of gays and lesbians are hardcore defenders of transsexuals. And I do mean hardcore.

I hear a lot about "LGB without the T" and stuff like that, but all of it it's pretty much confined to selected places like KF. In real life (at least in my neck of the woods), I've NEVER seen or heard a single thing from an LGB against any T. And I'm completely surrounded by gay people.

Anyways, I hope I'm not derailing the thread too much, but any feedback prom people in the know will be greatly appreciated!

This Dave Chappelle skit sums it up nicely.

 

[Fupa Control]

Please tell me there’s no ErinInTheNight substack for “Ben” to spam questions.

Advice on remembering pronouns:

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J. Aprileo from deathfats has also scolded the cis for using proper names TOO MUCH. She doesn’t leave the house or have friends though so it’s a bit more toothless.

 

[Geranium]

Merry Christmas to all who visit the Tony thread.

 

[White-Kettle Shufflepunk]

Merry Christmas to all who visit the Tony thread.
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The "Same Picture" meme, but what's her name is screaming like a Lovecraft cypher.

 

[AMHOLIO]

I hear a lot about "LGB without the T" and stuff like that, but all of it it's pretty much confined to selected places like KF. In real life (at least in my neck of the woods), I've NEVER seen or heard a single thing from an LGB against any T. And I'm completely surrounded by gay people.

In my area it depends on the age of the homosexual. I mostly know gay men - the younger ones defend the T more, but it also depends on their experiences. Those who encounter homosexual men trans out might be fully on board since they only see gays becoming women and they'll always defend a gay in their head even if their polite conscious has to say "Brandon is a woman now". Meanwhile, I had a friend who experienced two trans people with me, one a lesbian to genderspecial with diagnosed BPD and another who was a republican straight dude suddenly gone wahman, so those plus my tales from the farms make him shaky without saying it. He'll defend your identity and pity you, and he wants the whole thing to be people actually being who they are, but... you can't always get what you want and he will put up blockades when things get too far in a polite way (but he's a polite man).

The older ones have opinions but don't bother, especially with the younger and stranger genderspecials. They know LBG, might even know and have a varied opinion on the T, but will go "mmmmmhm" in a doubting condescending tone to the genderspecials. No one can take them seriously. Ts were the rarest in the past, most of the time it was a drag queen or the occasional field autogynosexual, but even the later can be dismissed as weirdos with moments. If said trans person says something they don't agree with on LGBT they'll argue, but they're pretty live and let live since they're old and being gay has you deal with all sorts of weirdos.


You tend not to have up front "BACK OFF TRANS PEOPLE" in a group. I, a random weird bisexual wahman women, will be more challenging towards the whole thing but in a general sense. If a group seems diehard trans, I don't bother, but if I talk to LGBT people one on one I'll ask more hard hitting questions or bring out big points of concern like drugs. I even had someone who wanted to go FtM but realized the meds were way too experimental admit such to me. For me, the connection to the LGBT doesn't matter as much as I neither came from a family who disliked them nor do I count myself in the group as much (women are an option, not the only requirement so I respect the groups that need one or the other and can't change - they got much more on their plate than some dumbass like me!) so I don't mind being more free. You can't change hardcore group think but you can pry away at things one by one.

From experience, I'd say most people have doubts but are polite about it. Others are hardcore since they're still reeling from family being assholes to them or society in general and will be diehard about it since they're still hurt. Note I don't know many lesbians in person IRL so I just pulled from mostly gay men.

I think the funniest and strangest thing is that a lot of it is pity above understanding. The more I talk to them, the more I laugh since they're mostly sad their friend can't be authentic and their inability to be authentic is driving them to do stupid things, and they can't always understand why they need to do something to be a woman or man but lol.

Lastly, shoutout to the Nonbinaries. These women I know online are nice and polite, but you can tell they even have doubts on trans subjects but are hard pressed to speak up since they fall under it...but not really. They say defend trans rights but most (not all) aren't caught up with trans issues, they just exist as is and nod their heads along with gender rhetoric without always knowing what extremist like Erin fight for. They rather just have gender equality and not be seen as women because they don't feel like they belong to a group, they're soft outwardly towards trans issues but most of them draw the line at he/him lesbians. And connecting the dots you can tell why.

 

[I'mThePatMan!]

In my area it depends on the age of the homosexual. I mostly know gay men - the younger ones defend the T more, but it also depends on their experiences. Those who encounter homosexual men trans out might be fully on board since they only see gays becoming women and they'll always defend a gay in their head even if their polite conscious has to say "Brandon is a woman now". Meanwhile, I had a friend who experienced two trans people with me, one a lesbian to genderspecial with diagnosed BPD and another who was a republican straight dude suddenly gone wahman, so those plus my tales from the farms make him shaky without saying it. He'll defend your identity and pity you, and he wants the whole thing to be people actually being who they are, but... you can't always get what you want and he will put up blockades when things get too far in a polite way (but he's a polite man).

