Hoo boy. This was the topic that dragged me out of lurking, and I intend to go straight back to lurking once I've thrown this in.
I'm generally pretty open-minded, as long as it's not hurting anyone and no-one's being coerced into anything for their partner's satisfaction, do whatever the fuck you want. But this community seems to be incapable of keeping it to themselves, and I find it pretty sickening as an abuse survivor.
I work with children, usually toddlers, and I tend to talk about work a bit to my friends. When you work with small kids things belonging to them end up in your purse after they've fallen out of the stroller or something, so a few times I've gone to bars or clubs and pulled out binkys, baby wipes, diapers, action figures etc. when looking for my cash purse. It used to be that people assumed I worked with babies, now some of them assume I'm into ageplay and I've gotten some really creepy fuckers trying to convince me they're a 'good daddy.'
Even more creepy, I found out that an ex-friend of mine who had been around me and the kids was co-opting some of my caregiving phrases and techniques to ageplay with her partner, and she may have taken one of the spare binkies from my purse for this purpose. It makes me shudder when I think about it.
Someday I'm going to run into one of these skeevy fuckers in the playground with the kids and I'm calling the cops. Acting out fetishes in front of children is not fucking on.
And now I'm back to lurking. Sorry.