‘How are you supposed to?’: Single woman shares gym gripe - Woman realises the pain of asking out the other sex in the modern feminist world

Source https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/r...e/news-story/66240493e81c2072d10a7c86c227045f

A young woman in New Zealand has aired her grievances over “picking up” fellow singles at the gym, after she struggled to approach an attractive man during a workout.
Hannah Rose shared in a TikTok video that she “refuses to use dating apps”, and is instead hoping to meet a partner the old-fashioned way.

Given the culture of modern love, however, with its penchant for eggplant emojis and unsolicited d*ck pics, Hannah said she doesn’t know how to go about it.

“How are you supposed to pick people up? I don’t understand it,” she said in the clip.


“I know I’m not supposed to be looking at guys in the gym. I know I’m not supposed to be picking up people in the gym. But it’s the only place I go where there’s men at – so give me a break.”

Her latter comments seemingly addressed the trend of women filming and then calling out men for their “creepy” behaviour while exercising.




Hannah was prompted to make her video after working out near a “really attractive” man for almost an hour, saying she tried to make eye contact with him.

“The whole time I was working out I was like, ‘This guy’s really attractive, I want to talk to him’. How the f**k do you do that, though?” she said.

“I felt like I kept looking over but he never looked at me. Never caught on once looking at me, so I couldn’t accidentally catch eyes with him.”

The stranger was “very focused” on his workout and she was hesitant to “annoy" or interrupt him, Hannah added.

“How am I supposed to talk to this guy? And I just didn’t,” she said.

“He picked up his things and left, then I left, and what the f**k, honestly, how do you do this? He’s probably got a wife. What am I supposed to say? ‘I like your gym shorts’?”

In the comments, dozens of the video’s 107,2000 viewers shared their sympathies.

Others were quick to offer tips on how Hannah could spark up a conversation.

“Old person here. Pre-Tinder, a swipe was direct eye contact, not once but twice. If you got that you had permission to approach. #simplertimes,” one wrote.

One man pointed out that while the man Hannah had her eyes on might’ve been interested, he also might’ve been reluctant to approach her and appear “creepy”.

“I get it, which is why I’m not expecting men to do anything – I’m trying to get better at approaching them myself,” Hannah responded.

“I’m new to dating, it’s not always safe to initiate conversations with men and I’m not using apps so let me work up to it! All of my relationships have been initiated by me, a woman. We have to deal with it too, this is not exclusive to men.

“Having to figure out whether someone’s taken or what we’re going to say to them, women have to do that, too. It’s daunting to everybody. This is everyday life as a single woman as well.”
 
Gyms should be a segregated space; granted I know female only gyms exist, and male only gyms try to exist, but women eventually force their way in via crying segregation/oppression. My views on this have only strengthened within the past few years, where women will treat gyms as some sort of fucking pageant and then feign duress when guys get caught looking.

Just get the fuck out. Someone open a gym with pastel colors for all the attention whores to work out in.
Men could never hope to match the productivity and righteousness of a female spa-

I call these threads "neckbeard versus legbeard" threads.
it's not even a fight
it's just tearing someone down who can't accept they might be wrong until you get bored and move on until the process repeats itself
 
And stop knowingly violating the rules of a male space then expecting sympathy or respect.
No such thing as a male space. There are female spaces and female spaces not currently being occupied a chosen one.

Holy shit, did MGTOW go full gay or some shit? She just wants to ask a guy out without feeling awkward about it. Where else is she supposed to go to find someone with a similar interest to her? Tinder? Because pretty much everybody agrees that they hate it at this point.
There's church, or a bar to meet someone.

#metoo has been a net detriment to women in both their social lives and work lives
Every movement women have pushed in the name of their rights has made things worse for them.
 
There's church, or a bar to meet someone.
What if i want to meet people when im not particularly religious or im not looking to be drunk? Even better, what if i want to meet someone through a shared activity and it just so happens that i did? Its one thing for work to remain separate but hobbies and sport are made for people to connect with each other. If that specific guy or someone like you needs to take it seriously like that then sure, go for it but she shouldnt be penalized for trying..
 