The older ones have opinions but don't bother, especially with the younger and stranger genderspecials. They know LBG, might even know and have a varied opinion on the T, but will go "mmmmmhm" in a doubting condescending tone to the genderspecials. No one can take them seriously. Ts were the rarest in the past, most of the time it was a drag queen or the occasional field autogynosexual, but even the later can be dismissed as weirdos with moments. If said trans person says something they don't agree with on LGBT they'll argue, but they're pretty live and let live since they're old and being gay has you deal with all sorts of weirdos.


You tend not to have up front "BACK OFF TRANS PEOPLE" in a group. I, a random weird bisexual wahman women, will be more challenging towards the whole thing but in a general sense. If a group seems diehard trans, I don't bother, but if I talk to LGBT people one on one I'll ask more hard hitting questions or bring out big points of concern like drugs. I even had someone who wanted to go FtM but realized the meds were way too experimental admit such to me. For me, the connection to the LGBT doesn't matter as much as I neither came from a family who disliked them nor do I count myself in the group as much (women are an option, not the only requirement so I respect the groups that need one or the other and can't change - they got much more on their plate than some dumbass like me!) so I don't mind being more free. You can't change hardcore group think but you can pry away at things one by one.

From experience, I'd say most people have doubts but are polite about it. Others are hardcore since they're still reeling from family being assholes to them or society in general and will be diehard about it since they're still hurt. Note I don't know many lesbians in person IRL so I just pulled from mostly gay men.

I think the funniest and strangest thing is that a lot of it is pity above understanding. The more I talk to them, the more I laugh since they're mostly sad their friend can't be authentic and their inability to be authentic is driving them to do stupid things, and they can't always understand why they need to do something to be a woman or man but lol.

Lastly, shoutout to the Nonbinaries. These women I know online are nice and polite, but you can tell they even have doubts on trans subjects but are hard pressed to speak up since they fall under it...but not really. They say defend trans rights but most (not all) aren't caught up with trans issues, they just exist as is and nod their heads along with gender rhetoric without always knowing what extremist like Erin fight for. They rather just have gender equality and not be seen as women because they don't feel like they belong to a group, they're soft outwardly towards trans issues but most of them draw the line at he/him lesbians. And connecting the dots you can tell why.

Lol that's a lot of text! Haha thanks for the feedback. Yeah what you said does make a lot of sense to me. Living close to Universities, most of the gay people in the area I mentioned before are very young (20-40 years old). So maybe my perception is indeed biased by the age/generation gap.

This Dave Chappelle skit sums it up nicely.

Hahaha that shit was hilarious, thanks!

 

[Sourceress]

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That last question... as an academic, that is mind-boggling. I hope someone this guy answers to (professor, school admin) sees him going around saying shit like this, because that study should go nowhere. He's basically shopping out going "hey, how should I interpret the results of my study to prove the point I want to make the most?" That's not science, that's opinion. You know this guy is trashing any response to his study that doesn't match what he wants the "data" to show in the end.

Can I ask you something? As a straight man who doesn't know much about the dynamics inside the groups that fall under the LGBT umbrella... how much of that "quarrel" is personal opinion (i.e, what you wish the LGB would do), and how much is actual, current reality? I'm not an American, but in my country, 100% of gays and lesbians are hardcore defenders of transsexuals. And I do mean hardcore.

I hear a lot about "LGB without the T" and stuff like that, but all of it it's pretty much confined to selected places like KF. In real life (at least in my neck of the woods), I've NEVER seen or heard a single thing from an LGB against any T. And I'm completely surrounded by gay people.

Anyways, I hope I'm not derailing the thread too much, but any feedback prom people in the know will be greatly appreciated!

