Questions for the female autists here - Sneed

I've occasionally wondered if I'm autistic. I once asked my mom if I was and she asked me if I liked gossip. Because I said I did, she said I couldn't be, but this whole website proves that metric of hers wrong.
I'm not the best with social cues and can't always tell how much someone is joking or not, but mostly with strangers. There have also been a couple of times I've only realized in hindsight someone didn't like me and wasn't really a friend.

NoReturn said:
I end up over-talking about topics I'm interested in
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glioblastoma multiforme said:
i used to be very specifically interested in just a few things. now i've discovered that almost everything is interesting just below the surface and honestly think you could get me interested in almost anything if you explained it the right way
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I can talk forever by stringing topics together as a conversation goes on. As a kid, I've been told I would talk too much/too fast.
 
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Cheerlead-in-Chief said:
signs such as speaking and reading at an early age
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this is such bullshit man
every kid with a decent IQ can learn speaking and reading at an early age, often before school and kindergarten if parents engage with it properly.
if anything this is simply a sign of good parenting, psych quacks trying to label kids as defective and mentally ill based on that fucking infuriates me.
 
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DumbDude43 said:
this is such bullshit man
every kid with a decent IQ can learn speaking and reading at an early age, often before school and kindergarten if parents engage with it properly.
if anything this is simply a sign of good parenting, psych quacks trying to label kids as defective and mentally ill based on that fucking infuriates me.
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I agree with you that it's a sign of good parenting as I had that experience. If you want, I can either photograph or list them from the book directly.
 
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Cheerlead-in-Chief said:
I agree with you that it's a sign of good parenting as I had that experience. If you want, I can either photograph or list them from the book directly.
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oh i believe you that books list it as a sign of autism, i just think its fucking bullshit that they do it, and that the people who write these books are retarded
 
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DumbDude43 said:
Some experts believe that most children with hyperlexia, or perhaps even all of them, lie on the autism spectrum.
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Guess I’m autistic too then, I’ve been reading since as early as I can remember.
I was more referring to the speech part though. Is it not the case that the primary motivation behind a childhood autism diagnosis is being slow to various mental milestones, including eye contact and speech? I’ve just never heard of an autist with precocious development, other than things like autistic boys who learn organic chemistry or things like that, where they excel at their special fixation but struggle with other skills.
 
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Cheerlead-in-Chief said:
I bought a book about autism called "Autism in Heels". I had the early signs such as speaking and reading at an early age.
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It's not reading early in itself, but rather what other characteristics/inclinations are significantly present alongside that, I believe [and anyone saying it always means autism is clearly trying to cast a very wide net, for their own benefit, direct or indirect].
snov said:
Guess I’m autistic too then, I’ve been reading since as early as I can remember.
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I just wrote and decided to table as OT some comments about the lay- and seeming professional expansion of "autistic" to a potentially meaningless (or less meaningful, anyway) degree. Might create a thread on it, if it hasn't been done to death - in which case, might do it anyway since that would be the autistic* thing to do. :smug:

*(I'm not autistic by any definition afaik, not that that was on the radar for highly functional people when I was growing up; it was reserved for unfunctional or very compromised people - your rainmen or beautiful mind folks being the mildest versions)
 
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snov said:
I’ve just never heard of an autist with precocious development
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It can definitely happen. Hyperlexia in particular is super weird because parents end up going "Wow my baby girl is so friendly and outgoing" and miss the fact that their toddler may indeed be talking to everyone, but she's missing social cues and lacks an understanding of how conversations are supposed to work. The parents might just brush it off as "Oh she's just a toddler, it's fine" and because the behavior is so unusual for that age group they don't have a good basis for comparison.
 
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DumbDude43 said:
females dont get autism.
males get autism. females get bpd.

also you can't "mask autism" lol
if you are socially aware and capable enough to do that then you are not autistic in the first place
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This part is 100% true. Masking is logically incoherent bullshit and mostly just an excuse for women who are nominally autistic to explain their normality while still claiming their super special status.

In reality, the ratio of 4:1 males to females seems real from my experience. Most women diagnosed with autism in adulthood barely have a single thing wrong with them.

Females can be autistic (I am one and was diagnosed young) but there are studies discussing that it's hard to tell BPD women from "autistic" women and that these BPD women get very angry if they don't get their coveted autism label.

Most women diagnosed in adulthood - with the exception of individuals who have never been functional - are nonsense diagnoses for political reasons, to falsely make the ratio of men and women diagnosed more even.

I also think NPD is often misdiagnosed as autism especially in women, but sometimes in normally-functioning adult men as well.
 
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Friend of Dorothy Parker said:
It's not reading early in itself, but rather what other characteristics/inclinations are significantly present alongside that, I believe [and anyone saying it always means autism is clearly trying to cast a very wide net, for their own benefit, direct or indirect].

I just wrote and decided to table as OT some comments about the lay- and seeming professional expansion of "autistic" to a potentially meaningless (or less meaningful, anyway) degree. Might create a thread on it, if it hasn't been done to death - in which case, might do it anyway since that would be the autistic* thing to do. :smug:

*(I'm not autistic by any definition afaik, not that that was on the radar for highly functional people when I was growing up; it was reserved for unfunctional or very compromised people - your rainmen or beautiful mind folks being the mildest versions)
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I wonder what's the point for (actual) high functioning autism diagnosis. Chris was "high-functioning", and still it's obvious he's super retarded. I think back then if your iq is higher than 80 you can't be autistic, they'll have to check you for Aspergers. But Aspies are also very obviously retarded. What's the point of telling an unsuspected 25 yo they are autistic? Does that just mean mate your social skills are awful that's really weird
 
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snov said:
Do you get fixations, or is that only for male autists? Like how Chris-chan's life has basically revolved around Sonichu ever since his art teacher told him he wasn't allowed to draw Sonic?
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Yes females do get fixations, but they are usually more socially acceptable ones.

Whereas males might like trains, computers or Sonic, females might like soap operas, celebrities, animals, true crime, and fiction like ordinary girls, but it becomes obsessive.

Most autists with comorbid ADHD have fleeting interests that are just as intense but don't last long before moving on to the next obsession.
 
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Male autistic here, been in the medical system as long as I can remember, I'm quite interested in the responses from the other side of the coin. I guess, from my perspective, I would ask how difficult was it making friends early on? People always ended up leaving until I got into high school. Did any of you have similar experiences?
 
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