I dont deserve to be loved and most likely neither does you. Which is why I'm a volcel and you should consider to be one as well.opinion(self.honesttransgender)
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stupidstories to /r/honesttransgender
Mental illness is quite common among trans people. The exact cause of it is not important for this text. Because it does not change our current reality. Which is that mental illness is way more frequent with trans people compared to cis people.
The only kind of person that would prefer to date us over someone that's cis has broken bird syndrome. Or has no actual real experience with dating someone that's trans and just have a fetish and wants to live out some fantasy they have. Any normal and sane person would look at the statistics and just conclude their dating experience would be much easier if they simply exclude us. Even if they are attracted to us.
Some people don’t yet have any experience with how mentally ill we are. They haven’t yet become our victims. Which is why we shouldn’t date and just accept we are incapable of love.
Becoming voluntarily celibate (volcel) is the only ethical choice. I’ve chosen to become volcel for this reason.
If you’re already in a relationship I’m not saying you should dump your partner it's already too late. They have been entrapped and you should stick it out to its bitter end. Maybe you two will be one of the lucky few? This text is meant for those who are alone.
Being mentally ill is a huge hurdle in any relationship, be it to your family, friends and love partner. You will hurt them and they will experience your pain. Its not fair to them that they will be hurt by you whether it's on purpose or not. If you truly love someone you wouldn’t want to hurt them.
If you choose to be volcel you can stop yourself from causing all of that pain. We all have an obligation to minimize the amount of pain that exists in the world. Instead you should work on yourself until you are capable of being loved without hurting others.
And if you are like me, incurable, forever mentally ill until the day you die. You should at least consider if being a volcel.
Not wasting time on talking to men or going on dates means you have more time to spend alone at home being a neet doing more important stuff like video games. Also you can just let go of your physical appearance. Its quite liberating to stop caring about what your flesh prison looks like. You also save a lot of money on beauty products. There is no need to take selfies or look in mirrors. There is also no reason to compare yourself to others because how beautiful you are doesn't matter. At the end of the day beauty doesn't matter if you are a volcel.
Being volcel doesn't have to be forever either. Maybe you one day reach the point where you no longer are mentally ill and are capable of being loved without hurting those around you. I have only been volcel for a year now but I don't think I'll ever reach a point where its ethical for me to not be volcel.