Trainwreck Alex Dacy / Alex Dzimtowicz / Wheelchair Rapunzel - 50% wholesome disability influencer, 50% that cash me outside girl

Jane Eyre said:
It's 5am by Alex and she's up already and about to soon head to the hospital. Paige tagged in the videos below will be the one giving all the updates and she's also baby A's godmother. Alex had to prepare for the delivery by taking a shower with an antiseptic soap and it's the first time in 3 weeks she's had a proper shower. Up until now she's only had bed baths because it's been too uncomfortable for her to be lifted up.
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Good to see her with her girlfriends around her and a real support network. Forget that man for now Alex. Paige is a childhood friend I believe so hopefully her influence can help bring Alex back to whoever she was before she was a drunk suicidal mess or a "bad girl onlyfans star".
Which when you think about it for all her disability positivity maybe some of Alex's dysfunctional coping behaviours are because actually she isn't delighted to be born like this and it isn't great and fun and sexy. Maybe she doesn't actually look In the mirror and think damn I'm so hot. Maybe she is just suppressing a whole lot of real radical acceptance of her situation and body with toxic positivity.

Maybe just never acknowledging the difficult thoughts like "I'm a burden on my family and the state on some level as i will always need 24 hour care " and "I will miss out on many things in life because of my medical condition" or " maybe i shouldn't have kids" or "I have a bizarre physical appearance and that limits my choice of partners and leaves me vulnerable to exploitation" and refusing to feel those feelings and make peace with that reality isn't actually healthy.
 
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Jane Eyre said:
Up until now she's only had bed baths because it's been too uncomfortable for her to be lifted up.
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That's so... sad.
I know in previous posts she talked about when she was in hospital recently it was her first time in a sling lifter. I know equipment is expensive etc etc, but if it means she can be properly bathed that seems important.
 
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SpiceyHuman said:
Why the fuck is she always nekked fr it's just so unsettling.
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She needs help to dress and unless a garment is specifically designed to fit her distorted body shape, it's going to fit badly. She's also a narc and narcs will do anything to get attention, so she probably uses the above to get around in as little as possible.
 
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Well today is the day. I definitely hope the delivery goes as well and smoothly as it can and Ari is in good shape. I fear for the future but today, today I hope goes as smoothly as possible.

It’s being cranky letting me reply, but the above poster saying Noah was like the FAS kid trying but abusing pharmaceuticals seems to ring true for me. He grosses me out (ironic considering where we are) and annoys the hell out of me, but if he stays away from Alex herself and stays clean for a year, maybe there is hope for him somehow in Ari’s life. Ideally neither should have the kid as a primary custodial parent, in my mind, but I could see him successfully being involved if he truly gets and stays clean. Give me rainbows, but it’s a hope. Alex is just a narc bitch, but maybe there’s some hope for Noah eventually. Maybe.
 
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clockwomble said:
Well today is the day. I definitely hope the delivery goes as well and smoothly as it can and Ari is in good shape. I fear for the future but today, today I hope goes as smoothly as possible.

It’s being cranky letting me reply, but the above poster saying Noah was like the FAS kid trying but abusing pharmaceuticals seems to ring true for me. He grosses me out (ironic considering where we are) and annoys the hell out of me, but if he stays away from Alex herself and stays clean for a year, maybe there is hope for him somehow in Ari’s life. Ideally neither should have the kid as a primary custodial parent, in my mind, but I could see him successfully being involved if he truly gets and stays clean. Give me rainbows, but it’s a hope. Alex is just a narc bitch, but maybe there’s some hope for Noah eventually. Maybe.
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Yeah, nah, I have to disagree. Narcs and BPDs are both horrible parents. As someone noted further up thread, a BPD runs a high risk of physically harming small children, because they just can't handle them from a sensory perspective. Normal parents have ended up shaking their infants when the crying just wouldn't stop. A BPD is a set mousetrap at the best of times. It takes very, very little to set them off. They do get better as they get older, but not until 30 at least. If a BPD spends any time around very small children, they really need constant supervision and intensive support. On top of all this Noah has a revolving door installed at his local drug rehab centre; a constantly relapsing BPD drug addict should never have access to kids.

