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“Why is No One in the DMs”: Dylan Mulvaney Discussed Dating as a Trans Woman​

They don’t call it “second puberty” for nothing. For those of us who transition as adults, not only do we go through the same physiological changes teenagers do, hormones can alter the way that you experience emotions — and anyone who’s been through the first year of transition can tell you that those emotions often feel distinctly teenage in their intensity.

Dylan Mulvaney is leaning into the concept of the trans do-over as she searches for the person to have her first kiss with after coming out as a trans woman. The TikTok star, who uses she and they pronouns, opened up about the frustrations and pressure of finding that perfect person in a new interview with People.

“I'm getting a little impatient because, especially when you're feeling yourself and even looking at that Grammys picture, I'm like, that's somebody who should not be single,” Mulvaney told the publication. “But then you're like, wait, why is no one in the DMs?”

They added that they hope to find a relationship, and that they feel as though they get “a do-over as far as some of those negative experiences that I have had romantically.”

“And I want to do it right this time,” Mulvaney said.

The star is about to hit her one-year anniversary of coming out as a trans woman, as she’s been documenting on her popular TikTok series, “Days of Girlhood.” She’ll be celebrating that moment with a livestreamed variety show, naturally called “Day 365,” which will be filmed at the iconic Rainbow Room in Manhattan. The event promises “singing, special guests, and a walk down memory lane.” Tickets are only $5 and proceeds benefit the Trevor Project.

Mulvaney told People that they couldn’t “wait for the day that I get to show people that a trans person can be in a healthy, happy relationship.”

“I really want somebody to make me laugh because so much of starting to succeed and have these great things come has been a little serious at times, having to put this businesswoman hat on,” they said. “But I think once I do meet that person that can add some levity, add some lightness back to my life and I know that I can make them laugh in the same way, that is going to be chef's kiss.”

Because of Mulvaney’s visibility, she’s repeatedly been a target of right-wing harassment. After she interviewed President Joe Biden, she was blasted on Twitter by Marjorie Taylor-Greene, Marsha Blackburn, and more. Transphobes have also called for boycotts of brands like Ulta Cosmetics, for featuring videos with Mulvaney. And yet, that hasn’t stopped the star from thriving and dealing with trolls in style. What could be more iconic and fitting for the Old Hollywood-esque TikToker than a celebration of her womanhood at the Rainbow Room? We’ll wait.

 

[Sweeter and Savoury]

The only type of person that Trannies attract are the fetish'ers.

If your this dude, whose pretending to be female, he wants to date a "straight" male to help prove that he's "really a woman".

But you ain't gonna attract any normal straight male cuz normal straight males want pussy. Not some gurl-cock or reversed anal cavity.

And a gay male isn't going to be looking for some twinked out surgical case. Gay men like men. Shocker I know. He might get lucky and find some sissy type gay male who wants a cock in a girl body maybe...but I'm guessing that's a long shot at best.

So yah, this dude falls right into the cracks of human sexuality. Gay men won't date him, straight men won't date him and of course straight and gay women won't be interested. He'll have to find some tranny chaser who will fetishist him or settle for another gay male also twisted by "modern medicine" but we know Mr. Mulvaney won't settle for some 2/10.

But what you do expect Mr. Mulvaney? You want to re-write human sexuality just so you can justify your mental illness....well you wouldn't be the first.

 

[TowinKarz]

Yeah, I can hardly imagine. Honestly, this is just incel logic but given a progressive glowup. You are not entitled to sex, you do not deserve sex, you do not have a right to sex. Being a tranny doesn't fix that.

It's funny how the very same social activists who spent the late 90's/early 00's telling everyone that sexual identity is set in stone, determined by what you as a person know it is, you're just "born that way" and that you owe your genitals to no one did a complete 180 as soon as the "T" was added to LGBQ and now sexual identity is a spectrum, you as a person are fluid across it, whether you admit it or not, you can be attracted to anyone you just have to try harder, and you owe the lonely troons sex since they can't get it "normally' and you'll just have to lie back and pretend that is/isn't a penis, and if you can't learn to love it? Then you're a bigot.

 

[ZeCommissar]

Lol the only reason you look "passable" and "good" in some of those grammy pictures is because you smothered on a pile of makeup on your face. Ugly dudes and chicks can look absolutely amazing with the right makeup style and troons are usually no exception. You can already tell its a man if you look closely enough regardless, but if just given a quick passing look your brain probably wouldn't pick anything up. However when you see the tiktok videos on dylan without the makeup you immediately tell it's a man hands down by just glancing.

You will never be a real woman. You have no womb, you have no eggs, you have no ovaries. You are a homosexual man twisted by drugs and surgery into a crude mockery of natures perfection.

