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- Dec 12, 2022
While the defense of "yes he is being degenerate with his wife and as long as it helps the marriage and doesn't devolve into cuckery that is fine" is genuine, as we all have different ideas about what helps the marriage and what is cuckery (to a point)... the point is moot, because a consistent message of Nick's has been that shaming is good, bring back shaming and bullying! It doesn't matter the defense. And I happen to agree with that thought.
Your behavior shouldn't only be informed by your personal idea of what is acceptable. That is highly malleable. That is how people rationalize the most insane shit, by being left alone to ever expand their boundaries. You need to also let yourself be informed by outside input. Of course you shouldn't also let yourself be guided solely by outside opinions, but a good healthy mix is important.
The discomfort Nick is feeling is him trying to go beyond his previous considerations of propriety whilst completely disregarding those outside opinions. It's called being shamed. It is acting shameful to be not acknowledging outside opinions and course correcting. At this point you either transition to a different social group that fits your current morality but still provides new boundaries, OR you curb your thottery to fit your current social environment.
Staying in your current group yet only changing your own boundaries is what makes you literally a deviant in that group and that's how you become an outsider, a local lolcow if you will. Being an online personality is where it becomes difficult. It's not like you're seeing your old friends less and less and making new friends. You can't do that with an online audience. The old crowd is still part of your life, only now they are constantly reminded and reminding you of you moving outside of the once agreed upon social boundaries. The shaming will never stop.
If this sounds like a defense, it is not, because he chose this public life and this is what comes with it.
Your behavior shouldn't only be informed by your personal idea of what is acceptable. That is highly malleable. That is how people rationalize the most insane shit, by being left alone to ever expand their boundaries. You need to also let yourself be informed by outside input. Of course you shouldn't also let yourself be guided solely by outside opinions, but a good healthy mix is important.
The discomfort Nick is feeling is him trying to go beyond his previous considerations of propriety whilst completely disregarding those outside opinions. It's called being shamed. It is acting shameful to be not acknowledging outside opinions and course correcting. At this point you either transition to a different social group that fits your current morality but still provides new boundaries, OR you curb your thottery to fit your current social environment.
Staying in your current group yet only changing your own boundaries is what makes you literally a deviant in that group and that's how you become an outsider, a local lolcow if you will. Being an online personality is where it becomes difficult. It's not like you're seeing your old friends less and less and making new friends. You can't do that with an online audience. The old crowd is still part of your life, only now they are constantly reminded and reminding you of you moving outside of the once agreed upon social boundaries. The shaming will never stop.
If this sounds like a defense, it is not, because he chose this public life and this is what comes with it.