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- Jan 31, 2020
There is a certain balance to be struck with the whole nature vs. Nurture argument.Yes. If he is mentally unwell in a way that they cannot control, he's putting himself and others at risk, and he's destroying himself financially, then he should be institutionalized. Their current approach feels like the old Simpsons meme of "we've tried nothing at all and we're all out of ideas!" They're more comfortable being a victim of him. They're not getting him the help he needs. It comes full circle to their handling of their child.
Sucks that their little dud in the oven came out rotten, but now they have to either develop the capability to restrict his behaviors or ship him off to someone else who can. It's absolutely a tough decision; that doesn't mean they make the easier, wrong choice until it bites them in the ass then play victim. This is textbook enabling.
Others are right that he came out flawed. Something in his brain is wired incorrectly, causing him to thrill seek in ways that are highly self destructive.
That he is as old as he is, and he grew up acting out like this in a visible manner, and his parents elected to coddle him and house him without severe limitations for addicts of this nature, speaks to a parenting style that is highly irresponsible.
This is a difficult time in human history to claim you don't know what to do. Nearly every person owns a little magic brick that has instant access to the collective sum of human knowledge, they could have typed in gambling addiction help, or abusive outbursts help, or flat out called 911 while their son was in one of his states actively demolishing the house and that would have gotten the ball rolling on him getting the help he desperately needs.
They're choosing the Hell they live in. Don't pity them.