What if i want to meet people when im not particularly religious or im not looking to be drunk? Even better, what if i want to meet someone through a shared activity and it just so happens that i did? Its one thing for work to remain separate but hobbies and sport are made for people to connect with each other. If that specific guy or someone like you needs to take it seriously like that then sure, go for it but she shouldnt be penalized for trying..
Gym is neither a hobby nor a sport. It's intense physical conditioning for the purpose of improving oneself. I know this even though I don't even bother to. You don't approach someone working out unless you intend to actually help. This is like talking to someone while they're struggling to pick up a box: you're being a distraction.
 
Gym is neither a hobby nor a sport. It's intense physical conditioning for the purpose of improving oneself. I know this even though I don't even bother to. You don't approach someone working out unless you intend to actually help. This is like talking to someone while they're struggling to pick up a box: you're being a distraction.

Calm the fuck down, Conan. Why are you even claiming knowledge on something you don't do? For reference, you don't get 'intense physical conditioning' by doing exactly one repetition and then leaving as your ambient muscle swells physical reality around you. Even in your analogy, lifting boxes leaves time to sit for awhile to rehydate, wait for space to clear to lift the next box, or wait your turn for Sisyphus to call it a day so you can move their boxes instead.
 
Calm the fuck down, Conan. Why are you even claiming knowledge on something you don't do? For reference, you don't get 'intense physical conditioning' by doing exactly one repetition and then leaving as your ambient muscle swells physical reality around you. Even in your analogy, lifting boxes leaves time to sit for awhile to rehydate, wait for space to clear to lift the next box, or wait your turn for Sisyphus to call it a day so you can move their boxes instead.
read post again
 
It's simple. You go up to a guy and say:

"Hi I'm *Insert Thot Name*. I think the "Me Too" thing went way too far. Cancelling people for no reason is retarded. Men deserve to have their own spaces. Are you single? If so, coffee?"
No, that sounds way too sus. If some chick came up to me at the gym with that line, I'd assume that I'm being stitched up.

Gyms are a fucking dumb place to try and pick up anyways. The overwhelming majority of people who go to a gym are there to focus on themselves, and aren't paying attention to anyone else around them. The last thing they need is some random getting in their way.

The only exception I can think of would be a homo gym that's a front for a bathhouse.
 
One thing in common ≠ "so much in common".
Hes being sarcastic. And regardless, its not a bad idea to try to talk to sonebody who might be interested even if you just have that hobby in common. You dont even really need that much to get a conversation going in order to feel each other out and get along somehow.
 
Hes being sarcastic. And regardless, its not a bad idea to try to talk to sonebody who might be interested even if you just have that hobby in common. You dont even really need that much to get a conversation going in order to feel each other out and get along somehow.
I mean, the woman bitching about it could've tried something like this during his downtime, but she just complained about the underlying pressure everyone feels when thinking about approaching. The early posts about this being a consequence of women being accusatory are off the mark. It's just classic female inability to risk anything in favor of something. If she did and he said no, this article would just be about how men are rejecting women and how it's not okay. Really, she just wanted him to approach her and blamed it not happening on the false accusations.
 
It's simple. You go up to a guy and say:

"Hi I'm *Insert Thot Name*. I think the "Me Too" thing went way too far. Cancelling people for no reason is retarded. Men deserve to have their own spaces. Are you single? If so, coffee?"

That easy.

If any Woman showed interest in me in conversation alarm sirens would start going off in my head and I'd be GTFO of there. From my experience I only attract crazies.
 
I mean, the woman bitching about it could've tried something like this during his downtime, but she just complained about the underlying pressure everyone feels when thinking about approaching. The early posts about this being a consequence of women being accusatory are off the mark. It's just classic female inability to risk anything in favor of something. If she did and he said no, this article would just be about how men are rejecting women and how it's not okay. Really, she just wanted him to approach her and blamed it not happening on the false accusations.
Yeah, i can agree that she shouldnt run blaming things and trying to go the pick me route. I just dont think of it as a bad idea to talk to other people if youre both there to srlf improve.
*self
 
NZ girl just needs to wunk at the guy

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I didn't expect her to be religious or be looking for anything other than causal sex. You know you don't have to get drunk in a bar right?
As someone with extensive experience being the designated driver; if you go to a bar, and don't drink, you're not gonna be meeting any women, because going to a bar and not drinking gets you the potential rapist vibe. There is no way to get around the "So you don't mind if I drink, but you won't drink?" and any variations. You may as well just mace yourself in the face to save yourself time and effort.
 
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