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u/RolioTolls
3 hours ago
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AITA for telling my husband we cannot afford to take in his son?
I 39f have been married to my husband 41m for 12 years. We have 3 children together, twins ages 11, and a 9 year old. My husband has a son14 with Down syndrome and many heart problems. He needs extra attention which we cannot give. He needs extra financial care, which we do not have. He has insurance but it does not cover it all.
He has been living with his mother, but his mother was just in a car crash. He’s been staying with us for a few days, but his mothers recovery is a long process. It could take up to 8 months- to a year or even longer. She’s had multiple surgeries and her legs were badly damaged, so she’d have to go through physical therapy and may even be placed in a rehab unit after she is released from the hospital. She has asked my husband if we could take care of him for the time being.
My stepsons maternal grandparents have also offered to help out and take him sometimes during the week or on the weekends. The issue is we both work 6 days out of the week. My husband is the only one with a great paying job, so we get by, we’re comfortable, but adding another child onto that, with expensive health issues, puts us out of that zone. Along with getting utilities paid, and food. A few months ago we had a great financial downfall and lost a lot of money, had to even dig into savings, so this was a reasonable concern.
When I brought this up to my husband he was outraged. He said we couldn’t abandon his son, and that I should look for a different job, one to pay better. When I pointed out that we wouldn’t have the time (which he needs alot of attention) my husband pointed out us getting a sitter, which is also something we cannot afford. He won’t take no for an answer and is very upset that I am against it. He said I’m treating his son indifferent, and that I should be supporting him. I love my stepson, but I’m just stating the facts.