 

[Dysnomia]

“I'm getting a little impatient because, especially when you're feeling yourself and even looking at that Grammys picture, I'm like, that's somebody who should not be single,”

Ego much?

There's nothing feminine about you. You look like some rat faced freak in a dress. You will never be a woman. The only people that will ever have sex with you are other freaks.

 

[Alligator Alcatraz]

Zero hips like actual woman. Dude has massive shoulders and a super long neck. Just creepy. I long for the old days where these freaks were publicly bullied and beaten.

 

[Mariposa2.0 LTE]

I'm like, that's somebody who should not be single

Right, not even the gay man on the red carpet was feeling him. He'd have better lick getting passed around by anonymous men in Afghanistan.

“a do-over as far as some of those negative experiences that I have had romantically.”

So, is getting fucked on Grindr by anonymous old dudes really romantic?

Dylan's actual problem is that he genuinely believes he's entitled to Jake Gyllenhaal or one of the Hemsworth brothers when he doesn't even deserve a man whose face was burned off during a car accident.
You know he wants a hot, attractive straight man no questions asked.

 

[Tasty Tatty]

Maybe nobody wants to date you because your existence is confusing as fuck?

I don't know one single normal gay man who would date a woman-looking faggot who calls himself a "girl". If they wanted that, then they would date a real one and gay men are famous for dating women, right?

And if they wanted anything remotely feminine, they'd go for a twink, not some 30-something dude who dresses like a diva. He's got a surgery to look more feminine, what homosexual man wants that? No one. And no heterosexual man would either.



This is his real face. All surgeries of the world won't change the fact this is an ugly creep who thinks he's a little girl.

 

[Jack Awful]

It's really cathartic watching delusion collide with reality.

 

[mlanguishi]

You know he wants a hot, attractive straight man no questions asked.

To be honest, that's kinda what any real woman is, no matter their league. A lot of below 5 straight dudes think they're owed models too. I just find it so much easier to have a realistic outlook and stay in your lane. Known too many guys that are miserable from batting out of league. Lots of women do as well, especially as they age. Just part of human nature.

 

[Mariposa2.0 LTE]

To be honest, that's kinda what any real woman is, no matter their league. A lot of below 5 straight dudes think they're owed models too. I just find it so much easier to have a realistic outlook and stay in your lane. Known too many guys that are miserable from batting out of league. Lots of women do as well, especially as they age. Just part of human nature.

The difference is most men would bang an ugly broad instead of fucking old troony Joe.

 

[mlanguishi]

The difference is most men would bang an ugly broad instead of fucking old troony Joe.

Well that goes without saying. I was general commenting on checking egos would be better in most cases. This guy's case in the story, there's basically no level for him to go down to.

 

[Kiwisee]

What Dylan clearly doesn’t get is that no one is entitled to have a date just on the basis of being trans. Even if you manage to guilt trip some lesbian into a relationship with you, it’s not going to last long nor be healthy in any capacity because it’s based all around pity, which eventually morphs into resentment.

It also should go without saying that if you were a 6/10 prior to transitioning, that you’ll become a 3/10 afterwards. Why? Because once you troon out medically, you’ll have nothing to offer sexually even to the fetishists because there’s no longer going to be any sort of sex drive on your end. At the end of the day, the fetishists want to fuck a man in drag; they don’t want to fuck a gaping wound that does nothing but cause pain to the other person (and if they do… they’re likely a potential serial killer who wants to add you to their literal body count, as they’re likely to get off on causing the maximum pain possible).

But even if you don’t medically transition, and you’re trying to hook up with a woman, you’re still limited. Even the most polite woman can sense desperation from a mile away, and a desperate male usually is a red flag to most of us that something is terribly wrong with him if he’s never had a single dating partner by the time he’s in his 20s. Desperation also signals weakness, which most women aren’t attracted to (those that are tend to be the type whom you don’t want to be in a fucking relationship with because she’s the most likely to be a bunny boiler).

The best option would be to go date a trans man, or another trans woman, but Troons don’t want to deal with each other outside of social media sites like Twitter.

Actually, I think articles like these serve as a great cautionary tale as to why you don’t troon out; if you already had dating issues before trooning out, they’ll get 10xs worse afterwards and no amount of bitching about it will work. It doesn’t matter how many times you scream “transphobic” when rejected; people don’t want to date mentally unstable freaks unless they’re an easy 8-10/10. Which Troons clearly aren’t.

 

[Throng of Titans]

What Dylan clearly doesn’t get is that no one is entitled to have a date just on the basis of being trans. Even if you manage to guilt trip some lesbian into a relationship with you, it’s not going to last long nor be healthy in any capacity because it’s based all around pity, which eventually morphs into resentment.

