Something like that. It's not particularly original - midlife crises.
Here's what I'm NOT BUYING in this Kiwi narrative... The Kayla Saga.
I'm sorry, call me parochial but none of this adds up. Farmers, put on your Mossad/CIA hats.
There is NOTHING in this woman's history that points to HER degeneracy, writ large. (Who cares about tats and piercings? That's silly.)
She was a highly private person until recently and has since retrenched. Born/raised in MN, kicks Nick's ass to go to church, clearly keeps the calendar for 6 people + the nanny, got some kind of certification in education to allow her to homeschool (at least the younger ones before the coop rings in), fostered for a while (still undecided if they did that for money), 3 miscarriages + 5 kids and her uterus was literally gutted by multiple high-risk pregnancies.
Oh, and historical streams in which she's clearly more conservative than Nick re public education and SJW's risks to kids. Meanwhile, does anyone actually think Nick participates in his kids' bible camp and the men's conference willingly? He HATES it. That's 100% Kayla.
The narrative that she wanted the sex swing, Hedonism II, swinging, and the St. Andrew's BDSM cross simply does not work.
[Also, the dummies on Locals have invented a narrative that I accused him of cheating. I didn't. I said he had 5 lost hours in Houston - by his own admission - after being ruffled. Nick being SHOCKED at the speculation is what I laughed at. Like, duh, Nick, did u really think people wouldn't gossip? Fwiw, I STILL don't buy that story.]
Anyway, to the degree that actual "degeneracy" exists within that marriage, it's from Nick, I'm certain.
You are correct that Kayla is private, but what she has chosen to show is concerning. Here are a few primers to get you started
here (I reference you there twice, apologies if it reopens old wounds) and more recently
here. They are by no means exhaustive, as there is more content out there, like the masseuse story Kayla told.
You don't have to buy any narrative. That said, yours is harder to believe as it requires one to disregard what has already come out, relies on sympathy points for Kayla,
and relies on a list of obligations that are in all likelihood a moral tax for Nick's behavior, hers, or likely
both given what we've seen so far. All those brownie points Kayla racked up could also bring a sense of entitlement like it does for Nick, who claims that he lived his life for others for so long and is therefore entitled to a reward of some description.
In any case, Nick and Kayla share the same big problem that started a lot of this; hypocrisy. The positive points you raised are only more damning of Kayla
and Nick's behavior (which has been going on for who knows how long). I maintain that they are
both at fault for not treating their marriage with respect, and if they don't want us to joke about their marriage, they have to stop treating it like one.
But... the sex toys, crosses, swings.... that's Nick and his porn addiction. Kayla's just a normie with whatever she's done. I stand by that until proven wrong.
I doubt that the infamous "field kit" isn't for Kayla. She would need something to do in the Vegas hotel room while Nick was out until morning getting his body written on. I'd wager a field kit for Nick would more closely resemble a mini-bar.
For interested parties: The bit near the end of the clip below (pertaining to Nick's birthday in December) suggests we've only heard
part of what happened. Whatever is happening, from karaoke to an underwear party (both at the same gay bar over a period of days), Kayla appears to be heavily involved:
So we've gone from Nick's birthday being in his office, to the above. How times change, thanks in part to Kayla Rekieta.