Can you dye your hair unnatural colors without becoming a dangerhair? - Asking for a friend

[Quack_Quack]

When I was dainty and young, I had many coloured hair... Quite short, bleached, then either pink or purple splashed/highlights. This was before the dangerhair phenomenon.

 

[Yaoi Zowie]

I changed my hair to an ashy lavender this week and I'm so happy with the results. TBH I think most people assume I'm progressive because of my style, others tend to act mildly surprised if something tips them off that I'm actually pretty moderate to conservative. But I'd rather surround myself with people that aren't too judmental about politics regardless of where their beliefs stand, so I consider that a plus if anything.

e: Also I think whether or not you look like a psycho progressive with colored hair depends on your style and how you present yourself. In my experience, dyed hair + fit + fashionable reads as "I probably listen to k-pop," dyed hair + fat + Avengers T-shirt reads "I am in an open relationship only my partner is having sex, and my funko pop collection has obliterated my credit score."

 

[Ashley]

I've known some radfems that do the whole blue/purple shtick, but god if it doesn't make me instantly think of woke nutcases. As a result, I think almost instinctively avoid other women with weird bright hair.

 

[one_time_user]

as a radfem with blue/purple hair, you're missing out! But yeah, I avoid too just in case.

 

[Cats]

Sometimes. I dated a girl in high school who dyed her hair all kinds of bold, high contrast colors, I'm tellin you this chick was the sweetest most wonderful person I have ever known. VERY quiet, very smart. adorable. KIND. I haven't seen her in person for many years because I live halfway across the country from her but the last time we caught up online I am almost positive she still had a big section of electric blue going on. I can't be 100% sure because in my head I can only see her with her hair dyed so maybe I am mis-remembering lol. Successful tech business analyst of some kind, not entirely sure exactly what she does though since that is a completely different world from mine. Strangely apolitical despite living in California :]

 

[Susanna]

I don’t know if it qualifies as an unnatural colour or not, but I’ve been silvering mine for several years now. It’s less about being a dangerhair than it is about me liking the style and trying to cover up how badly I’ve been greying (literally since the day I turned twenty), though. I’m admittedly pretty strongly conservative by my country’s standards, but by western standards I’d probably be considered a communist.

 

[NoReturn]

Hair-dyers, I have a question.
If I just leave my hair alone, how will it go grey? I keep looking for examples of "natural greying" and the search results are all "how to achieve a natural look" or "how to make salt and pepper hair" but I want an unbiased example like how men have those male balding charts.

 

[one_time_user]

It may never. I am 51, not a single white or gray root/hair. I have waited my entire life for beautiful gray and white hair and I am denied.

In reality, look at your older family. It's generally genetics.

 

[girlblogging]

The pattern in which gray hair develops

I would like to know why gray hair mainly grows at the middle of my head instead of the sides or at the temple.

www.hairfinder.com

The pattern in which the gray hair develops, therefore, is basically genetically predetermined, although stresses and other factors can influence the effect. So, while stress won't necessarily make someone who isn't predetermined to having gray hair go gray, it is widely believed that it can make those who are likely to develop gray hair do so more quickly.

https://www.medicaljournals.se/acta/content_files/files/pdf/92/2/3521.pdf

An analysis of questionnaire responses revealed that the temporal area was significantly more involved in men than in women whereas the frontal and parietal areas were affected more in women. Interestingly, according to the investigator’s examination results, the temporal and occipital involvements were significantly more common in men than in women

my mum's side get salt and pepper hair in their 50s, but my dad's side get kickass half black half white hair a-la cruela de vil, starting in their 30s.
i'm hoping for the half and half, but so far i only have a few so it's too early to tell.

from the second link i posted, the appearance of first hairs doesn't necessarily correlate with how fast you go gray.
for example, i got my first gray hair at 19. over a decade later, i am still at maybe 10 gray hairs total. most people will remain mostly not-gray until their 50s.

 

[The Southwest Strangla]

Yes, don’t let your political views stop you from enjoying something. I use to have a shit ton of piercings (even ones that people here would call “sjw” (spectrum, industrial, etc) and never cared what people thought of me. If you let this whole “us vs them” mentality control your life, you’ll never have fun.

 

[brocktherock]

Why does this even need to be asked? It’s dye, do what you want, it’s not going to seep into your head to turn you into an activist. If you want to know how to avoid looking like a dangerhair, just keep a decent dress sense and put extra effort in if you like dressing alt because they seem to dress repulsively ugly on purpose with shit makeup.

 

[Scolopendra Dramatica]

Well kiwi's this is it for my danger hair. I've been lairy colours since my early teens in the 2000's, back when you'd get casual death threats for that shit, but last night I saw a troon with my exact shade of blue and I can no longer go on with it. It outlasted 'emo' that's good enough for me.

RIP dangerhair, welcome the age of trad brunette.

F.

 

[Spob]

Are you counting stuff like Asian women dying their black hair shades of red?

If not, then, well, that's basically the definition of dangerhair.

 

[PC LOAD LETTER]

There's only one girl I've known with neon hair who wasn't a dangerhair. Her and her family were all very heavily colorblind and those neon colors were among the only colors they could actually see.

