I was thinking to myself,
'What would it take to get Boogie to turn around his life and his career?' I concluded that he would need to have someones help because he doesn't have the will power to do it himself.
This person would:
-Have to be around Boogie 24/7
-This person would have to really care about Boogie to get through to him
-They would be able to monitor what and how much he eats
-Keep an eye on his Twitter posts to make sure he doesn't, you know, be Boogie
-Encourage him to make more QUALITY videos
-Can do research for Boogie and make sure he's staying on the right topics that people want to see (video games much?)
-Help keep Boogie more visually ready for a camera with a haircut more than once every 3 months and t-shirts with no dandruff on him
-Go with him to his doctor visits and make sure they're not left in the dark about his health to keep him accountable
-Be a good listener and outlet for Boogie since he doesn't seem to have one besides Twitter
-Have a good enough relationship with Boogie that he listens to them when they try and help him not self destruct
Then it dawned on me, I know the perfect person...
I just can’t imagine any one else in the world (outside of a very highly paid professional) would be in any way motivated enough to help him in that way.
Boogie is incapable of true gratitude.
Just as saying « sorry » absolves all sins, saying « thank you » is all you need to say when someone does something nice, unless Boogie does it for you and then I assume he expects your eternal servitude but as he’s never done anything nice before without expecting compensation, we’ll never really know,
Boogie is incapable of self reflection, so he’ll never learn from his mistakes and alter his behaviour. At best he’ll see you’re upset, know he can’t tantrum his way out and say he’s sorry and he’ll change and then when it’s blown over return to his previous behaviour because if you’re too studio, stubborn and/or narcissistic to know what the problem is in the first place then you can’t actually fix it.
Boogie is incapable of empathy. He will never feel bad for screaming at someone else or accusing them of rape, especially if the end result is him getting what he wants. He truly does have a child’s mentality of “I’m feeling bad, so I’m going to make you feel bad.” Then later on “I feel better so you should feel better too, and if you don’t that’s your fault. I said the magic “sorry” word after all.”
If he’s not angry, or angry at someone/something, then he cannot fathom why someone else would be. He thinks this is being a nice guy, but it’s really more about being self centred and socially retarded.
I guess my final mini rant is that Boogie is also an addict* who is still in love with his addiction.
Yeah he doesn’t want to be 400 lbs and growing, and yeah he doesn’t want the health problems but eating 2 family sized pizzas and drinking 3 litres of sugar water a day still makes him happy and he still wants to do it, so like all addicts at that stage he will never choose “love” or “life” over his addiction.
An addict who isn’t ready to quit will never choose another person over their addiction; they’ll just find new ways to hide or excuse their behaviour. Most people who interact with addicts know this even though it’s pretty hard to accept.
It’s when you hate your addiction, when you don’t enjoy that drink or going out for a smoke or shooting up the black tar heroin feels more like a chore that you can start to recover.
Boogie doesn’t want to recover, he doesn’t want to change. He genuinely loves drinking that disgusting pop by the gallon and given the chance would probably drink even more if possible. He loves sitting down and eating and eating and eating to the point of discomfort. He’s never crying that he HAS to do it, and only pretends he even wants to because it is what people want him to say.
* I don’t really believe in “food addiction” in the way that people become truly addicted to drugs, I do personally believe the people who are “addicted” to food in any way just lack willpower and are too immature to tell themselves and others no. That said there is no denying that “food addicts” display many of the same traits and behaviours of drug/chemical addicts, so it’s very possible I’m wrong and just have a bias.