When I was in those fun teenage years(probably 16) one of my breasts did this interesting thing where 1/3 of it went very swollen and hard. I went to a gyno who agreed that it wasn't normal and sent me off to get an ultrasound and confirm it wasn't anything to be concerned about and maybe its just a weird hormone thing going on. Being an anxious teenage girl I assumed it was cancer and prepared for a double mastectomy and losing all of my hair.
The lady technicians were great, they recognized they had a scared teenage girl on the table and talked through everything they did, asking to touch me, telling me they're switching sides of the breast, just really excellent. A bit overkill but again, scared teenage girl. Well, after they get their photos I suppose it's the doctors turn to double check?
This man waltzes into the room, rips the towel off my chest inadvertently throwing it over my face and grabs a titty. I am a minor, I have a damp lubed up towel covering half my face, I don't even know this man's name, and he's fondling my breasts chatting with the techs (who, in retrospect, were uncomfortable). He probably did introduce himself at some point after talking with the techs, when he finally acknowledged me but I was too surprised to notice.
After his examination he tosses the towel back down to my chest, completely missing both breasts and starts talking to me like I'm his golf buddy "you've got some cysts" shrug "they're small" shrug " ya know, I've got 60 year old women who come in with cysts the size of golf balls like my breasts hurt I mean, yeah" shrug and scoff "they probably get painful around your period, I mean, try birth control? Okay?" And he's gone.
Please know dear ladykiwis, I have never been shy about my body, especially in a medical setting, but well over a decade later I have never had another doctor make me feel so uncomfortable and vulnerable about my body. I've had doctors make me uncomfortable or totally put me off but never made me feel so just....the weirdest vulnerability I've ever felt.
Like, I'm not being hyper sensative, right? That was weird and inappropriate? Shitty bedside manner for sure but like... it was fucking weird, right??