I think some things to keep in mind here, just to chime in with my two cents as a lesbian:
1. Trans activists create and cultivate a culture of fear around trans issues. People (especially women, especially lesbian women) who speak out against trans activism / trans ideology receive death and rape threats, get things thrown at them, lose their jobs, etc. Lesbians (and probably gay men to a lesser extent) are constantly sexually harassed either directly by trans-identified men or on behalf of them to declare their desire for penis, and refusal to do so comes with Consequences, mostly social isolation but sometimes sexual assault or threats thereof. The few who are brave enough to be open about their disagreement with trans politics - like the "LGB Drop The T" people - are risking a lot. Most people aren't that brave, so even if they feel that way privately - and there's a lot of evidence that a lot of people do - they might not be willing to say it publicly, in person, without the internet shield of relative anonymity.
2. A lot of people who claim to be gay these days aren't. I'm not just talking about trans-identified men who claim to be "lesbians" or their female "gay man" counterparts, either. "Queer" basically means "heterosexual but doesn't want to be perceived as boring" these days, and bisexuals love to claim to be lesbians or gay even when they're literally in a heterosexual relationship. The sheer number of "I'm a lesbian but my husband is a special exception" type of articles to come out in the last few years is really something else. So when you see loads of "queer" and "gay" people supporting trans activists.. remember that not all of them are actually gay. Most of them probably aren't even same-sex attracted.
3. A lot of gay people who do support trans shit support it for the same reasons straight people do - ignorance. They assume blindly that all trans-identified people must be gay men who struggle with their sexuality, and they feel pity for them on that basis and support them without thinking about it too much. They usually peak if exposed to what trans activists are actually up to.

That's my experience, anyway. Personally, I don't tend to say anything critical of trans shit irl because I don't want to be harassed or attacked, and I'd wager the same goes for most who feel the same. I have nothing but incredible respect and support for those brave enough to speak out and damn the consequences.

 

[Autistic Faggot]

Can I ask you something? As a straight man who doesn't know much about the dynamics inside the groups that fall under the LGBT umbrella... how much of that "quarrel" is personal opinion (i.e, what you wish the LGB would do), and how much is actual, current reality? I'm not an American, but in my country, 100% of gays and lesbians are hardcore defenders of transsexuals. And I do mean hardcore.

I hear a lot about "LGB without the T" and stuff like that, but all of it it's pretty much confined to selected places like KF. In real life (at least in my neck of the woods), I've NEVER seen or heard a single thing from an LGB against any T. And I'm completely surrounded by gay people.

Anyways, I hope I'm not derailing the thread too much, but any feedback prom people in the know will be greatly appreciated!

Apologies for mild PL ahead. I'm a faggot, friends with many faggots and dykes. You have to understand two things: 1) Most faggot friend groups are ALL faggot. I personally only have one straight friend in my close circle. 2) It is social suicide for you, as a faggot, to do anything less than worship trans people. Not just in your friend group, but it can very easily extend to your job too, even your family depending how lefty they are.

Thankfully, I have a couple of gay friends that can secretly agree with me on this, but none of us can open our mouths in public. It's SO, SO much worse for the dykes. My dyke friend got very unsubtly threatened with social ostracization for making a JOKE about not liking dicks. Also, gay men turn down TIFs all the time without consequences, but from what I see, dykes are quite often cornered/forced into either dating or saying that they would date trannies, again because their other option is complete social suicide. Their apps are also overrun by trannies, about a 5:1 ratio of troids to real women. Meanwhile Grindr etc is pretty much untouched.

TLDR I guarantee that deep down, most if not all of us regular ol homofags are against this shit, but thanks to the fucking Gestapo culture that surrounds trans dissenters in queer circles, we're forced to stay silent at best and support them at worst.

 

[AMHOLIO]

that's a lot of text!

Whoops sorry! It's something I thought of a lot too, and apparently so have others lol.

You have to understand two things: 1) Most faggot friend groups are ALL faggot. I personally only have one straight friend in my close circle. 2) It is social suicide for you, as a faggot, to do anything less than worship trans people. Not just in your friend group, but it can very easily extend to your job too, even your family depending how lefty they are.

This is huge tbh. Having multiple social circles really pays off because if you gay and have groups that accept you who are mostly not gay you can say gay socially unacceptable rhetoric to them. It depends on the gay too: some people are fine mixing with other social circles (and some just don't mix with non-lgbt completely on accident), some get too nervous or fear straight people after a rough time they had, etc. The ones who don't have many options to connect with others outside of LGBT groups will always get shat on. And sometimes you can express it to a nonlgbt friend but your straight woman friend isn't experiencing why you a lesbian are going "eugh girldick" and how your fellow lesbians seem to be disappearing and being replaced with frog voice agenders. Being lonely in your own group sucks.

Also Sorceress right. The freedom of me being able to sneak around and be more bold with my TERFism is because I'm in a friend group that's mixed enough that we don't care and aren't super held to the in/out group dichotomy: enough of us have immigrant family that have different values than us that we can't cut out nor would want to. If I was in a group of lesbians that was slowly being taken over by troons I'd be seething with rage over not being able to speak to be honest.