Any other girl I've seen with hair that wild has usually proved themselves to be some flavor of batshit insane, BPD, munchie, or some other attention-seeking illness.

 

[Bowl of Ramen]

Well kiwi's this is it for my danger hair. I've been lairy colours since my early teens in the 2000's, back when you'd get casual death threats for that shit, but last night I saw a troon with my exact shade of blue and I can no longer go on with it. It outlasted 'emo' that's good enough for me.

RIP dangerhair, welcome the age of trad brunette.

F.

Don’t let the troons get you down. What ticks me off about dangerhairs and troons, is that they’re trying to corner the market on fun - makes sense, I guess, since they’re generally all miserable people.

There’s a difference between beautiful birds and poisonous frogs.

 

[Lady Round Buns]

Hair-dyers, I have a question.
If I just leave my hair alone, how will it go grey? I keep looking for examples of "natural greying" and the search results are all "how to achieve a natural look" or "how to make salt and pepper hair" but I want an unbiased example like how men have those male balding charts.

Hairdresser here, and also went prematurely gray, started getting it in my teens. It really depends on where it first started coming in. My gray was concentrated through my front hairline and of course, where I parted it. 20 years later, it's almost entirely gray in the very front where it had first begun to grown in, and in the back and sides is still pretty dark. I've noticed women tend to start around the hairline, men tend to start graying at the temples and it spreads out from there. Do you have a lot of gray? Do you have natural color or has it been artificially colored?

I've got purple/lavender hair and I'm pretty conservative. My eldest claims to be non-binary and refuses to talk to me since apparently, I'm a Nazi. She would count as a danger hair for sure. What's with that type and doing everything they can to look as repulsive as possible btw? Kid just shaved her eyebrows off after bleaching them white for a couple months. Why, I ask you.

Anyway, I agree with previous Kiwis that said that if you've got loud hair but you're fit (or at least active), wear nice clothes, and aren't greasy, you're probably not a danger hair.

 

[Bathtub Munching]

I had super fried crispy white hair that was beyond saving. It needed to go. Buzzed it off during the coof when I knew I could hide for a few weeks. Looked much better, but on my excursion to the supermarket I was immediately Sir’d by a well-meaning pajeet cashier.
There’s no winning in current year. You either end up a dangerhair or looking like the Aidyns they’ve sworn to protect.

 

[NoReturn]

Hairdresser here, and also went prematurely gray, started getting it in my teens. It really depends on where it first started coming in. My gray was concentrated through my front hairline and of course, where I parted it. 20 years later, it's almost entirely gray in the very front where it had first begun to grown in, and in the back and sides is still pretty dark. I've noticed women tend to start around the hairline, men tend to start graying at the temples and it spreads out from there. Do you have a lot of gray? Do you have natural color or has it been artificially colored?

My real goal is to not dye it at all, but I'm not sure what that will end up looking like.
Think of it a really-delayed form of teenage rebellion against the boomers who dyed their hair all through my lifetime. One of my female role-models did the exact opposite and went gray as soon as she started graying so people would get used to it while she was still "young", but I don't want to do that either.

I've got purple/lavender hair and I'm pretty conservative. My eldest claims to be non-binary and refuses to talk to me since apparently, I'm a Nazi. She would count as a danger hair for sure.

Do this:

What's with that type and doing everything they can to look as repulsive as possible btw? Kid just shaved her eyebrows off after bleaching them white for a couple months. Why, I ask you.

I have a personal theory that it's a reaction to what a lot of went through as teenagers and an attempt to "de-sex" your body into something that could be seen as a non-woman to keep yourself safe. That's getting kind of heavy, though, so please enjoy some lunacy instead:

All these women with those weird psuedo-hikmayu-brows look ridiculous.

 

[Lady Round Buns]

*snip*

Hmmm, if you're not wanting to color it at all, but not wanting to just grow it out either, that's a bit of a toughie. Having your ends lightened to match your incoming gray is expensive as hell, too, and time consuming. But you really only have to do it the once, then it's just toning to maintain the gray tone until you've grown out your natural completely.

Bah I had joked with Mr. Round Buns that we should both troon out as each other, and embarrass her out of it. But she's grown and out of the house, refuses to come over and visit with us bigots, so meh. I love her dearly but the stress levels in the house are much lower.

The first little gal's cut wasn't too bad, once we got to the duohawk or whatever the fuck, I wanted to find their hairdressers so I can rip their licenses up. Holy shit, man.

 

[NoReturn]

Hmmm, if you're not wanting to color it at all, but not wanting to just grow it out either, that's a bit of a toughie. Having your ends lightened to match your incoming gray is expensive as hell, too, and time consuming. But you really only have to do it the once, then it's just toning to maintain the gray tone until you've grown out your natural completely.

To be clear: I think I'm ok growing it out naturally. I don't want to keep dying it my normal color, and I don't want to go gray all at once from dye, I just don't know what that would look like.

Bah I had joked with Mr. Round Buns that we should both troon out as each other, and embarrass her out of it. But she's grown and out of the house, refuses to come over and visit with us bigots, so meh. I love her dearly but the stress levels in the house are much lower.

I'm sorry, that sounds terrible.