I just can't fathom not showing up for your married wife, whose children you acknowledge as yours, birth. This is a watershed moment in both of your lives, something you will never get back or experience again. I can't imagine going through it without the husband and father to my child being close by and worried and panicked for you and the babies. That is part of his purpose, at least to make sure his children are born alive to the best of his ability. What the fuck was wrong with him to reject this most basic biological premise? Most males do not abandon the females they impregnate because it makes no biological sense. Human females CANNOT raise infants without wide social support and that includes the father. Otherwise, they will just throw the kid in a dumpster if they are so despondent. That is always forgotten in the discussion of a man needing to spread his seed. Why is that? Because without him around, most women would feel they had no choice to abandon or murder their and his children as they had no support or ability to care for the child on their own. God was correct in saying men and women should only have one partner and this is part of why.