Maybe in ten years time he'll have calmed down enough to have a relatively normal relationship with his older child, but for now, he needs to be kept far, far away.
 
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glass_houses said:
Yeah, nah, I have to disagree. Narcs and BDPs are both horrible parents. As someone noted further up thread, a BPD runs a high risk of physically harming small children, because they just can't handle them from a sensory perspective. Normal parents have ended up shaking their infants when the crying just wouldn't stop. A BPD is a set mousetrap at the best of times. It takes very, very little to set them off. They do get better as they get older, but not until 30 at least. If a BPD spends any time around very small children, they really need constant supervision and intensive support. On top of all this Noah has a revolving door installed at his local drug rehab centre; a constantly relapsing BPD drug addict should never have access to kids.

Maybe in ten years time he'll have calmed down enough to have a relatively normal relationship with his older child, but for now, he needs to be kept far, far away.
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I definitely see the point and my take was/is definitely overly optimistic. It’s unlikely but I do wish it was addiction mimicking BPD and has a shot of becoming better if he can stay clean. But the kid probably isn’t that lucky for dad to “just” be an addict who could get clean and improve. I don’t see him, or either of them, ever being safe or good custodial parents. I could (eventually) see him, IF he can stay clean, being able to have some involvement that’s a positive, but I definitely know it’s a long shot. Call it early morning optimism with a baby coming. I fully recognize it’s highly unlikely. Hope Ari gets an escape to some other custodial situation and doesn’t pay for having the bad luck being born to these two.
 
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Yeah. Because you being here in spirit helps me in delivery.
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Oh please. Drop the act.
 
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SpiceyHuman said:
Why the fuck is she always nekked fr it's just so unsettling.
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Her shoulder and arm muscles are very underdeveloped and contracted and just sort of slung on top of her regular-sized torso. She's mentioned before her range of motion is much better without a shirt on.

She's having a girl, so it isn't as big a deal for her to zoom around topless in the house. God looks out for children and fools.
 
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LonesomeDud said:
I think I probably have one of the most liberal views about Noah, but I would love to see him in Ari's life after a year of sobriety. It takes your brain about a year to reset its dopamine regulation after addiction, and he's a young healthy guy. Get some physical job where he's outside and great shape; get him in church volunteering in a shelter/soup kitchen/food bank as a hobby. If he does it for a year and puts his heart into it, I think he could be a guy worth being around, but I don't think rehab alone will do that for him. All rehab will do is give him a tight leash until he should theoretically be able to get a grip on himself so he can start to do the work. Rehab doesn't fix people; it just lets people get to a point where they can be fixed, IMHO.
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Church volunteering work as a hobby? Really? I'm pretty sure his other hobbies of doing Only Fans, cursing out redditors, and doing really bad dancing & rapping on camera do not leave time for that.

Honestly. I see your rainbow wishes, and some people manage to change their lives wholesale, but - aside from his own aimlessness and lack of judgment - being involved with someone like Alex* is not compatible with the seriousness, work, introspection, vision, and commitment that would require.

*I mean personality- and values-wise. She is, enjoys, and has made a living out of being trashy, crass, and of poor judgment. By all accounts she is a heavy drinker and likes to party. Even if he got serious about life and put in a ton of work, became a "changed man," he won't stay sober around that...as we see right now. He said straight up that he went off the rails with the move. I don't see Alex bowing her head and leading family prayers before dinner, doing actual, serious disability awareness work or whatever she purports to do, and being a steady co-captain of a rewarding and high-quality family ship. If she wanted that she'd already have done that.

Neither of them really, truly internalizes the consequences of their choices, even as significant as they have lately become. They both always have someone to step in and do the sobering (literally and figuratively) things for them. They're dilettantes at best, and that's before you get to personal psychologies and substance use.
 
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