It also should go without saying that if you were a 6/10 prior to transitioning, that you’ll become a 3/10 afterwards. Why? Because once you troon out medically, you’ll have nothing to offer sexually even to the fetishists because there’s no longer going to be any sort of sex drive on your end. At the end of the day, the fetishists want to fuck a man in drag; they don’t want to fuck a gaping wound that does nothing but cause pain to the other person (and if they do… they’re likely a potential serial killer who wants to add you to their literal body count, as they’re likely to get off on causing the maximum pain possible).

But even if you don’t medically transition, and you’re trying to hook up with a woman, you’re still limited. Even the most polite woman can sense desperation from a mile away, and a desperate male usually is a red flag to most of us that something is terribly wrong with him if he’s never had a single dating partner by the time he’s in his 20s. Desperation also signals weakness, which most women aren’t attracted to (those that are tend to be the type whom you don’t want to be in a fucking relationship with because she’s the most likely to be a bunny boiler).

The best option would be to go date a trans man, or another trans woman, but Troons don’t want to deal with each other outside of social media sites like Twitter.

Actually, I think articles like these serve as a great cautionary tale as to why you don’t troon out; if you already had dating issues before trooning out, they’ll get 10xs worse afterwards and no amount of bitching about it will work. It doesn’t matter how many times you scream “transphobic” when rejected; people don’t want to date mentally unstable freaks unless they’re an easy 8-10/10. Which Troons clearly aren’t.

The deep irony is that their own propaganda arguably worked against them.

They lie to each other continuously about how much great sex they have and how they're so much hotter than real women, and that people are lining up to suck their eternally flaccid girlcock.

This makes incels buy into the "become the girlfriend" meme, and troon out, only to find that nobody wants their same old self but after lopping off body parts and trying to turn into a mockery of the opposite gender.

 

[Standardized Profile]

Someone who cuts his dick off and calls himself "she" is crazy.

Someone who cuts his dick off and calls himself "they" is crazy and a horrible gender trender progressive.

At least the guy who wants people to call him a woman can commit to the bit.

 

[MadDisaster]

I don't know why, but he is the troon I have the strongest, most visceral reaction to. Lots of trannies disgust me, but everything about this guy makes my skin crawl. Maybe it's how incredibly fake he is, and that specifically gay male contempt for women - he doesn't want women sexually, so they are completely worthless npcs. Even pretending to be one, he still thinks he's better than actual women.

I don't think he has a fetish - I think he really is doing this for clout and because he thinks he'll land some A+ grade straight guy with his act.

 

[Inebriated Raccoon]

“I'm getting a little impatient because, especially when you're feeling yourself and even looking at that Grammys picture, I'm like, that's somebody who should not be single,” Mulvaney told the publication. “But then you're like, wait, why is no one in the DMs?”

Prior to his transition, Dylan was actually a conventionally attractive,feminine gay man who probably received a lot of attention from other gay men.


Now, Dylan, who is probably used to having a relatively easy time with dating is now discovering that his dating pool has greatly diminished. He probably wants to date straight men for validation, which will not happen. Most gay/bi men find his current clownish look unattractive. He is now in a strange limbo were he will only receive attention from fetishist.

Dylan will most likely remain single for a long time unless he dates another troon.

 

[LaxerBRO]

The sad truth is that if he remained a twink, he could have been fucked nearly every night.

Now, with the monstrosity that it is, nobody wants to fuck it.

 

[jertzog]

He should simply employ prostitutes like any other overpaid man who can't get laid by normal means. Some may not even turn him down.

 

[Zyklon Ben's Poison Pen]

Prior to his transition, Dylan was actually a conventionally attractive,feminine gay man who probably received a lot of attention from other gay men.
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Now, Dylan, who is probably used to having a relatively easy time with dating is now discovering that his dating pool has greatly diminished. He probably wants to date straight men for validation, which will not happen. Most gay/bi men find his current clownish look unattractive. He is now in a strange limbo were he will only receive attention from fetishist.

Dylan will most likely remain single for a long time unless he dates another troon.

 

[The Dude]

Maybe because only a small number of disturbed, degenerate perverts are actually interested in having a relationship with tranny? Hetero guys want a woman who was born with a vagina, not some dude who dresses like a woman but either still has their dude parts, or who had their man meat surgically mangled to look like a "Barbie pocket". Gay guys want another guy who was born a guy and still dresses like a guy. Same goes for straight women and lesbos. No one wants to enter into a relationship with someone who is delusional and being dishonest about who they really are. No one owes you love and affection just because you think you're special and deserve it.