 

[AirdropShitposts]

That last question... as an academic, that is mind-boggling. I hope someone this guy answers to (professor, school admin) sees him going around saying shit like this, because that study should go nowhere. He's basically shopping out going "hey, how should I interpret the results of my study to prove the point I want to make the most?" That's not science, that's opinion. You know this guy is trashing any response to his study that doesn't match what he wants the "data" to show in the end.

It's okay, he's just some faggot high school teacher getting a "higher salary" certificate, I actually did not make any attempt to figure out what sex this faggot actually is by looking for other photos but I have to assume "non-binary trans guy" means it's a chick:


Matthew wants all you cishets to Do Better:

Also the "research project" is completely useless shit anyway:


And Matthew wants you to serve the troons or else:

 

[White-Kettle Shufflepunk]

Meanwhile Grindr etc is pretty much untouched.

I feel like this is partly because, well, TIFs in general will be much smaller and weaker than your average gay fella.

 

[Sir Chubbis the Turd]

I can’t sleep so I sperged out on Ms. Matthew Rice.
Here are a few facts... she used to be partnered with Pat Califia. Pat was a fairly well known lesbian writer in the 80’s and 90’s that trooned out and is now living and writing as a gay/bi man. Pat is a munchie with chronic pain and fibromyalgia, but somehow is obsessed with BDSM and gives workshops on queer sex.
When Matt and Pat were together they had a kid some time around 1999. Pat wrote about Matt’s “FTM pregnant dad journey” in the Village Voice in 2000, this is also around the time Pat became Patrick.
Fast forward about a decade and the happy lesbians turned gay dads are now broken up and Matt is a single dad with an autistic son who suffers from a seizure disorder.. maybe having a kid while injecting testosterone isn’t the best idea? And unfortunately it seems like gay sex workshops don’t bring in enough money to pay child support because in 2015 there was a GoFundMe set up to cover the kid’s medical expenses while Matt was settling into a new job in Charlotte. While down south Matt reinvented herself into a HIV researcher, whose research appears to consist of having lived in San Francisco in the 90s.
Anyway, Matt now lives in a SUPER liberal, very affluent, multiracial community about 40 minutes outside NYC. She is probably trying to get on Tony’s radar to get in on the “trans research” grift so her school can tout their faculty’s diversity while the students don’t actually learn anything besides the gender spectrum and neo-pronouns.

 

[White-Kettle Shufflepunk]

Fast forward about a decade and the happy lesbians turned gay dads are now broken up and Matt is a single dad with an autistic son who suffers from a seizure disorder.. maybe having a kid while injecting testosterone isn’t the best idea?

Wouldn't you have to stop injecting to even concieve and maintain a pregnancy?

 

[Sir Chubbis the Turd]

Wouldn't you have to stop injecting to even concieve and maintain a pregnancy?

I would argue a woman definitely should not be taking testosterone while pregnant or trying to conceive. The Village Voice article only said they followed the medical advice of their doctors while on their pregnancy journey, softly implying she was off testosterone. But Kayden seems to think it’s fine to have her babies floating around her T soaked womb since she was 5 plus months pregnant before she found out she was going to have her first kid. So I guess the jury is still out on this one.

 

[White-Kettle Shufflepunk]

But Kayden seems to think it’s fine to have her babies floating around her T soaked womb since she was 5 plus months pregnant before she found out she was going to have her first kid.

Man, life really does find a way. Perhaps unfortunately.

 

[Geranium]

I would argue a woman definitely should not be taking testosterone while pregnant or trying to conceive. The Village Voice article only said they followed the medical advice of their doctors while on their pregnancy journey, softly implying she was off testosterone.

There’s pretty much no research on pregnancy among women taking exogenous testosterone and fetal health. (But this is largely true of every other aspect of “gender affirming care”.) The closest I found was a review by Moravek et al, but it just says that there’s no research, and particularly that there are no prospective studies into this population (where you plan a study and observe people through it, rather than the common (in the transgender field) observational study where you just report the outcomes of the people you already have on hand).

You’d expect high levels of testosterone to cause virilisation in female fetuses. There’s some suggestion that the female children of women with PCOS are more likely to have PCOS-like symptoms, but there is more to PCOS than elevated testosterone levels.

Ultimately, the human species is sexually dimorphic, and we largely don’t know what happens to each sex when it is pumped with the sex hormones of the opposite sex. Aside from female athletes doping with testosterone, there’s really no sensible reason why you would want to do this and so no great need to do research on it.

 

[White-Kettle Shufflepunk]

Fun fact, in Brave New World, most of the female population was sterilised in vitro via testosterone so they didn't have to worry about accidental pregnancies. And the only side effect was "a slight tendency to grow beards."